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So Hubby and I have a roommate. My dog is a clothing-chewer, and we talked about the issue. Roomie agreed to keep his door shut until he can get all this mountains of clothes into his closet.
Well (as far as I know), roomie didn't do that. My dog chewed up his stanky jeans (that he left on the floor with the door open). I offered to pay for a replacement, but that wasn't good enough. Those jeans were apparently worth "$100" despite looking like they came from a thrift store.
Next, roomie told us since he only has a "third of the apartment" he is only paying "a third of the bills" (um, nobody said you had to stay in your room, just keep your shat-upon pants off the floor or, here's an idea, LAUNDER THEM once in a while). Our agreement was to split the bills down the middle. Hubby freaked out, I told roomie we needed to talk about this because I was worried about Hubby's safety (hubby does have mental health problems and I thought he was going to self-harm).
The end result is that by expressing my fears for my husband's safety, I was "manipulating" Roomie (using money as a weapon is apparently fine) and he told us we go or he goes. He went storming off to the leasing office to get things "taken care of" and when we followed him to figure out WTF he was telling them, ordered us to go inside and sign away our rights under the lease (meaning he gets to keep the apartment and the $1500 deposit we paid while tossing us out onto the street...um...no).
He screamed at us that we are "liars and manipulators" and asked if we were "really going to fight him on this" in an incredibly hostile way when we said we weren't signing anything without talking to a lawyer. I should have called the cops but I didn't (I didn't want to escalate things further).
I was so scared and shaking so hard I started packing a bag for a trip to a battered women's shelter, but my parents and hubby talked me out of it. We paid 2x the deposit he did despite making half as much, and he thinks he can just kick us out and keep the two bedroom apartment in a prime location all to himself. He makes more money, so that gives him all the power here. We can't pay all the bills ourselves. Also, did I mention we have been buying the food all month. He claimed to be "tapped out" after the move-in costs but he doesn't seem to have any trouble buying his weed (EDIT: we're in Colorado, so we can't just call the cops about said weed and get them to remove the parasite from our lives).
So now what? We aren't even unpacked yet. Advice and virtual cookies welcome.
PS the guy's a pothead and if he is going to use his money as a way to control us, I'm glad to be rid of him, but I'd rather not go back to living in hotels.
So Hubby and I have a roommate. My dog is a clothing-chewer, and we talked about the issue. Roomie agreed to keep his door shut until he can get all this mountains of clothes into his closet.
Well (as far as I know), roomie didn't do that. My dog chewed up his stanky jeans (that he left on the floor with the door open). I offered to pay for a replacement, but that wasn't good enough. Those jeans were apparently worth "$100" despite looking like they came from a thrift store.
Next, roomie told us since he only has a "third of the apartment" he is only paying "a third of the bills" (um, nobody said you had to stay in your room, just keep your shat-upon pants off the floor or, here's an idea, LAUNDER THEM once in a while). Our agreement was to split the bills down the middle. Hubby freaked out, I told roomie we needed to talk about this because I was worried about Hubby's safety (hubby does have mental health problems and I thought he was going to self-harm).
The end result is that by expressing my fears for my husband's safety, I was "manipulating" Roomie (using money as a weapon is apparently fine) and he told us we go or he goes. He went storming off to the leasing office to get things "taken care of" and when we followed him to figure out WTF he was telling them, ordered us to go inside and sign away our rights under the lease (meaning he gets to keep the apartment and the $1500 deposit we paid while tossing us out onto the street...um...no).
He screamed at us that we are "liars and manipulators" and asked if we were "really going to fight him on this" in an incredibly hostile way when we said we weren't signing anything without talking to a lawyer. I should have called the cops but I didn't (I didn't want to escalate things further).
I was so scared and shaking so hard I started packing a bag for a trip to a battered women's shelter, but my parents and hubby talked me out of it. We paid 2x the deposit he did despite making half as much, and he thinks he can just kick us out and keep the two bedroom apartment in a prime location all to himself. He makes more money, so that gives him all the power here. We can't pay all the bills ourselves. Also, did I mention we have been buying the food all month. He claimed to be "tapped out" after the move-in costs but he doesn't seem to have any trouble buying his weed (EDIT: we're in Colorado, so we can't just call the cops about said weed and get them to remove the parasite from our lives).
So now what? We aren't even unpacked yet. Advice and virtual cookies welcome.
PS the guy's a pothead and if he is going to use his money as a way to control us, I'm glad to be rid of him, but I'd rather not go back to living in hotels.
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