Hi guys, I don't post on here much but I am daily reader. I am posting this to get some things off my chest about a situation in a safe environment where no one knows me and because you guys seem to be a caring community of people.
About a month ago I fell in love with a special girl that I had known for a while and started to express that love. I bought her some nice things for Valentines Day and was actually starting to think that my love for her might be reciprocated. We do work together and she told me that she couldn't have a relationship with me while we worked together but said nothing else about it either way. I agree with that and was still pursuing her for after I quit, which if my book sells will be pretty soon.
Last night I was having a conversation with a friend of mine and he told me that she wasn't interested in me and that he thought I should know this before things went any further. He doesn't have any feelings for her and she doesn't for him, so it isn't anything like that. I called her this evening and told her that I appreciated her feelings but that my feelings got hurt more because I didn't hear it from her. She apologized and said that she was flattered but there was another person and she didn't want to hurt my feelings. She offered me friendship and I told her that I wanted to be her friend but that I needed some space first. She understood and we ended the conversation on a good note.
I'm proud of myself because I didn't get mad and cuss her out like I would've done a couple of years ago and because I was gracious with her. I don't have self-esteem issues and I do know that there is someone else out there for me and that they will be what I deserve. I also know I have a lot to offer people. I'm not going to do anything foolish or rash, but at this point I have to acknowledge how bad this hurts and I guess I just needed to get it off my chest and maybe get some positive feedback and reassurance from strangers. My friend who broke the news to me has been helpful, but I need support from a disinterested third party if you will.
Thanks for listening,
cewfa
About a month ago I fell in love with a special girl that I had known for a while and started to express that love. I bought her some nice things for Valentines Day and was actually starting to think that my love for her might be reciprocated. We do work together and she told me that she couldn't have a relationship with me while we worked together but said nothing else about it either way. I agree with that and was still pursuing her for after I quit, which if my book sells will be pretty soon.
Last night I was having a conversation with a friend of mine and he told me that she wasn't interested in me and that he thought I should know this before things went any further. He doesn't have any feelings for her and she doesn't for him, so it isn't anything like that. I called her this evening and told her that I appreciated her feelings but that my feelings got hurt more because I didn't hear it from her. She apologized and said that she was flattered but there was another person and she didn't want to hurt my feelings. She offered me friendship and I told her that I wanted to be her friend but that I needed some space first. She understood and we ended the conversation on a good note.
I'm proud of myself because I didn't get mad and cuss her out like I would've done a couple of years ago and because I was gracious with her. I don't have self-esteem issues and I do know that there is someone else out there for me and that they will be what I deserve. I also know I have a lot to offer people. I'm not going to do anything foolish or rash, but at this point I have to acknowledge how bad this hurts and I guess I just needed to get it off my chest and maybe get some positive feedback and reassurance from strangers. My friend who broke the news to me has been helpful, but I need support from a disinterested third party if you will.
Thanks for listening,
cewfa
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