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  • It's Always The Married Ones....

    Yesterday was entertaining.

    Three married women were hanging out at The Bar, and we got to talking, as often happens. After I got done with my shift, I joined them on the other side of the bar, and we talked more. And it was hilarious.

    The Birthday Girl (50) was convinced that I should pursue a relationship with my coworker, that we were soulmates. This despite the fact that said coworker and I view each other more as brother and sister. Yes, she's gorgeous (really, really gorgeous), but I have known her long enough to know that she is completely nutso, and not always in a good way, and even if I were so inclined to pursue said coworker, my chances with her, absence the influence of drugs or alcohol, would be somewhere around zero.

    So the four of us went out barhopping, and at one point, met up with my friend Little Red. The Birthday Girl and the Cute Blonde (38, looked 25) had trouble comprehending why I was not pursuing anything with her, despite both of our insistence that we are just fine being just friends. Apparently such an arrangement didn't really make sense to them.

    Now this whole time, I found Cute Blonde to be, well, cute. And I even told her at one point that, had she not been happily married (she got married in high school and is still married to the guy), I would have been hitting on her, as she was so completely my type. (Short, blonde, cute, sweet.) But she was, so I didn't. That did not stop Birthday Girl and Daisy Duke from trying to get the two of us to hook up, despite the fact that Cute Blonde didn't want any part of cheating on her husband, and I didn't want to mess with a successful marriage. Apparently Birthday Girl and Daisy Duke, both married, had no problem making out with various guys, and wanted Cute Blonde to join in the fun.

    All in all, an interesting evening. And near the end of the evening, a bit of a revelation. Cute Blonde and I left the others for a while, and were enjoying a drink and some conversation on the balcony of a Duval STreet bar, and talking about the ridiculousness of the whole thing and her friends. And she told me that, quite frankly, I was definitely a "temptation" to her, and from the way she said it, I think the first one in her life. I was utterly flattered.

    Who knew? Apparently I'm tempting. Now if only I could figure out how to be such to the single girls!

    "The Customer Is Always Right...But The Bartender Decides Who Is
    Still A Customer."


  • #2
    I must've missed something. Did you and Nurse Betty split up?

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    • #3
      Yes and no.

      The strain of the long distance relationship greater on me than I expected, and we were really getting on each other's nerves. We still care for each other a great deal, but we have put kind of a pause on our relationship until the time that I move back to Arizona. It is not fair to her or to me to do otherwise. When I finally told her that, she took it much better than I expected. It sucks, but the situation is what it is, and it is not changing any time soon.

      "The Customer Is Always Right...But The Bartender Decides Who Is
      Still A Customer."

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      • #4
        Sorry to hear that, Jester. I've done the long distance thing twice, so I know how much it sucks.

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        • #5
          Quoth strawbabies View Post
          Sorry to hear that, Jester. I've done the long distance thing twice, so I know how much it sucks.
          Indeed it sucks. It doesn't work. They always find a better match closer to them.

          On the other hand, I have been able to get a few girls to at least be the internet girlfriend for me. Though its very likely their old men on the other side, its still something. Though it never gets past that. When I try to get more, its instant ignore on me, and they go off with another guy on the net.
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          • #6
            I'm in a LDR, but we're only 8 hours apart, and we've been friends for years (we've only been a couple for 3 months). We've been able to see each other once a month, so it hasn't been too bad.
            "Even arms dealers need groceries." ~ Ziva David, NCIS

            Tony: "Everyone's counting on you, just do what you do best."
            Abby: "Dance?" ~ NCIS

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            • #7
              I should point out that the split, such as it is, was initiated by me, not Nurse Betty. It is better for everyone. And she took it much better than I expected.

              Quoth Plaidman View Post
              They always find a better match closer to them.
              Not always.

              Quoth AdminAssistant View Post
              I'm in a LDR, but we're only 8 hours apart, and we've been friends for years (we've only been a couple for 3 months). We've been able to see each other once a month, so it hasn't been too bad.
              Nurse Betty is in Phoenix. I am in Key West. That is a 2600 mile distance. We have not seen each other physically since the July 4th weekend. That is 9 months. Totally different LDR than what you have going on. Just saying.

              "The Customer Is Always Right...But The Bartender Decides Who Is
              Still A Customer."

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              • #8
                Quoth Jester View Post
                Nurse Betty is in Phoenix. I am in Key West. That is a 2600 mile distance. We have not seen each other physically since the July 4th weekend. That is 9 months. Totally different LDR than what you have going on. Just saying.
                I know. Just pointing out that, sometimes, under some circumstances, LDR's can work. Of course, hopefully by June it won't be a LDR anymore. He's moving up here to be with me, and also to get some distance from his family and have the experience of being in a new place...starting over.
                "Even arms dealers need groceries." ~ Ziva David, NCIS

                Tony: "Everyone's counting on you, just do what you do best."
                Abby: "Dance?" ~ NCIS

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                • #9
                  LDRs suck...when The Boy and i first started out, he was in iraq and i in the US. now, he's about ready to go off to iraq again for another 8 or 9 months. someone needs to invent something like a transporter...
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                  • #10
                    My wife and I have been married 4 years now. We started out as a LDR almost a decade ago. We had about 2000 miles between us and a border(US/Canada). I can truly understand how hard it is, as we would talk on the phone almost every night, as well as travel back and forth to see each other. It is an almost unbearable strain I would not wish on anyone, but truth be told, if you find that person that you see yourself with for the long haul, it' worth it.

                    It took us about 3 years of immigration work to allow her into the country from Canada, and the first year of our marriage we were not even together. I think to take the break that you did Jester was very considerate of you, and I hope that if she is the one, that it will lead to a good reconciliation as well as a possible future with her my man. Take it light.

                    And to clarify, I am from New Orleans, La and she is from Lethbridge Alberta, CA
                    Last edited by mircea12345; 04-06-2010, 07:17 PM.

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                    • #11
                      This is going to sound harsh to some of you. My apologies.

                      But this thread was about the insanity of the night out with the three married chicks, and the fact that one of them thought I was a "major temptation."

                      "But Jester, what about that relationship of yours with Nurse Betty?"

                      Honestly? I think it would have been over sooner had I been living back in Phoenix this whole time. I adore the girl, but she is nuts, and not in a good way, not to mention possessive, clingy, and neurotic.

                      Look, I like the girl. I even love her. But a future with her seems unlikely.

                      I appreciate the positive feedback on LDRs. I do. But I honestly think that the distance part of the relationship was only a fractional part of what doomed it.

                      Am I terrible? Perhaps. But that is the truth.

                      Some of you may be thinking, "Dude, you're heartless." Why? Because I've moved on in my head from Nurse Betty? Trust me, I'm not that heartless. Sure, I AM trying to move on. That doesn't mean I am not thinking about her a lot.

                      Fact is, I still think about The Brit (my ex-fiance) every single day. And with her, it's been almost seven years!

                      "The Customer Is Always Right...But The Bartender Decides Who Is
                      Still A Customer."

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                      • #12
                        Yeah. I still think of my ex every other day. But meh. It wasn't a real relationship. I move on. Try to face day. Only thing to do.
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