*not sure how to word this, as there are so many different elements involved, but I'll do my best. If anyone has any advice or suggestions on how to handle this, it would be much appreciated!*
First off, to give two background details - 1. "Heather" (my daughter) does not live with me. She's being raised by my mother because it was very much an unplanned pregnancy, and because of financial and mental issues which I have, I'm not the best person to be raising "Heather". 2. "Jeremy" (Heather's father) had a lot of behavioral issues as a child, and my assumption is that he was never taught the "correct" way to act......thus the reason he's spent a lot of time in jail as an adult.
Anyhow, Heather is turning 13 this fall, and over the past few years, she and my mom have been having more of a personality conflict. And this is getting to where Mom isn't sure she's able (or wants to continue) raising Heather. Which really worries me, because I definitely can't support two people on my income, and I make too much to get on most any forms of assistance. Not to mention the fact that I'm unable to drive (and the bus system being what it is here) would make it near-impossible for me to get Heather to school, or anywhere else she needed to go. (I should probably also mention that my hours at the library would mean I'd have to leave her alone for periods of time - I work there mostly when she's not in school)
I'm also unable to count on "Jeremy" for help - he does not pay child support, and taking him to court would do no good because he apparently has nothing. He's also never been that involved or supportive, doesn't want to take the responsibility of being a parent, and unfortunately his family is not in the picture either.
So.......right now it's looking like I may have to move back in with my mom when the lease on my apartment expires in December. I'm still hoping to try to get a condo before then, but if that doesn't happen, my mom agrees that it might be good for Heather to have me around her more often.
First off, to give two background details - 1. "Heather" (my daughter) does not live with me. She's being raised by my mother because it was very much an unplanned pregnancy, and because of financial and mental issues which I have, I'm not the best person to be raising "Heather". 2. "Jeremy" (Heather's father) had a lot of behavioral issues as a child, and my assumption is that he was never taught the "correct" way to act......thus the reason he's spent a lot of time in jail as an adult.
Anyhow, Heather is turning 13 this fall, and over the past few years, she and my mom have been having more of a personality conflict. And this is getting to where Mom isn't sure she's able (or wants to continue) raising Heather. Which really worries me, because I definitely can't support two people on my income, and I make too much to get on most any forms of assistance. Not to mention the fact that I'm unable to drive (and the bus system being what it is here) would make it near-impossible for me to get Heather to school, or anywhere else she needed to go. (I should probably also mention that my hours at the library would mean I'd have to leave her alone for periods of time - I work there mostly when she's not in school)
I'm also unable to count on "Jeremy" for help - he does not pay child support, and taking him to court would do no good because he apparently has nothing. He's also never been that involved or supportive, doesn't want to take the responsibility of being a parent, and unfortunately his family is not in the picture either.
So.......right now it's looking like I may have to move back in with my mom when the lease on my apartment expires in December. I'm still hoping to try to get a condo before then, but if that doesn't happen, my mom agrees that it might be good for Heather to have me around her more often.
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