Advice? Roomate kinda hurt my feelings...

[Gabrielle Proctor]

"Can you bring me my meds?"
"Can you do me this favor?"
"Can you help me with this?"

I am disinclined to acquiesce to your request. Means no.

Hell yeah!

[Gabrielle Proctor]

OOooooh yeah. Got a guy here that managed to wrangle his way into a spot on the couch because he was friends with BestBro and The DoD. Ever since a couple weeks after moving in, he's been a complete and total whiny bitch, and he uses his past and his medication as excuses to be a lazy asshole. He's been getting lazier and more of a dick-wad constantly, to the point I haven't even enjoyed my huge-ass TV in MONTHS, because I can't stand to be in the living-room with him.

You have my sympathies.

[Jester]

OOooooh yeah. Got a guy here that managed to wrangle his way into a spot on the couch because he was friends with BestBro and The DoD. Ever since a couple weeks after moving in, he's been a complete and total whiny bitch, and he uses his past and his medication as excuses to be a lazy asshole. He's been getting lazier and more of a dick-wad constantly, to the point I haven't even enjoyed my huge-ass TV in MONTHS, because I can't stand to be in the living-room with him.

I dealt with something like this once.

My roommate had a friend that somehow became a houseguest.

And every day he would imply that he would be gone soon.

And he never was.

This went on for three

long

annoying

weeks.

Finally, it came to a head on (of all things) Valentine's Day. I had been dating Blondie for about a month at this point, and had bribed my two (rent-paying) roommates each with about a twelve pack of beer to be anywhere other than home....I wanted some time alone with my new girlfriend. Ihad also told House Guest to be somewhere else. Since he wasn't paying rent, and was already overstaying his welcome, I saw no reason whatsoever to bribe HIM.

After dinner, Blondie and I headed home....and found House Guest sitting in the living room with his dog, watching tv.

JESTER: "House Guest, what are you doing here? I told you I wanted the apartment to myself today. You said you'd be gone."
HOUSE GUEST: "Dude, this is the Behind the Scenes show about the I Love Lucy show!" [or whatever the hell it was]
JESTER: "Are you kidding me? Go watch it somewhere else!"
HOUSE GUEST: "Dude, this is historic! You never know when something like this will be on again! And I don't know where else I can watch it. I promise I won't bother you."
JESTER: (turning off tv) "Listen, pal. This is not your tv. This is not your apartment. You have been saying you were going to leave, and you haven't. YOu have extended your stay beyond all reason. And I have let it go because I am pretty much a nice guy. But I made it VERY CLEAR to you that I wanted the apartment to myself today, and you didn't listen. So I am going to say it slowly so you can understand me. Get out of here and go somewhere else."
HOUSE GUEST: (actually having the nerve to turn the tv back on!) "Seriously man, chill out. I told you I won't get in your way."
JESTER: (turning 3 shades of purple and completely losing my cool) "I said GET OUT! Get. Out. Of. My. Apartment.

N O W ! ! !

And don't come back. You have been leeching off of me and [my two roommates] for weeks now, and we are all sick of it. Get the fuck out of here, take your fucking stuff, and go find someone else's couch to crash on, because we are fucking done with you. And if you think I am joking, and do not leave here RIGHT FUCKING NOW, I am going to call the police and have you arrested for trespassing! IS THERE ANY PART OF WHAT I JUST SAID THAT YOU DID NOT FUCKING COMPREHEND!?!?!?!"

He left.

Thankfully never to be heard from again.

[Andara Bledin]

Gabrielle, you are in a classic case of an abusive relationship.

It's gotten to the point where he's beaten down your esteem enough that anything he says affects you.

Get out. Get out now.

Oh, and if he's got prescriptions from more than one doctor, that could be illegal on somebody's part.

^-.-^

[Seshat]

Oh, and if he's got prescriptions from more than one doctor, that could be illegal on somebody's part.

True. The main instance where it isn't is when one doctor is a specialist and the other is the person's usual doctor.

But yes, it sounds like this guy is using his disability as an excuse. Boot him out. I have little patience for that behaviour. Sensible disabled people try to find a way to cope with their problems, they don't make excuses.

And I agree with Andara Bledin, it sounds like you're in an abusive situation. Don't stand for it. Don't let it continue.

(That said: "You can't be THAT tired, you just took another nap." doesn't apply to some disabilities, unfortunately. Not that it's your problem to deal with - especially with a freeloader.)

[aniwahya]

Gah! I'm going to jump on the "you don't know me but i think you need to dump that roommate" train.

I don't care what his medical situation is, he is handling it in the most irresponsible way possible. *Warning! Another "In the life of Tig story"* My medical situation is beyond chaotic. On a normal day I take 20+ meds (which is down from the 30+ meds i was taking 5 months ago). I also have very very severe allergies to most grasses so I have to carry my epinephrine injection pen with me 24/7, not to mention asthma so severe I also have to carry around a portable nebulizer (its like a "puffer" but gives a prolonged, and in my case, stronger med) 24/7 as well.
No one but me is responsible to see that I take my meds and that I have my emergency meds with me. For him to take the tactic of not having the meds on him that he knows he may need to take at any time is, gah, I lack the words to even describe my utter disgust.

Secondly, to give you any attitude at all over your meds is reprehensible. My mom is a registered nurse and she has trouble keeping my meds in order on the rare occasions she needs to do something with them, despite being professionaly trained to deal with large numbers of meds. It was completly unreasonable for him to expect you to drop everything to bring him his meds, and then to be completely ungrateful when you made an understandable mistake. You're his roommate, not his mother! Even if you WERE his mother I would be advocating you kicking his ass for that!

Please. for your own sake find another living situation because he has no respect for you and is going to continue to tear you down in order to boost his own self esteem. It is a cycle that is NEVER going to end until you get rid of him because he himself is doing nothing to improve his own situation and grow up. Grr.

Tig hath spoken.