Slave want to know what my most recent review and renew took 2 days I renewed and then immediately uploaded my pay and it was approved im at 6 months so I don't need my phone intervirew now in 6 months it will be the same process I just have to do the phone interview part of it I had them remove my Medicaid because it was share of cost and was preventing me from getting health care coverage threw the county. I also don't lie on my shit so it cant come back to bite me in the ass. I need the benefits I do get but don't u wish everyone was like me ? Lol
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I just wanted to thank everyone who took the time to reply here. I appreciate that you care.
However, there's the suggestion to see a therapist. I like that suggestion. I would love to see a therapist... But when? I'm already expected to cram about 50 hours of work into a 40-hour work week. I've already had to forego doctor's appointments, including one from February that had to be rescheduled to October. I'm also trying to balance my relationship, my family, my friends, my hobbies, exercise and my health, my pets, and my novel. I'm down to less than 6 hours of sleep (usually around 5) trying to make room for the rest of everything.
I've also noticed that in this job, if ever you start to relax, if ever you start thinking you know what you're doing... You've forgotten something of colossal importance. You can never relax in this job. Do it and regret it when whatever it was you forgot bobs to the surface like a dead body for you to deal with. Knowing that adds a whole new layer of stress.Drive it like it's a county car.
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I understand the feeling of needing to get everything done. But if you need a doctor appt, do it. In your mind, tell the bean counters to fuck off. There are people out there trying to justify their own jobs by making yours hell. QA has to find something wrong. Somebody has to update all your forms to make himself look good. Etc. Your clients are important but so are you. Do the best you can and the rest will just have to wait.
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No. Just NO!
Do NOT allow this job to compromise your health. You can't care for your cases or for your family (pets included) if you get sick. I am quite sure that you have some sort of leave for doctor appointments, schedule them and then arrive on time.
If your agency is anything like mine, you have access to a therapist. Make an appointment and keep it. All you have to do is say "Doctor's appointment".
You are human. Human's make mistakes. Yes, its also human to beat ourselves up over mistakes, breaking that habit will be hard. Maybe have a notepad and pen by the bed so you can wake up, write a note and go back to sleep knowing that you can't do anymore until you get to work.
And seriously, talk to your boss and co-workers. They haven't been in your unique situation, but they do understand what you are going through.
Before I started feeling like I knew what I was doing and that I wasn't going to go to work and find out that my passwords were locked because I was such a f***up, one of my ways of relaxing/focusing was to look for other jobs and compare benefits. Don't know if that might help you...
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OK ASW I understand what you are going though as in for 5 years I had 2 full time jobs. My regular pizza delivery job (38 hours a week) and my full time care giver job where I was co-full time care giver for my sick girl friend (my counter-part was GFs daughter)
GF had to be cared for full time as she could rarely be left alone for any appreciable amount of time. I had no time for recreation, exercise, alone time, mental decompression, vacation time was staycations, etc. We could rarely go out to eat, BUT managed to go to movies (big production number) enough to make it worth it.
I did this because I did love her and cared very deeply for her BUT I let myself go mentally physically emotionally health wise and I am partcially paying a price for that neglect of myself.
Yes Since she passed a year ago I have been slowly returning to a "normal life" ie. sleep, physical activity a different mental state but I will have to pay a price for what I did.
DO NOT let yourself spiral down into someplace that is very hard to get out ofI'm lost without a paddle and headed up SH*T creek.
-- Life Sucks Then You Die.
"I'll believe corp. are people when Texas executes one."
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My mother in law works at a children's hospital and when she started the hardest thing for her to learn was how to take care of herself. She felt like she always needed to be at work because there was always important work that needed to be done, she was on call at least one day a week (on top of her normal 5 working days) every single week. She felt guilty taking off work for any reason, even if that reason was that she was critically ill and unable to go to work, it goes without saying she didn't make use of her vacation time. And she was miserable.
Thankfully she had an awesome boss who took her aside and helped her see that if she couldn't take care of herself that she wasn't going to be able to take care of anyone else. I don't know what switch flipped in her head or how that boss got through to her but she loves her job now, most weeks she still takes one on call shift but she also takes all of her vacation days each year.
I wouldn't say that what she developed was professional detachment, she still cares deeply about her patients and sometimes when she gets home she cries. What happened is more of a shift in perspective and knowing that to do the most good she has to make sure that she can keep going on because if she burns out or quits she won't be helping anyone.
I hope you can find a way to keep going but jobs helping children, whether they are abused, injured, or have a chronic condition are extremely difficult and many people do find out that they cannot keep doing those jobs for their career, the emotional toll and the stress is just too overwhelming. There is no shame in that and forcing yourself to compromise your own health is not sustainable. You put a lot of time, energy, and money into your degree but there is a lot that you can do with a social work degree. You can still find ways to help people without slowly killing yourself.
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Quoth Solumina View Postif she couldn't take care of herself that she wasn't going to be able to take care of anyone else.
This. So very, very much this. Look at it this way- if you make yourself so sick that you can't work or take care of your family, then what? Also, cutting back on sleep "to get everything done" is a sure-fire recipe for making mistakes. Your body and brain don't work as well when you're chronically sleep deprived and it can lead to serious health complications.
You may find you have to cut something down or out in order to take care of maintaining your health (physical AND mental). Hobbies and writing can most easily be limited to a few hours a week, possibly even shelved for a time if needed. Your friends should understand if you need to cut back the amount of time you spend with them (if they don't, that says something about what quality of 'friend' they are). I don't know what family commitments you have, but are there any that can be scaled back or gotten rid of altogether? Is your family willing to work with you to ease your workload?
The last thing would be the job. Don't hesitate to take whatever time off you need to see your doctor (or a therapist). Once again, if you don't take care of you, you won't be able to take care of anyone else.
I applaud you for choosing social work. I couldn't do it. It's work that needs doing, and there are too few people who can.You're only delaying the inevitable, you run at your own expense. The repo man gets paid to chase you. ~Argabarga
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I run a large Facebook group for a particular mental health issue. It's not nearly as emotionally stressful as being a CPS social worker, but it has its days. What others are saying about needing to take care of you so you can take care of others is absolutely true. Just like they say on the airplanes, put the oxygen mask on yourself first.
Also, if you really don't have time during the day to see a therapist, there's a couple of online therapy options, and several that take insurance. Some of those can even do a chat function through an app on a smart phone. Look into them. They've been literal lifesavers for some of the people in my group who cannot leave their homes.At the conclusion of an Irish wedding, the priest said "Everybody please hug the person who has made your life worth living. The bartender was nearly crushed to death.
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Remember that licensed therapists are required to have their own therapists. (At least in some licensing areas.) I know mine is!“There are two novels that can change a bookish fourteen-year old’s life: The Lord of the Rings and Atlas Shrugged.
One is a childish fantasy that often engenders a lifelong obsession with its unbelievable heroes, leading to an emotionally stunted, socially crippled adulthood, unable to deal with the real world.
The other, of course, involves orcs." -- John Rogers
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Quoth Nunavut Pants View PostRemember that licensed therapists are required to have their own therapists. (At least in some licensing areas.) I know mine is!Replace anger management with stupidity management.
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