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  • #1

    Single on Valentine's Day

    I can't be the only CSer who's expecting to spend Valentine's Day alone while surrounded both by friends and coworkers who are spending time with their SOs and having to watch and listen to commercials aimed at couples. I never used to care much for Valentine's, but this will be the first one since my ex left. (Plus there's the extra significance to the day, as those who've followed my divorce thread on fratching will know.)

    But the reason I started this thread: What do those of you who are single on Valentine's Day do? Do you do anything special for yourself? Do you treat it just like any other day?

    I think I'm going to spend the day watching romcoms, drinking margaritas, and eating chips and salsa.
    "I look at the stars. It's a clear night and the Milky Way seems so near. That's where I'll be going soon. "We are all star stuff." I suddenly remember Delenn's line from Joe's script. Not a bad prospect. I am not afraid. In the meantime, let me close my eyes and sense the beauty around me. And take that breath under the dark sky full of stars. Breathe in. Breathe out. That's all."
    -Mira Furlan
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    I'm not single anymore, but when I was single, my single friends and I used to arrange a Single's Night to go out on V-Day. Usually, it was a movie, bowling, etc. in a large and rather raucous group just having a good time.

    Just because you're single, it doesn't mean you can't go out and have a lot of fun on Valentine's Day.

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    • #3
      I've been single 10 years now; I usually treat it as an excuse to spend a day reading science fiction and eating ice cream. Mostly leave the TV off; that way I don't have to watch the *#$!ing "you're-nothing-if-you-don't-have-someone-attached-to-your-hip-on-Valentine's-day" commercials.

      But maybe this year I'll see about organizing a group night-out . . .

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      • #4
        Also not single, but this year I am ditching the husband and kids and going to Wizard World with my best friend. When I really was single I just ignored it, it was like any other day.

        We never do much for Valentine's Day even now. No cards, no overpriced flowers, no candy. We watch the grossest, weirdest, cheesiest movie we can find on Netflix. But that's pretty much like every other weekend.

        It feels like such a manufactured holiday, even more than the others. But unlike Christmas presents, what people give each other for Valentine's Day seems silly and trivial- flowers that will die, candy, little pink stuffed animals. Not our thing at all.
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        • #5
          Single guy here, and I plan on playing poker at the VFW after work. Now just hoping it isn't a bitter cold Minnesota February day.
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          • #6
            When I was still together with my girlfriend (we broke up several years ago, but remain friends), Valentine's Day was actually our anniversary as well.

            Now I'm unattached, it's just another day to me. I don't even pay attention to the lovey-dovey stuff.
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            • #7
              Ghel, after my ex left, I was dreading Valentine's Day as everything about it seemed to be telling me that (as Morgana said) I was nothing if I wasn't part of a couple.

              How I tackled it was to spend the evening doing something that I knew I wouldn't have been able to do (or at least, wouldn't have been allowed to enjoy) if the ex had still been around - I got myself the most indulgent Chinese takeaway I could, and sat watching 'The Song Remains the Same' and singing along as much as I wanted.

              Is there anything that the ex wouldn't have wanted to do, that you can now indulge yourself with?
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              • #8
                When my wife passed away, the first year was hard for me, because she was really big into celebrated it, since then it's really just become another date on the calendar. so I don't pay much attention to it anymore.
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                • #9
                  Quoth Marmalady View Post
                  Is there anything that the ex wouldn't have wanted to do, that you can now indulge yourself with?
                  Hmmm.... I don't know if I can find fresh asparagus this time of year, but that's the only food I can think of that I like and my ex doesn't. As for other stuff, I've mostly been doing all those things - watching the tv shows and movies I like, playing the video games that he said gave him motion sickness, and listening to the music and podcasts that used to irritate him.
                  "I look at the stars. It's a clear night and the Milky Way seems so near. That's where I'll be going soon. "We are all star stuff." I suddenly remember Delenn's line from Joe's script. Not a bad prospect. I am not afraid. In the meantime, let me close my eyes and sense the beauty around me. And take that breath under the dark sky full of stars. Breathe in. Breathe out. That's all."
                  -Mira Furlan

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                  • #10
                    I'm for the group thing, alot of my friends are working poor, and I've been single every valentines day in my life (I'll be 33 in March).

                    past few years I've made myself a nice quiet dinner at home, watched the most none romantic movie possible, and avoided the crowds.

                    I don't much care for busy places, and valentines day brings out the worst in people.

                    This year a friend couple and a recently single friend are joining me at my house for the quiet night (probably won't be very quiet with the 4 of us together >.>), as a potluck style dinner.... I'm doing the grilled steaks, and homemade yeast bread, and the self saucing chocolate pudding cake.
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                    • #11
                      It is actually our wedding anniversary [#24 this year] but for more of the first 15 years I spent alone that with him home [thanks Navy] so I used to make myself a nice dinner.

                      This year we are actually planning to go out - there is a new restaurant at the casino [ Mohegan Sun] we haven't gone to yet, so we are going there. So far, unless anything changes we are going to split the irish nachos and ale n onion soup, both probably have the fish and chips, and bread pudding for dessert.
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                      • #12
                        I'm not a huge fan of what I call "forced appreciation" holidays, and Valentine's day falls into that category. This is the first year in a very long time that I'm actually attached, but I gave bf a stern warning that it was to be ignored.

                        That said, the things I used to do in the past are similar to what others have said: Go out with friends, stay home and do something obnoxious that you couldn't have done with the ex around (is there a particular thing you like doing that involves a lot of noise or fumes? It's the perfect time to break out the strong smelling stuff your ex complained about!).

                        I didn't care much about the holiday to begin with, so it didn't really bother me. Sorry I can't be more help.
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                        • #13
                          I buy myself flowers, because I like flowers. We have some in the house right now, so that's set.

                          My bestie has a serious boyfriend, but neither of them like Valentine's day, so I have proclaimed that she is mine that day, not his, neener neener.

                          This year on Friday we're going to the bakery where one of my instructors works, which is basically the best ever. We usually go there about twice a year and stuff ourselves with pastry and good espresso, hang out for a few hours, and then I get a bunch of stuff to take home. It's a good half hour drive and I usually spend 30-40 on baked goods, but I don't care. It's only twice a year.

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                          • #14
                            Even when I was still dating I didn't do anything to celebrate Valentine's Day - it has a bad associations for me thanks to it being the day my mother married her second husband. I'm not going to get any details but it ruined the day for me.

                            I usually spend the day keeping busy and hanging out at home with my equally single son. The next day I hit up the nearest store and buy as many things of discounted cinnamon hearts as I can. Other than that the day means little to me.

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                            • #15
                              It's never been a thing for me, I've never had anyone to celebrate it with/for. It was, however, the birthday of my sister's most-loved cat (actually she picked that day because it would be easy to remember) so every year she bakes a heart-shaped cake in memory of Diddle.

                              If the weather is decent we might go out for coffee or something, just because we haven't been able to for a while - too damn much snow lying around. If it's lousy out, we'll stay home and eat cake
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