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My Dad has been living with a Bitch From Hell for the past 25 years.
I am not allowed to see my Dad because, every time I do, she completely freaks out (I’m 41 now and they’ve been living together ever since I was 15) . My mom and dad tried to be friends after the divorce, but couldn't because of BFH!
If she and her ex couldn't be friends, why should my Mom and Dad.
They all knew each other through Church/friends.
She has a son and daughter from a previous marriage who are the freaking' apple of her eye.
The son has 4 children. Neither here nor there, but my Dad loves the Grandkids (not his, but he's great with kids and I can’t have them).
Dearest daughter had no children (bad marriage she in and of it self but they still stay together) but calls mommy-dearest 3 to 4 times a day. Really warped relationship there.
To make a long story short - although not really...
They break up a few times every few years. My Dad is really bad at being alone. He thinks he needs to have someone in his life. This is NOT GOOD for him.
Just before Christmas - I got a call from the BFH - "Don't call here anymore. Your Father has left. He's an asshole and he is inconsiderate and he's an asshole. Don't call this number anymore looking for him".
Fine - I left it alone and thought he would call me when he found a new place to stay - usually the motel in the nearest town. Like I said – If I contact him, he gets shit. She has totally alienated my brother from my father due to her issues. They haven’t spoken in 15 years – and yes, it is his fault for letting her do it, but still, that’s another story on its own. My brother and father are both as stubborn as all get out (as am I!)
So....
I called on Christmas Eve concerned and just left a voice-mail with the BFH asking if she had heard where he might be. I was concerned and wanted to know. I’ve always been more than polite and courteous, but it comes back to bite back both of us – no matter what.
No answer... She didn't pass on the message.
Completely spoiled my New Years, as I was concerned for his well-being. He's fit, but he's very, very, very private about his health. The last time they were in Florida - she called me - told me he was in the hospital and that it was costing too much to talk to me on the cell and wouldn't tell me where to contact him to find out what was going on (constricted colon, spent 4 days in hosp.). I couldn't even get the name of the Hospital out of her before she hung up. I called her back and got the info when I said I'd sent a cheque to pay for her phone bill.
He called me the day after New Years and let me know that they were back together. I ripped him a new one and told him to tell her not to contact me again like that. If there were problems, please let me know. I’m always there for him. She’s pretty scary...
BTW - I must mention that she totally screwed up my wedding by spewing off about the fact that my MOH and her boyfriend are of different races (nice one there, bitch)!
In any case - They are in Florida right now...
Yesterday morning, I got a voice-mail from said BFH - I must say that it was fortuitous that I had my phone off, otherwise...
Fucking hell.
She’s a freaking bitch.
She wanted to go shopping, but my Dad wanted to stay in the condo and watch some TV. She says he being mean and not wanting to do what she wants to. I have to come to Florida and take my Dad home (he drove) and have him move in with me and that she doesn’t want to have him be around any more. I should have to take him in because I give him one freakin’ box of chocolates every year (she’s got major body issues and if she can’t have candy – no one else can!!!!!11111111111111!!!!!). She’s sending him home and he can come and live with me.....!!!!@$$!#@##@@#@#@.
Arghhhh – My step-father – who I love, and whom my Dad likes very much (like I said – everyone knew each other and my Dad and my Step-Dad spent a lot of time together at my wedding – they have a lot in common (they both married/moved in with bitches)), is very ill right now – diabetes, he’s 85+ and can’t even recognize me anymore so I’m going through that as well.
Thanks for letting me rant...
I am not allowed to see my Dad because, every time I do, she completely freaks out (I’m 41 now and they’ve been living together ever since I was 15) . My mom and dad tried to be friends after the divorce, but couldn't because of BFH!
If she and her ex couldn't be friends, why should my Mom and Dad.
They all knew each other through Church/friends.
She has a son and daughter from a previous marriage who are the freaking' apple of her eye.
The son has 4 children. Neither here nor there, but my Dad loves the Grandkids (not his, but he's great with kids and I can’t have them).
Dearest daughter had no children (bad marriage she in and of it self but they still stay together) but calls mommy-dearest 3 to 4 times a day. Really warped relationship there.
To make a long story short - although not really...
They break up a few times every few years. My Dad is really bad at being alone. He thinks he needs to have someone in his life. This is NOT GOOD for him.
Just before Christmas - I got a call from the BFH - "Don't call here anymore. Your Father has left. He's an asshole and he is inconsiderate and he's an asshole. Don't call this number anymore looking for him".
Fine - I left it alone and thought he would call me when he found a new place to stay - usually the motel in the nearest town. Like I said – If I contact him, he gets shit. She has totally alienated my brother from my father due to her issues. They haven’t spoken in 15 years – and yes, it is his fault for letting her do it, but still, that’s another story on its own. My brother and father are both as stubborn as all get out (as am I!)
So....
I called on Christmas Eve concerned and just left a voice-mail with the BFH asking if she had heard where he might be. I was concerned and wanted to know. I’ve always been more than polite and courteous, but it comes back to bite back both of us – no matter what.
No answer... She didn't pass on the message.
Completely spoiled my New Years, as I was concerned for his well-being. He's fit, but he's very, very, very private about his health. The last time they were in Florida - she called me - told me he was in the hospital and that it was costing too much to talk to me on the cell and wouldn't tell me where to contact him to find out what was going on (constricted colon, spent 4 days in hosp.). I couldn't even get the name of the Hospital out of her before she hung up. I called her back and got the info when I said I'd sent a cheque to pay for her phone bill.
He called me the day after New Years and let me know that they were back together. I ripped him a new one and told him to tell her not to contact me again like that. If there were problems, please let me know. I’m always there for him. She’s pretty scary...
BTW - I must mention that she totally screwed up my wedding by spewing off about the fact that my MOH and her boyfriend are of different races (nice one there, bitch)!
In any case - They are in Florida right now...
Yesterday morning, I got a voice-mail from said BFH - I must say that it was fortuitous that I had my phone off, otherwise...
Fucking hell.
She’s a freaking bitch.
She wanted to go shopping, but my Dad wanted to stay in the condo and watch some TV. She says he being mean and not wanting to do what she wants to. I have to come to Florida and take my Dad home (he drove) and have him move in with me and that she doesn’t want to have him be around any more. I should have to take him in because I give him one freakin’ box of chocolates every year (she’s got major body issues and if she can’t have candy – no one else can!!!!!11111111111111!!!!!). She’s sending him home and he can come and live with me.....!!!!@$$!#@##@@#@#@.
Arghhhh – My step-father – who I love, and whom my Dad likes very much (like I said – everyone knew each other and my Dad and my Step-Dad spent a lot of time together at my wedding – they have a lot in common (they both married/moved in with bitches)), is very ill right now – diabetes, he’s 85+ and can’t even recognize me anymore so I’m going through that as well.
Thanks for letting me rant...
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