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    So I've been told I've been missed a little round these parts.

    Here I am with a update and probably a need for hugs.

    Life isn't sucking as much as it did but then I'm still missing my husband every bit as much as the day I lost him. The tears still come on odd occasions but the pain is a little less intense then when it first happened. I'm keeping in touch with his family and they are doing ok. I wrote a post in my livejournal if any one is interested. Here Sorry it's set up for automatic over 18s thingy because some of my other entries are more... well yes *cough* So be warned if you poke about at the other couple of entries that Slash is ahead.

    So my hubby had a death in service. It amounts to a fair bit as well as small pension which is nice. So the past few weeks I've been doing the grown up thing of clearing debts, buying needed things and generally making sure I'm secure. In that vein I ended up at the bank today talking to my advisers about investing some of the large some into some accounts of various types (ISAs, Term Deposits and some other stuff) so I don't have all my eggs in one baskets so to speak. So at least I should be in reasonable shape for the next few years money wise.

    Work has been the usual chaos that it tends to be with added fun of being told to keep my hours properly and not swipe in early or late out. Oh that'll happen when we get more staff maybe? I ended up going down a half hour early on Thursday due the rather large cock up on the rota because someone was ill and they knew about it but didn't do anything about it.

    At least I'm not there for a week now since I'm having knee surgery on the 1st (Monday). I'm going to relax and enjoy surfing from my new shiny netbook in bed.

    Really I am doing ok if not quite myself but I'm trying to remember who she is and how to be her just at the moment though I'm not sure I'm ever going to be the same.
    As soon as I start thinking
    That I'm sensible and sane
    The Random Hedgehog comes along
    And fiddles with my Brain
    (from card I got)

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    Quoth Lady Legira View Post
    At least I'm not there for a week now since I'm having knee surgery on the 1st (Monday). I'm going to relax and enjoy surfing from my new shiny netbook in bed.

    Really I am doing ok if not quite myself but I'm trying to remember who she is and how to be her just at the moment though I'm not sure I'm ever going to be the same.
    We're going to be here. Don't be a stranger

    Rapscallion

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    • #3
      Thanks for the update, Lady Legira, and

      If you have always been emotionally close to any, or all of your Husband's family, please stay in touch with them the best you can. It can help with the continued healing of you all.

      Mike
      Meow.........

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      • #4
        Quoth JustaCashier View Post
        Thanks for the update, Lady Legira, and

        If you have always been emotionally close to any, or all of your Husband's family, please stay in touch with them the best you can. It can help with the continued healing of you all.

        Mike
        I am keeping in touch with his family even if it's just through email with his brother mostly though I'm hoping to go visit in the next couple of weeks because it's his dad's birthday soon and it'd be nice to see them.

        Raps - I'm trying not to be Even though I've been lurking more then posting lately
        Last edited by Lady Legira; 02-26-2010, 08:07 PM. Reason: Forgot something
        As soon as I start thinking
        That I'm sensible and sane
        The Random Hedgehog comes along
        And fiddles with my Brain
        (from card I got)

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        • #5
          Good to hear.

          (Oh, and good luck on the knee surgery!)

          Mike
          Meow.........

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          • #6
            Hugs, and hope your knee gets better soon.
            In my heart, in my soul, I'm a woman for rock & roll.
            She's as fast as slugs on barbituates.

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            • #7
              Good luck with the surgery. It's nice to hear you're looking to the future.

              Keep us posted.

              If you have to ask, it's probably better posted at www.fratching.com

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              • #8
                Quoth Lady Legira View Post
                Really I am doing ok if not quite myself but I'm trying to remember who she is and how to be her just at the moment though I'm not sure I'm ever going to be the same.
                No, you won't be, but it's a matter of dealing with the person that you have become now and working through the grief to come to terms with that new person.

                Even after almost 2 years, that's something I'm still working on, but everyone is different.

                You take the time that is needed for you to heal and get through it.

                Quoth Lady Legira View Post
                Even though I've been lurking more then posting lately
                Nothing wrong with that.

                I have gone through periods of just lurking.

                It's a place of familiarity and there are so many great people here with caring hearts and big shoulders.
                Even if you don't feel like posting or talking to anyone, just connecting with people through reading their stories can be the boost you need on days when things seem really dark.
                Too tired of living and too tired to end it. What a conundrum.

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                • #9
                  Hugs and hope all is well with you now and that your knee gets better.
                  I don't get paid enough to kiss your a**! -Groezig 5/31/08
                  Another day...another million braincells lost...-Sarlon 6/16/08
                  Chivalry is not dead. It's just direly underappreciated. -Samaliel 9/15/09

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                  • #10
                    Just heard from my mum that the surgery has been done and she was just waiting to talk to the physiotherapist. I'm going to go with Mum and pick her up later.
                    Final Fantasy XIV - Acorna Starfall - Ragnarok (EU Legacy)

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                    • #11
                      Well I'm back and not too sore.

                      I've had good news and bad though. There was nothing floating about in my knee but the cartilirge behind the knee isn't in good shape so it looks like I'll be seeing a knee specialist to see what options I have. It hopefully can be controlled with a series of excises but we'll see.

                      Tired now but that is to be expected.
                      As soon as I start thinking
                      That I'm sensible and sane
                      The Random Hedgehog comes along
                      And fiddles with my Brain
                      (from card I got)

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                      • #12
                        Small update

                        I'm back at work after two weeks off and it went ok despite the shooting pains in my knee. Yay painkillers. Told my manager the good news and she took it ok and wants to know what the specialist says in case I have to change jobs.

                        So I do a little artwork as a hobby (Poser 8, Bryce, Carrara for the geeks) and I finally got round to getting back to it after a long break.

                        I Will Remember You
                        As soon as I start thinking
                        That I'm sensible and sane
                        The Random Hedgehog comes along
                        And fiddles with my Brain
                        (from card I got)

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                        • #13
                          That's a beautiful piece of work. One of the best eulogies I've encountered.

                          Rapscallion

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