My mom announced to my dad tonight that she's leaving him. I came home to him sleeping in his chair.
It's been a long time coming. She told him a couple of years ago that she wanted a divorce, and he talked her out of it. She cheated on him with a coworker, and he found out eventually (long story behind that...I actually found out first accidentally). They went through marital counseling, and it seemed to work for a while. For the past year or so, however, things have just been getting increasingly worse. My dad doesn't do anything to help my mom around the house. He complains about the dumbest things (for example, he won't give dinner suggestions, but then he'll complain when we choose something and he doesn't want it). He's very short-temepered and gets pissed at the smallest things. He's emotionally distant, only really has one friend, and just sits around the house doing nothing. I also feel like he sees me as just a monetary drain sometimes. I was finally offered a full-time job last week after having my Bachelor's for 2 years, and one of the first things he said about it was that he couldn't wait for me to start so that he could start charging me rent.
I'm not sure what's going to happen now. Obviously my mom is moving out, and I think I might go with her for the time being (until I'm financially stable enough to get my own place). I do love my dad, don't get me wrong. He can be a really great guy, and he prefers chick flicks more than my mom does, and I do enjoy watching them with him. But that's almost all we do when we're together. Sit and watch TV. It's frustrating. And then he gets frustrated when my mom and I go out with friends and leave him alone.
Guess it's time to start packing...
It's been a long time coming. She told him a couple of years ago that she wanted a divorce, and he talked her out of it. She cheated on him with a coworker, and he found out eventually (long story behind that...I actually found out first accidentally). They went through marital counseling, and it seemed to work for a while. For the past year or so, however, things have just been getting increasingly worse. My dad doesn't do anything to help my mom around the house. He complains about the dumbest things (for example, he won't give dinner suggestions, but then he'll complain when we choose something and he doesn't want it). He's very short-temepered and gets pissed at the smallest things. He's emotionally distant, only really has one friend, and just sits around the house doing nothing. I also feel like he sees me as just a monetary drain sometimes. I was finally offered a full-time job last week after having my Bachelor's for 2 years, and one of the first things he said about it was that he couldn't wait for me to start so that he could start charging me rent.
I'm not sure what's going to happen now. Obviously my mom is moving out, and I think I might go with her for the time being (until I'm financially stable enough to get my own place). I do love my dad, don't get me wrong. He can be a really great guy, and he prefers chick flicks more than my mom does, and I do enjoy watching them with him. But that's almost all we do when we're together. Sit and watch TV. It's frustrating. And then he gets frustrated when my mom and I go out with friends and leave him alone.
Guess it's time to start packing...
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