May I whine? (girly body image issues inside!)

[sms001]

One of the most hilarious things I ever saw human beings do involved "looks" issues. In this case, two women who had been best friends since first grade. 'K' had beautiful bouncy tight blond curls, 'L' long straight black hair. Many people would kill to have either head of their hair. I'd go over in the early morning to pick 'K' up and occasionally catch them getting ready. So I would sit and watch in amazement as 'K' applied gels and irons and other such to her hair to straighten it while in the room next to her 'L' would spend the same amount of time with curlers and mousse and a hair dryer curling hers!

Obviously, perception is the key. We base how attractive we are not just on the reactions of those around us (probably damn favorable for you) or on an objective ideal, or our culture's ideal, but a mix of all of these. So probably the best thing to do when insecurities pop up is to roll with it. "Damn, Rubens would kill to have me draped over a settee right now." or "I'll be beating the butt men off with a stick this week."

Once you trick the over analyzing part of your brain into believing that you are comfortable with the way you perceive yourself both ways (too skinny butt and too big butt, even though it's the same butt) it should slack off.

Then you can focus on your knobby knees.

[HorrorFrogPrincess]

If you're like me, you have the bootie and a rack to match.

Which suits me fine, because I always joke that having both keeps me from tipping me over. Cause you know, "Weebles wobble but they don't fall down!"

I've got the booty, but the rack does NOT match. >>

Of course, my friends and several interested males have mentioned how nice the tush is.

I think the key is to not focus on your percieved imperfections, but to focus on your best parts. And listen to other's compliments. Because of all those previously mentioned people, I've come to be damn smug about my large butt.

The Ass that Launched a Thousand Ships.

[GingerBiscuit]

Well, I hate to admit this, but I'm feeling pretty good today. I did some nude modelling for a photographer a few months ago and saw the finished, proffessional shots a few days ago.

DAMN.

FINE.

So I'm feeling hot today....

I'm trying to only listen to the sensible bit, but I always used to be the super skinny girl because I was a late developer, and I'm finding it hard to adjust to this shape.

[katie kaboom]

I've got the booty, but the rack does NOT match. >>

Well i've got the rack, but i don't have any junk in my trunk.

[HorrorFrogPrincess]

Well i've got the rack, but i don't have any junk in my trunk.

Ah, well. Just means we're each someone's fetish. ^^

... well, it motivates ME.

[RecoveringKinkoid]

Ah, well. Just means we're each someone's fetish. ^^

... well, it motivates ME.

Quoted for truth.

[Gerrinson]

I did some nude modelling for a photographer a few months ago and saw the finished, proffessional shots a few days ago.

DAMN.

FINE

In that case, might I say TTIWWP.

[Der Cute]

And see, Ginger, I'm heavier than I've ever been.
My old Fat Pants are now Too Small!

But my boyfriend - who admits to liking cute women who are medium skinny - not bones but not BIG GIRLS - he thinks I'm hot. Because I have a brain, intelligence, humor, and all that plus my boobs and buns help. He likes me for me. He loves my curves.
(and he's the one whining that he's got a pooch. Buster, I can see that pooch and raise it by 3.)

I think I'm decent looking. But - look at pictures taken of you when you're happy - you glow. And glowing is half the battle.

Cutenoob

[draggar]

First, a response to your initial post. I'll tel you what I tell my wife when she gets like this:

Shut up and quit sulking. If you think badly about yourself then you're going to only feel bad about it.

Other than your avatar pic, I don't know what you look like but from what I've seen here you seem to be intelligent, level headed, and on the right track. This will stick with you for your entire life. Good looks go. the best looking people now WILL AGE and chances are they will not age well (without spending a lot of money).

So what if you're curvy, yes, many guys like that. Sorry, but if I'm with someone I can't stand bones stabbing me. You don't look like a toothpick - so what. People like that are very unhealthy and usually end up being sick. You have your health - be glad of that.

Well, I hate to admit this, but I'm feeling pretty good today. I did some nude modelling for a photographer a few months ago and saw the finished, proffessional shots a few days ago.

DAMN.

FINE.

So I'm feeling hot today....

I'm trying to only listen to the sensible bit, but I always used to be the super skinny girl because I was a late developer, and I'm finding it hard to adjust to this shape.

In that case, might I say TTIWWP.

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I fully agree.

BTW - my wife complains that she doesn't like her rear end, she thinks it's too big. I like it because it's the right size to grab onto.

[JoitheArtist]

Check out this site about body image and women. I love this site.

http://www.about-face.org/aau/mission.shtml

oooh, link! *clicky* You're right, that's a great site!

Honestly, I'm a big fan of Dove because of their Campaign for Real Beauty. www.dove.com, there should be a tab at the top of the page. They've got some great vids (particularly the one Onslaught: http://www.dove.us/#/features/videos...ntid=8354359]/ and Evolution, though Amy is great as well)

[GingerBiscuit]

First, a response to your initial post. I'll tel you what I tell my wife when she gets like this:

Shut up and quit sulking. If you think badly about yourself then you're going to only feel bad about it.

Other than your avatar pic, I don't know what you look like but from what I've seen here you seem to be intelligent, level headed, and on the right track. This will stick with you for your entire life. Good looks go. the best looking people now WILL AGE and chances are they will not age well (without spending a lot of money).

So what if you're curvy, yes, many guys like that. Sorry, but if I'm with someone I can't stand bones stabbing me. You don't look like a toothpick - so what. People like that are very unhealthy and usually end up being sick. You have your health - be glad of that.






I fully agree.

BTW - my wife complains that she doesn't like her rear end, she thinks it's too big. I like it because it's the right size to grab onto.

They are really, really, REALLY likely to get me banned. I'm not sure anyone else would appreciate nude bondage photos, even if they are really well p0hotographed and look fantastic.

[sms001]

I did some nude modelling for a

See? (See previous post, Ruben et al.)

The brain is tricksey. Tell it to go away and come back next week when it's not so judgmental.

[Jester]

Obviously, perception is the key.

Absofreakinglutely. I have naturally curly hair. And when I was a kid, old women used to always come up and RAVE about how awesome my curls were.

Naturally, I hated them. "The curls or the women?" Yes.

It wasn't until I was in my early thirties that I really started getting comfortable with the whole curly-haired thing. The amusing thing about that is that I have never been one of those people that keeps their hair really short, and for years in my early twenties, I actually had hair down my back. Made for an interesting combination, let me tell you.

I've got the booty, but the rack does NOT match.

I almost got a t-shirt for a friend of mine while on vacation that would work just as well for you. On the front it read "Who needs big boobs?" And on the back, with an arrow pointing down, it read "...when you've got an ass like THIS?"

I did some nude modelling for a photographer a few months ago and saw the finished, proffessional shots a few days ago.

I have to chime in with "This thread is usless without pictures!"

They are really, really, REALLY likely to get me banned. I'm not sure anyone else would appreciate nude bondage photos, even if they are really well p0hotographed and look fantastic.

Naturally, being the helpful sort I am, I have a solution to this dilemma for you, if you are interested in showing said pics to interested parties.

1. Post a link only. Those who want to see can go see, those who don't, won't.
2. PM said pics to said interested parties upon request. And if we're pulling numbers for that, I'd like to claim 1, please.

[draggar]

I almost got a t-shirt for a friend of mine while on vacation that would work just as well for you. On the front it read "Who needs big boobs?" And on the back, with an arrow pointing down, it read "...when you've got an ass like THIS?"

Where was it? I should get that for my wife.

[Nurian]

1. Post a link only. Those who want to see can go see, those who don't, won't.

And make certain it's labeled with the infamous (NSFW).