This is long and packed with pitiful drama. So, I have four lovely sisters and we usually get along quite well. One sister is older than me by five years and one is younger than me by fourteen months. The younger one is pregnant.
Okay, so the older one was asked by her boyfriend of four years to get married. This happened one month ago. Two months ago, the younger, pregnant one was asked by her boyfriend of eight months to marry.
Pregnant sister (PS) is mad at my older sister (OS) for wanting to get married in the same year that she wants to get married. PS wants to get married first. OS says PS needs to worry/think about her baby first and not waste money that she DOES NOT have on a wedding. OS is much better off finacially and doesn't have any children nor is she expecting.
To make matters worse, our mother is supporting OS much more than PS, because mother hates hates hates PS's boyfriend (the father of the child.) OS's boyfriend is practically part of the family now.
Personally, I want my pregnant sister to wait. She needs to wait until she is firmly on her feet and completely sure that this relationship is going to work before she spends money on a wedding. OS has lived with her boyfriend for four years. PS has not lived with her boyfriend yet.
I don't know why PS is trying to rush to do everything "first." She already rubbed it in my older sister's face that she's the first to have children and she'll be the first to get married. PS is also mad that mother is probably going to give money to OS to help with the wedding, but doesn't want to give PS money because she thinks the marriage should wait.
Both sisters are always trying to get things out of me and asking me what the other is planning. They have both told me their elaborate plans for their marriages and so forth, but I am not saying a word to them about the other's plans.
Oh yeah, did I mention that OS's engagement was a complete surprise for OS and PS bought the damn ring that her boyfriend used to propose to her and arranged where it was going to happen?
So, OS wants to marry in October 2010 and PS wants to marry in March 2010. They are at odds because they know that mother's family won't be able to come down here twice in one year for a wedding. I think, also, that OS is hurt that PS is trying to do everything before she can...well, like I told OS--PS will have another first--a divorce!
I'm just at my wits end and tired of the bickering. What would y'all do?
Okay, so the older one was asked by her boyfriend of four years to get married. This happened one month ago. Two months ago, the younger, pregnant one was asked by her boyfriend of eight months to marry.
Pregnant sister (PS) is mad at my older sister (OS) for wanting to get married in the same year that she wants to get married. PS wants to get married first. OS says PS needs to worry/think about her baby first and not waste money that she DOES NOT have on a wedding. OS is much better off finacially and doesn't have any children nor is she expecting.
To make matters worse, our mother is supporting OS much more than PS, because mother hates hates hates PS's boyfriend (the father of the child.) OS's boyfriend is practically part of the family now.
Personally, I want my pregnant sister to wait. She needs to wait until she is firmly on her feet and completely sure that this relationship is going to work before she spends money on a wedding. OS has lived with her boyfriend for four years. PS has not lived with her boyfriend yet.
I don't know why PS is trying to rush to do everything "first." She already rubbed it in my older sister's face that she's the first to have children and she'll be the first to get married. PS is also mad that mother is probably going to give money to OS to help with the wedding, but doesn't want to give PS money because she thinks the marriage should wait.
Both sisters are always trying to get things out of me and asking me what the other is planning. They have both told me their elaborate plans for their marriages and so forth, but I am not saying a word to them about the other's plans.
Oh yeah, did I mention that OS's engagement was a complete surprise for OS and PS bought the damn ring that her boyfriend used to propose to her and arranged where it was going to happen?
So, OS wants to marry in October 2010 and PS wants to marry in March 2010. They are at odds because they know that mother's family won't be able to come down here twice in one year for a wedding. I think, also, that OS is hurt that PS is trying to do everything before she can...well, like I told OS--PS will have another first--a divorce!
I'm just at my wits end and tired of the bickering. What would y'all do?
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