Another boob/co-worker thread

[Der Cute]

Again, everyone thank you for the inputs.

Maybe I should elaborate a bit on my clothing.

Since I'm working in a place that's a bit on the cold side, I wear long sleeved shirts. Also, I've somehow been losing weight gradually.

So most of the time I've been here working I've worn old long sleeved henley shirts, a bit on the baggy/ long side and just not form fitting at all.

This boob-staring shirt was different. It's a very form fitting, bit of spandex, regular neckline long sleeved shirt...not even a v-neck. My girls were covered, yes, but they stuck out like boobs should do. It's a bit more up to date in fashion, colors and style.

After chatting w/ an online friend...she mentioned that maybe due to my changing clothing, the guy noticed me as a woman. In my henleys you cant really see my figure/curves. In this shirt, yes you can.

One thing I do want people to understand is that I will NOT change my clothing to cover my chest so I'm not stared at. If I wear a shirt that is offensive with writing, after a nice request I will change it. But I am NOT going to cover up my womanly body so that a man won't ogle me. I'm proud of who and what I am, and I'll be damned if I have to wear a tent to stop this guy.

Oh by the way, he's been much better on his adjusty habit. Let's hope the little bugger sleeps more often.

Cutenoob

[Seshat]

I'm sorry, but I feel a need to step in there. If you're busty and wearing a tailored shirt, unless you're going to button it all the way up to your throat and asphyxiate yourself, there WILL be cleavage showing.

I find that the only clothing that keeps cleavage from showing is the very high-necked or the turtleneck. And all that achieves is 'sweater puppies'.

Unless you're suggesting big busted girls in particular haul out the burkas, there is unfortunately no way to prevent certain types of people from staring, short of removing their eyeballs!

Even then, there will be people who look. Tents don't help. All they do is give the looker less of an 'excuse'.

[Rubyred]

Well, boobs are boobs and men will stare. As a girl who is pretty small (5'4") and thin with a pretty big bust line (36 D) I catch guys blatantly staring ALL the time.

I usually just make a joke out of it. Next time just try saying "They won't talk back you know". He'll probably be pretty embaressed (sp?) that you caught him looking and will probably be more careful about it in the future. (Not saying he won't look though)

As for the hand in the pants thing, apart from that being completely inappropriate anywhere in public (let alone the workplace) it's kind of nasty. I understand that Jr needs to be adjusted but please refrain fom making it obvious.

[Ackee]

Hmmm

It is, however, completely inappropriate, in my opinion, to do so obviously in front of other people, male or female, when such a thing can be avoided. (There ARE times when it can't.)

There are times when it can't? What does this mean? What do these IT's do? Are they swirling around deviously hoping to get caught up in the leg of your trousers? Perhaps this is why they are called trouser snakes????
Aren't they supposed to receed when not in use and turn into mushroom-like things?

Maybe, they are like breasts? You like them to be in a certain position and you have to push them back when they move?

Someone, please enlighten me....

[MystyGlyttyr]

Actually, I've found when a guy's eyes get locked-on-target, rather than commenting on anything, a better way is pause just long enough to crouch down just enough to meet their eyes again and immediately continue talking about whatever you were talking about. That makes it MUCH more obvious what you know they're doing.

[draftermatt]

Someone, please enlighten me....

Basically, any time pain is involved, it's going to be fixed.

Could be your underwear is riding up, zipper grabbed some hair, things like that.

[zzapp the witch]

I read enough posts full of self-righteous indignation that I couldn't stomach it anymore and skipped to the end. I happened to see Mysty's post as I scrolled down this page, and hers is the one I agree with the most, and have used with great success and was going to suggest.

I'm a size 14 and a 36H. For those that don't know, this means that my ribcage measures 36 inches around, while my boobs measure 45 inches at their widest point around. Yes, I get a LOT of stares, no matter how much it is covered up, and they don't sag/are all natural, so that just adds to the ocular gravitation. A burqa could not make men not notice this boobage. It used to make me self conscious. I used to slouch, which led to back problems. I like to credit my dad with teaching me how to handle most of this or "think like a man" as he terms it.

I hang around in hardware stores a lot. There are mostly, if not exclusively, men in these stores while I'm in there. I am often the ONLY female in a room, whether while I'm "shopping" at the scrapyard, exchanging a broken tool at the hardware store, or hanging out in my own home with my boyfriend's (and now mine) biker/ratrod buddies.

