Complaining about S&M.

[ColonelInTheKitchen]

I used to get all kinds of weird looks, going out in public with my younger sister, who looks VERY androgynous. I remember getting asked at summer camp if I myself were a boy or a girl. Obviously, because I wear a 44DD bra, I am female, but my sister isn't so... blessed. People are so stupid sometimes, when they gawk or get offended by the "New Generation" kids who don't care what anyone thinks about how they look.

I mean, how long has the older generations pounded into our heads via media and straight-up talking to us that we shouldn't care about what other people think? Be yourself. Be free. It's what America stand for. ...Right?

[NightAngel]

While I believe, "To each their own," I will also say this- if you're gonna be a freak in public- I'm going to stare unabashedly.
Maybe even point.
Depending, I might even laugh.

But hey, it's a free country and I'm allowed.

[bigjimaz]

I'm more offended in those parents who put their young children on leashes. A length of nylon rope and a harness is no substitute for proper parenting. These women were doing nothing but symbolically professing their devotion to each other. The woman who complained was probably throwing out a similar symbolism by wearing a wedding ring.

[NightAngel]

I'm more offended in those parents who put their young children on leashes.

Completely different subject- stay on topic please.

[ArenaBoy]

If I would've witnessed it I would've just went meh and continue shopping. But normal for me was my parents going to a Marylin Manson show and liking it. I'm also friends with various people who wear unusual clothes ranging from shirts that have some rather graphic designs on them to socks that are of a strange color. It's quite amusing to hang out with them.

I also saw a lot of that at Ozzfest and various metal shows. 99% of those attending were very nice and quite funny and as mentioned before, it's usually the weirdos who are nicer than the normal folk.

[queenbb]

you know i have said it before that the so called freaky people are always the nicest and considerate to deal with as compared to other types.

i see it all the time, and my boyfriend also sees it at where he works (an ice rink) the goth types are always comming up to him and thanking him for staying and dealing with their broom ball as well as putting their skates on the counter so they can be put away, and picking up their trash where as the other so called normal types are always cursing at him and leaving their skates out all over the place, and throwing trash every where.

when i worked at the halloween store it was the same thing, the teeny boppers would come around and cause all kinds of trouble and the gothic types would be a pleasure to deal with. so much so that the guy who worked at the hot topic would send customers my way for things we had that they didnt and i would send them to him if they had things we didnt.

[Polenicus]

Simple, personal rule I live by:

As long as someone isn't negatively affecting me, or the people around them, directly and actively, we're cool.

That's it. Girl with her sub on a leash? That'd probably earn a smile and a bit of admiration for being brave enough to do that, knowing how judgemental people are. As long as two people are at or past the age of consent, what they get up to together is none of my damn business. We're cool.

Now, come into my place of work after not having bathed for a month? You are directly and actively affecting me and those around you in a negative way. We are not cool.

As a society, we spend too much time concerned with what goes on in each other's bedrooms, and not enough learning how to be baseline civil to each other. The stuff we'll go into the street and protest over is made all the more ludicrous by the stuff we'll just quietly let slide.

[trunks2k]

My one friend used to really be into collars and leashes, still kinda is. Freshman year of college, she would often insist that when out with friends, she would be on a leash. So I ended up walking around with on a leash once in the mall. The comments from people passing by were interesting. They didn't seem to mind that there was somebody on a leash, it was more annoyance that it was the girl on the leash, not the guy.

[Bloodsoul]

Ahhh... reminds me of a rather saucy comment a customer gave to me last week; "So, who's got the leash to that collar?"* I didn't know what to say at all, so merely smiled.

*(someone very special ^_^)

[ArenaBoy]

You know, I wonder how the woman would've reacted if the girl dressed like a dog or a cat.

[digilight]

hehehe So she keeps her girlfriend on a short leash (sorry couldn't resist). You know whats crazy, is that some asshats have to complain about everything. In my experience some of the nicest, most intelegent folks I've ever known have been the ones who have dressed and portrayed themselves on the fringe of society. Whether its the goth look or the punk look with the 2 foot tall hawks, or the headbangers. These are the ones who are more or less wearing their emotions on their sleeves.

Some of them may be filled with angst, but I doubt that they are filled with hate. Hell the chance of them being a detrement to society is about as high as the chance of them being filled with candy.

And for the record, I consider myself a ubber conservative republican. I would much rather my kids come home wearing goth type clothes or whatever then coming home on dope!!!!

So these bitchy, nosy, freaks need to just shut the fuck up, and mind their own business. Let people live their own lives. Expecially considering that kids today are still trying to find out who they are, and what makes them tick. We've all gone thru our phases. When I was younger it was the goth, metal head, and mope scene. Yeah Sixiou and the banshees, Depeche Mode, and Slayer.

[DesignFox]

In high school, I used to wear spiked collars quite frequently. I had three- one with rainbow, shifting color type stuff- one with leopard print- and one that was black with two rows of studs and the spikes in the middle.

One of my friends used to joke around about my dog collars, and got me a matching black leash for Christmas (my favorite collar was the black one). It having been that we exchanged gifts during school hours, I hooked up the leash and handed it to one of my scarier looking companions and let him "walk" me around to my next class.

We all got a laugh out of it...and lots of funny looks.

I'm much tamer in appearance, now. But I know I dressed in all black, skulls and collars and I wasn't a trouble maker- so I don't make assumptions about anyone else based on their appearance, either.

[Becks]

I'd bet the "odd" customers are better customers overall than the busybody types.
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I would also bet the "odd" ones would be less likely to have unreasonable requests, or expectations, or to argue store policies.

From my cashiering experience, it's true. Very true.

Many theories as to why.

[Emmeileia]

Kudos to those girls.

I used to wear a collar and leash out to the bar with my boyfriend on occasion, but I had to stop because drunk people though it was an invitation to gab the leash and run off to show their friends. Hello, I need to BREATH!

Now handcuffs, those are fun. Occasionaly my friends and I will randomly hancuff ourselves together.

[MystyGlyttyr]

Heh, please. These folks have to actually see gothic wear to get offended? Welcome to rural Arkansas.

People at school used to look at me funny for wearing...now get this awful outfit...

An oversized white dress shirt, down to three inches above the knees, sleeves unbuttoned.
Tan corduroy pants.
Black platform boots.
A white cowboy hat.
Sunglasses.

Oh, and with perfectly normal shoulder-length blonde hair, no piercings, no tattoos.

People who had known me for 12 years would actually veer around me in the hallway because of THAT outfit. The same people who came to school straight from hunting camp still wearing their camo overalls.

Top it if you can.