Yeah. It was supposed to be a routine cleaning. He asked if I'd ever considered, then tried to schedule me for non-insured cosmetic treatment that, due to a rare genetic disorder, would cause significant permanent damage to my body. I realize it's a rare disorder, but he knows I have it, and he KNOWS that certain things, especially ANY non-essential dental or medical work, are off-limits because of the high risk involved. And even if he didn't know, I said no! I'm a freaking grown-up! Discussion closed!
But, apparently it would do such good things for my looks, that we got into a ten-minute argument over it... like, one of those circular arguments where I say "No, that's inappropriate for my medical condition," and he says "You need it, to improve your appearance," and then we repeat. I realize that a lot of dentists are in the business of cosmetic services these days, and that a lot of people want that, and that's great, I love choices and freedom and stuff. But I didn't ask, I said I wasn't interested, that should have been the end of it. I shouldn't have had to remind him that it was medically unacceptable -- the first three or four "no" answers should have been enough! And I certainly shouldn't have had to explain that it was unacceptable, more than once, especially when he answered with "I know, but..."! I should have just summed up my opinion in a certain hand gesture, and then walked out.
Ended up blowing 3 hours of my daytime minutes talking with my sister and my life coach. I'm just finally starting to get rid of the "ugly, worthless" messages I got from parents growing up, and I really wasn't up to coping with that. So... anybody have any suggestions on how to find a dentist who is more interested in oral health, than in doing me permanent harm for the sake of vanity?
But, apparently it would do such good things for my looks, that we got into a ten-minute argument over it... like, one of those circular arguments where I say "No, that's inappropriate for my medical condition," and he says "You need it, to improve your appearance," and then we repeat. I realize that a lot of dentists are in the business of cosmetic services these days, and that a lot of people want that, and that's great, I love choices and freedom and stuff. But I didn't ask, I said I wasn't interested, that should have been the end of it. I shouldn't have had to remind him that it was medically unacceptable -- the first three or four "no" answers should have been enough! And I certainly shouldn't have had to explain that it was unacceptable, more than once, especially when he answered with "I know, but..."! I should have just summed up my opinion in a certain hand gesture, and then walked out.
Ended up blowing 3 hours of my daytime minutes talking with my sister and my life coach. I'm just finally starting to get rid of the "ugly, worthless" messages I got from parents growing up, and I really wasn't up to coping with that. So... anybody have any suggestions on how to find a dentist who is more interested in oral health, than in doing me permanent harm for the sake of vanity?
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