I am the only woman at some of these "church" sessions, as the guys call them, with their Mac and 7s and porn/gearhead mags. I have learned to command respect from even the roughest of men. How, you might ask? By not being a "whiney-ass bitch" as its termed.

Guys are going to stare at your boobs. Call em on it. Duck your head down to re-make eye contact. Say, "I know I've got nice boobs, but could you finish staring at them when you've answered my question/assisted me?" Its a fact of life that men of all shapes/sizes/ages/levels of outward attractiveness and creepiness are going to look at boobs, whether we want them to or not. To paraphrase a popular male comedian: Once we've seen one pair of boobs, we want to see them all.

Its not a matter of horniness, attractiveness, social status, or age. Men look at boobs, and if they weren't, you would (in some cases) wonder why. (Hot gay men come to mind).

So just accept that men look at boobs, and that you have boobs, and that your boobs are going to get looked at. But much like training men to put the toilet seat down, you can train them to not look at your boobs as obviously as they sometimes do. You can train them to look without making it obvious (trust me, when some guys don't seem to be looking at your boobs, they are. Those are the pros). Help the men perfect the "Stealth Boober" aspect of their everyday lives.

The only way to stop men from looking at your boobs is to become a man. Don't be a butthurt whiner, take power over your boobs and in turn the power they have over men, and you will rule the world (or your own hardware store-riddled corner of it).

And if all else fails, just take it as a compliment, cause we all know that if not a single one was looking, you'd be all sad about it.

[Sharsarannon]

I find that the only clothing that keeps cleavage from showing is the very high-necked or the turtleneck. And all that achieves is 'sweater puppies'.
Even then, there will be people who look. Tents don't help. All they do is give the looker less of an 'excuse'.

Huh, that's odd... I have plenty of form-fitting flattering or tailored clothes that don't show any cleavage.. They're far from turtlenecks, though..
And I must admit as a Very Shapely girl myself that it can be a problem.
Summing it up- I love MystyGlyttyr's solution. And if they persist, Deck em!
Nothing straightens a guy's mind out like a knuckle sandwich.
In places you can't do that, yelling at them will have to do. Sigh.

[Kiwi]

One of my old co-workers husbands would come in to pick her up everyday at 5pm. He would stand at reception and talk with the admissions staff, I got along with his wife (my co-worker) really well and weve become friends.

No matter what I wear I see his eyes, flick, flick, flick every single time ive talked to him. If would be upset if, I didnt know that he is very in love with his wife and doesnt act in anyother way as a perv. I have become very agidtated when Ive noticed it blatently from guys before.

[kibbles]

Excellent points zzapp and mysty, ITA!!!

[Seshat]

Huh, that's odd... I have plenty of form-fitting flattering or tailored clothes that don't show any cleavage.. They're far from turtlenecks, though..
And I must admit as a Very Shapely girl myself that it can be a problem.

I guess it depends on the exact shape, and what's available in your area.

[Primer]

And my mom wonders why I ditched the midieval torture devices....

I gave them up over 11 years ago. One of the best things I ever did!

Aren't they supposed to receed when not in use and turn into mushroom-like things?

I know my ex-husband's did.....

[Andara Bledin]

Ugh. There is no reason for the guy to have his hand in his pants while he's talking to you. Actually, a funny thought popped into my head; maybe he shaved himself and the problem is that it just itches....

I have to adjust my brassiere sometimes. Have you seen the Hane's commercial where the girl's bra strap keeps falling down her arm?

I swear, no matter how tight I adjust them, they still fall down. That and with my lesser padded bras, sometimes the ladies try to pop out. I always make sure there is no one watching when I do it. Especially men.

It's so embarrassing.

Ugh. I hate the arm strap thing. I swear I'm going to start buying cross-strapped ones exclusively.

I've got one harness that is less fully-covered than the others, and if I lean forward, I tend to spill right out. There is just no way to fix that and be covert.

A roommate of an old friend used to work for a fancy lingerie company that specialized in bras. She told me that most women are wearing bras in the wrong size and that even if they sort-of fit, they usually don't fit right.

The right way to do it is to choose the number (28, 36, 42, etc) based on how far apart the cups are at the front. Ignore everything else, including how well the straps actually fit around your barrel. Then, you choose the cup size (A, C, DD, etc) based partially on wide you need the cups to be, and not so much on the volume you need to fill.

So, basically, you fit your bra based on where the inner and outer 'corners' of the cups fit, and all other considerations can be altered after the fact if they don't conform.

Oh, and she also said that every woman that had gone through surgery for breast cancer said the cancerous growths were always along the line where the underwire would sit.

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