Okay people - so far, the tipping thing is staying mostly calm. But I encourage you all to read the tipping thread on Fratching. If you have anything that isn't calm and civil to say about tipping, say it there, not here. I'm also curious - if there's some point to make that's not already there, I'd personally like to see it there.
Also, please remember that there are cultures where tipping is the expected way to pay servers, and cultures where the server gets a decent wage (and the price of service is included in the price of the food) and tipping is a reward for exceptional service. A more detailed explanation of each culture type can be found in the Fratching tipping thread (link above).
It will help keep the thread civil if you note in your post which culture type you're speaking from.
As for the 'sweetie' and 'hon' thing: if you're a Southern person in the South (*), go ahead and do it. If you're a Southern person anywhere else, it's probably a good idea to be ready to explain to the server. Some will understand immediately from 'Oh, sorry, I'm from the South . . .' and probably say 'that's fine, honey' or some such. Some will need a more complete explanation - and some of those will still feel awkward when you say it.
(*) I know it's a cultural thing, and the designation is 'south relative to the north of the country' but it feels so wrong calling a place that's so far north of me 'The South'. I'm just barely north of the Southern Ocean, you see.
Also, please remember that there are cultures where tipping is the expected way to pay servers, and cultures where the server gets a decent wage (and the price of service is included in the price of the food) and tipping is a reward for exceptional service. A more detailed explanation of each culture type can be found in the Fratching tipping thread (link above).
It will help keep the thread civil if you note in your post which culture type you're speaking from.
As for the 'sweetie' and 'hon' thing: if you're a Southern person in the South (*), go ahead and do it. If you're a Southern person anywhere else, it's probably a good idea to be ready to explain to the server. Some will understand immediately from 'Oh, sorry, I'm from the South . . .' and probably say 'that's fine, honey' or some such. Some will need a more complete explanation - and some of those will still feel awkward when you say it.
(*) I know it's a cultural thing, and the designation is 'south relative to the north of the country' but it feels so wrong calling a place that's so far north of me 'The South'. I'm just barely north of the Southern Ocean, you see.
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