The Singles Awareness Day (Feb. 14th) 2009 Thread!!!

[Dave1982]

I know, I know. It was intended more as a rhetorical question rather than a call for help. I just needed to get it off my chest after reading through this thread. And I DO plan on doing something about it, once the other brushfires I'm dealing with in my life right now are dealt with. They're mainly work related, though not things I want to discuss just now on the forum.

[AdminAssistant]

Well, I talked to BoyThing and figured out what was going on. There was a screw-up at work, just as he was leaving on Friday night. Saturday he got a snide e-mail from one of the higher ups (copied to coworkers and his boss) that the engineering team should have spent all Friday night working on this problem and blah blah blah. BoyThing got really pissed off and spent all weekend trying to fix it himself. Just as I was talking to him, the final report came in, so he had to e-mail a bunch of people and print off stuff and he still sounded all stressed out and busy.

I pointed out how I'd been really pissed and upset all last night and I could practically hear the light bulb switch on. "oh, I should've told you why" Ummm...ya think? Now, we do need to have a long talk at some point in the near future, but I'm feeling a little better now.

[Jester]

It was intended more as a rhetorical question rather than a call for help. I just needed to get it off my chest after reading through this thread.

Oh, I understand. Still felt it needed to be said, just as you felt it needed off your chest.

And I DO plan on doing something about it, once the other brushfires I'm dealing with in my life right now are dealt with.

Now THAT is good to hear!

[Ree]

Still felt it needed to be said, just as you felt it needed off your chest.

Some people just post to vent. Not everyone is actually looking for advice, no matter how well-intentioned it is.

[Jester]

I know, Ree. But sometimes I just can't help myself.

[Samaliel]

This February the 14th has been my first actual Valentine's Day in 26 years.

It may have been the happiest day of my life.

And I didn't have to buy anything.

[Dips]

it was damned hard this year, but instead of getting gloomy about the "haves" celebrating, making the "have nots" feel bad I just took time to reflect and remember what I had.

That was really nicely said, Ree.

Holidays, even silly ones, are very hard for me too. But, like you, I can't bring myself to ruin them for others.

I think it makes me feel a little less sad to see other people happy. Even if I can't share in it, it's good that joy exists somewhere. Trying to destroy it just seems wrong somehow.

[Giggle Goose]

I made Valentine's for all my friends (single or not), and they were very well-received. V Day is also my cousin's birthday, so we went out to a dive bar, played pool, ate greasy bar food, and had a genuinely good-ass time. It SHOULD be about celebrating love, romantic or not.

I did get a very beautiful emerald claddagh ring that morning though, because I really like the meaning behind it; and my friend told my guy about it behind my back so it was a total surprise. That was probably the most meaningful gift I've gotten EVER, so I just had to mention it, I'm sorry, please don't hurt me

Then, as I was trying to convince her that her bed is more comfy for sleeping than the couch, she was saying she didn't want to go to bed because it's too big and feels empty. I, joking around, said well, I'll take the other half since her bed is more comfy than mine, but then said I was just kidding. Then she said, "No, I just want to cuddle with *current interest*" Hurt pretty badly.

OUCH. I winced a bit reading that. I'm sorry, Greenday; I know how hard it is to get over someone when you still care for them a lot as a friend. You don't want to cut that person completely out of your life, but at the same time you just need some time away...oy.

Sounds hard to believe, but you're young and you WILL find someone when you least expect it. If it can happen to me it can happen to anyone (and I mean that). I could very well get my heart broken again, but I'm not going to ruin what I have by being paranoid and untrusting. Just deal with these things as they come; you'll amaze yourself with your resilience.

[Jester]

I can't bring myself to ruin them for others.

I think it makes me feel a little less sad to see other people happy. Even if I can't share in it, it's good that joy exists somewhere. Trying to destroy it just seems wrong somehow.

I would like to point out (if I haven't already) that many of us who are anti-Valentine's Day are not, in fact, going out of our way to ruin the holiday for others, or to destroy it. We can protest something, and be against something, without wanting it destroyed.

I like what this holiday is supposed to be about. I do not like however, what it has become. I won't go out of my way to make someone enjoying the day miserable or mess with their good time. Hell, I won't even do it if it is convenient and not out of my way. I am a romantic, as I have said before, and it is based on my beliefs about what romance and love are and what this holiday is supposed to mean that I am opposed to what this holiday IS.

[Dips]

I would like to point out (if I haven't already) that many of us who are anti-Valentine's Day are not, in fact, going out of our way to ruin the holiday for others, or to destroy it.

I certainly didn't aim it at you or anyone else, specifically. I apologize if I didn't make that clear.

My post was in support of Ree, who has an amazing outlook considering what she's been through. And it was in the hopes that those of us here on CS, who are in pain, for whatever reason, will realize that the happiness of other people is a good thing and not a threat. Envy and bitterness can really harm the soul.

Don't get me wrong, there's nothing wrong with poking lighthearted fun at a silly marketing opportunity holiday. As a matter of fact the concept of "Singles Awareness Day" makes a lot of sense. After all, is there any day of the year where one is more acutely AWARE of being single?

[crazylegs]

After all, is there any day of the year where one is more acutely AWARE of being single?

Well, apart from this thread I didn't see/hear anything else that reminded me that it was Valentines Day and didn't feel any different to the norm. Last year on the other hand I was acutly aware of my single status.

[Dips]

I'm not single, but we didn't do anything special either.

No, wait. I did my taxes on Valentines Day.

[Jester]

I certainly didn't aim it at you or anyone else, specifically.

My post was in support of Ree, who has an amazing outlook considering what she's been through.

Oh, I knew that. Hell, my comments were in response to Ree's post. Don't get me wrong, I absolutely agree with what you said about her outlook. I just disagreed somewhat with what she said in that post, and that was what I was responding to. It wasn't anything you said.

...the happiness of other people is a good thing and not a threat. Envy and bitterness can really harm the soul.

Emphatically agreed on all points. I have never objected to what the holiday is supposed to be about, just how it is presented within society and by the media and advertisers.

[JuniorMintz]

*headdesk*

[Jester]

Point taken, JM. Shutting up now.