Tweet
Okies! Background Time!
Last year, around December 2009 to February 2010, BiL#1 got into a car crash when the car he was driving home (from his truck driving job) hit a patch of black ice and hit a tree. He hurt his shoulder and was out due to surgery and time to recover from said surgery. During this time, he had asked his mother & father for money to help him and his family to get by until he got his first workman's comp check. MiL & FiL both said no. (MiL has a bank acct. with her own "play" money in it). BiL#2 had to bail BiL#1 out (BiL#1 and his family go on vacations all the time, eat out at expensive restaurants all the time, etc). Also, about a year or so before this, when BiL#1 and his wife (and at least K1) were waiting for their new house to be built, they asked the PiLs if they could live with them. Again, the PiLs said no, and they ended up living with SiL's parents (rent free). Also, when BiL#2 and his wife were looking at houses and in the process of getting their house, they wanted to live with PiLs and again, they said no and so they lived with SiL#2's family.
End background.
So, yesterday (Mother's Day in the US at least), Mr. Rum's mom called him on his cell phone, and she's in tears. Both he & I thought someone in the family had died. Turns out, she wanted to talk to a person in the family who wasn't yelling her.
BiL#1 is friends with a County Sheriff and his wife. Their son is in a hospital in a town 30-45 minutes away from MiL's house . Sheriff and his wife are racking up $$ expenses and time off staying at various hotels in the town of the hospital as their son was in a mountain bike accident (and the son has been hurt really badly). So BiL#1 was like, "Let me ask my parents if they'll let you stay at the loft apartment they have over their garage."
So BiL#1 asks. Of course they say no. (I mean, really? BiL#1 should have already known the answer. If the PiLs aren't going to help out their own flesh & blood that way, they aren't going to be letting complete strangers - and PiLs don't know Sheriff & wife from Adam - stay in the apartment over their garage). BiL#1 threw out they're not good people because they refuse to open their over-the-garage apartment to strangers (again, only BiL#1 and his immediate family know these people, not the PiLs). And why should his Dad give money to the drunken guy who works for him and not help a couple whose son is in the hospital? And they would never trash the PiLs' apartment (which is one of the reasons the PiLs wouldn't allow them to be there as the PiLs were just at the American Legion building that morning looking at the great damage that was left over from the party that rented the America Legion hall the night before and quite a few things needed to be replaced).
He also threw back at them the fact they wouldn't give him any money when he asked for it. But they did help out a little AFTER the surgery. MiL came up to his house and watched the kids before and after school as their mother works at least 1.5 - 2 hours away from work. BiL#1 couldn't feed/clothe/do other various things for the kids with his bum shoulder.
BiL#1 got angry. So angry that he is no longer talking to his mother & father. He's told his mother he's not coming down to their house on May 14 (to not only celebrate her birthday - which is May 14 - but also Mr. Rum's birthday - which was May 7), and blah blah blah.
Then BiL#1 had the audacity to call Mr. Rum and give him his side of the story. Complaining how their PiLs don't visit his house that often. (Really BiL#1? Every time we talked to them, they were going up to your house for no other reason than to just say "hi" to your kids. They haven't been to our house in about 5 years). They didn't go to K1's birthday party. They don't do this, that, or the other thing. (Yet those kids are down at the PiLs' house every other month to "visit" and spend the weekend there, and in the summer they're down there for Bible camp and K1 is down there for horse riding lessons - paid for by MiL.)
So as it stands right now: Mr. Rum, myself, Child Rum, BiL#2 and SiL#2 are going to be there. SiL#1, K1, and K2 are (maybe) going to be there. We're also going to eat early on Saturday (there is NO WAY we're staying until 8 or 9 PM Saturday night like Mr. Rum wants because: 1. We're getting up early the next day to go to the Fairy Festival in Maryland, 2. Mr. Rum will be driving tired and that's dangerous and 3. I will not be driving home on Saturday night as I have horrible night vision. If he's not ready to leave no later than 5 PM, then I'm calling a cab for me & Child Rum and we're leaving (or I'm calling my parents or my sister - someone).
But really? Did BiL#1 have to cause this drama on Mother's Day of all days? Did he really have to blow this all out of proportion?
I am absolutely livid.
1. The apartment is for the PiLs to do whatever they want to with it. If they want to rent it to Yosemite Sam the Town's Idiot and not to the "fine upstanding" Sheriff and wife who is known only to BiL#1, that's their prerogative.
2. It's their money. If they want to take their money, go to Atlantic City or Vegas and gamble is all away, it's their right. BiL#1 has no claim to their money until they're dead and even then, all they have to do is leave him like $1. (Which, if I were the PiLs, that's exactly what I'd do).
There was a few more points I wanted to make/ask, but I forgot them. Oi. Maybe because I'm getting too anxious and angry about this entire situation?
I'll update next Monday about what happened this upcoming weekend.
I will tell y'all though: I am definitely looking forward to my therapy visit this Friday.
Last year, around December 2009 to February 2010, BiL#1 got into a car crash when the car he was driving home (from his truck driving job) hit a patch of black ice and hit a tree. He hurt his shoulder and was out due to surgery and time to recover from said surgery. During this time, he had asked his mother & father for money to help him and his family to get by until he got his first workman's comp check. MiL & FiL both said no. (MiL has a bank acct. with her own "play" money in it). BiL#2 had to bail BiL#1 out (BiL#1 and his family go on vacations all the time, eat out at expensive restaurants all the time, etc). Also, about a year or so before this, when BiL#1 and his wife (and at least K1) were waiting for their new house to be built, they asked the PiLs if they could live with them. Again, the PiLs said no, and they ended up living with SiL's parents (rent free). Also, when BiL#2 and his wife were looking at houses and in the process of getting their house, they wanted to live with PiLs and again, they said no and so they lived with SiL#2's family.
End background.
So, yesterday (Mother's Day in the US at least), Mr. Rum's mom called him on his cell phone, and she's in tears. Both he & I thought someone in the family had died. Turns out, she wanted to talk to a person in the family who wasn't yelling her.
BiL#1 is friends with a County Sheriff and his wife. Their son is in a hospital in a town 30-45 minutes away from MiL's house . Sheriff and his wife are racking up $$ expenses and time off staying at various hotels in the town of the hospital as their son was in a mountain bike accident (and the son has been hurt really badly). So BiL#1 was like, "Let me ask my parents if they'll let you stay at the loft apartment they have over their garage."
So BiL#1 asks. Of course they say no. (I mean, really? BiL#1 should have already known the answer. If the PiLs aren't going to help out their own flesh & blood that way, they aren't going to be letting complete strangers - and PiLs don't know Sheriff & wife from Adam - stay in the apartment over their garage). BiL#1 threw out they're not good people because they refuse to open their over-the-garage apartment to strangers (again, only BiL#1 and his immediate family know these people, not the PiLs). And why should his Dad give money to the drunken guy who works for him and not help a couple whose son is in the hospital? And they would never trash the PiLs' apartment (which is one of the reasons the PiLs wouldn't allow them to be there as the PiLs were just at the American Legion building that morning looking at the great damage that was left over from the party that rented the America Legion hall the night before and quite a few things needed to be replaced).
He also threw back at them the fact they wouldn't give him any money when he asked for it. But they did help out a little AFTER the surgery. MiL came up to his house and watched the kids before and after school as their mother works at least 1.5 - 2 hours away from work. BiL#1 couldn't feed/clothe/do other various things for the kids with his bum shoulder.
BiL#1 got angry. So angry that he is no longer talking to his mother & father. He's told his mother he's not coming down to their house on May 14 (to not only celebrate her birthday - which is May 14 - but also Mr. Rum's birthday - which was May 7), and blah blah blah.
Then BiL#1 had the audacity to call Mr. Rum and give him his side of the story. Complaining how their PiLs don't visit his house that often. (Really BiL#1? Every time we talked to them, they were going up to your house for no other reason than to just say "hi" to your kids. They haven't been to our house in about 5 years). They didn't go to K1's birthday party. They don't do this, that, or the other thing. (Yet those kids are down at the PiLs' house every other month to "visit" and spend the weekend there, and in the summer they're down there for Bible camp and K1 is down there for horse riding lessons - paid for by MiL.)
So as it stands right now: Mr. Rum, myself, Child Rum, BiL#2 and SiL#2 are going to be there. SiL#1, K1, and K2 are (maybe) going to be there. We're also going to eat early on Saturday (there is NO WAY we're staying until 8 or 9 PM Saturday night like Mr. Rum wants because: 1. We're getting up early the next day to go to the Fairy Festival in Maryland, 2. Mr. Rum will be driving tired and that's dangerous and 3. I will not be driving home on Saturday night as I have horrible night vision. If he's not ready to leave no later than 5 PM, then I'm calling a cab for me & Child Rum and we're leaving (or I'm calling my parents or my sister - someone).
But really? Did BiL#1 have to cause this drama on Mother's Day of all days? Did he really have to blow this all out of proportion?
I am absolutely livid.
1. The apartment is for the PiLs to do whatever they want to with it. If they want to rent it to Yosemite Sam the Town's Idiot and not to the "fine upstanding" Sheriff and wife who is known only to BiL#1, that's their prerogative.
2. It's their money. If they want to take their money, go to Atlantic City or Vegas and gamble is all away, it's their right. BiL#1 has no claim to their money until they're dead and even then, all they have to do is leave him like $1. (Which, if I were the PiLs, that's exactly what I'd do).
There was a few more points I wanted to make/ask, but I forgot them. Oi. Maybe because I'm getting too anxious and angry about this entire situation?
I'll update next Monday about what happened this upcoming weekend.
I will tell y'all though: I am definitely looking forward to my therapy visit this Friday.
and the 
and he sure as heck will not be liking me for a very long time.
me. 
Comment