rude comments on appearance

[chainedbarista]

it's so irritating, rude and insensitive; it's further reinforcement of the opinion (imo) that we're so stupid we can't, don't and won't recognize our own 'flaws.'

we're not allowed to comment on their 'flaws,' what makes it seem ok for them comment on anyone else's??

also, i've found that putting a waxed based tea tree oil product on cracks, cuts and pimples has helped me fight those problems with good results (i get the cuts from the numerous steel surfaces and the dry hands from the sanitizer we use at work-plays hell with my skin).

another thing that helped with my acne (which has plagued me since i was 18) was using skyn icelandia; my skin is the clearest it's been since i was in high school, making me one happy camper.

[Lady Heather]

I have had acne and acne scars sense I was 10 years old. Still do. Let the rudness begin. The scars go down both arms to my elbows. Wearing a "girls" T-shirt with those cute half sleaves is really not a good idea. The worst is when they don't say anything, they just stare, or try to glance without geting caught. A coworker was the worst: "Oh! My God! Is that an alergic reaction? Did you get poision ivy?". I just looked at her walked to the back and put my sweatshirt on.

[Saydrah]

Language Warning:

When I worked for an environmental organization, we had a trainee who was absolutely one of the most beautiful people I've ever met- seemed like the inside matched, from what I saw of her, too. Long curly hair all the way down her back, looked like possibly part Hawaiian, the figure of a dancer- just GORGEOUS. People dripped jealousy looking at her. She actually WAS a dancer- a fire dancer, actually- at her other job, and like most dancers, she wore stretchy, loose fitting clothes, easy to move in stuff. Nothing nearly as skanky as most 12 year olds today wear, but pretty, stretchy clothing.

Then one day she was wearing a knee length cotton skirt and a matching half-sleeve shirt with a neckline low enough to show a small amount of cleavage (her tasteful tattoo on her forearm was showing, too), she talked to someone who responded with:

"IT IS ABSOLUTELY INAPPROPRIATE FOR A WOMAN TO DRESS LIKE THAT! You look like a WHORE! You should NEVER go out in public wearing that and showing your tits to EVERYONE YOU MEET! COVER UP, WHORE!"

She was so traumatized she quit that day.

Thanks, jerk, you just lost us a good employee.

[Ttam]

Well... there always is the possibility that at least some of them are trying to be friendly... being concerned about the overall wellbeing of a stranger, even if it's none of their business. For instance, when someone looks obviously tired, I will sometimes try to lighten things up with a comment like "Try not to work too hard, now." I know it doesn't really do anything except to possibly illicit a wry grin, but that's what's intended anyway.

Still, there are those sayings regarding "The best intentions".... After all, even well-wishes can sound like jabs when its something a person is sensitive about... And then there are people who just are sucky, plain and simple. The rulers of their own personal universe, and wanting to be of yours as well. I get all sorts of hassle over the fact that I'm a guy with long hair which ticks me off because I like the way it looks this way and no, I don't plan to cut it off just because someone who I've never met before and have no interest in ever meeting again thinks it would look better short. What the heck business is it of theirs anyway?

I'm always getting comments over looking tired too, actually. Stems mostly from the way I slouch (since at 6'4" it brings me closer to eye level with others), slow speech, large periods where I don't move at all, and, interestingly enough, dark under-eye area. I tend to let it slide, though, since for one it doesn't really bother me that much and two, I have trouble sleeping often and they're not always wrong. Still, it bothers the heck out of me when people will keep asking over and over "Are you sure you're not tired?" Yes. I'm pretty darn sure I'm not tired. I think I'd be the first one to know. Or am I just boring you too badly, cuz I can leave if you want.

[GingerBiscuit]

I have the dark shadows too. It's genetic for me, and I'm quit fair skinned so it shows up more. They get worse when I'm eating badly, stressed or not sleeping.


No concealer covers them totally I've found, but a yellow based light reflecting one is the best on I've tried so far.

I don't get so many rude comments about my appearance, but I do get a few hair related comments- my hair is long and died a vivid red, so can attract attention- good and bad.

[crazylegs]

Had a customer today ask me, point blank, "Are you really that tall, or are you standing on a box?"

Check.

Whats the weather like up there?

Check

How tall are you?

Check

Do you play basketball?

Check

Have you always been that tall?

Check (answer, yes, my mother still walks with a limp to this day)

[Ttam]

Check.

Whats the weather like up there?

Check

How tall are you?

Check

Do you play basketball?

Check

Have you always been that tall?

Check (answer, yes, my mother still walks with a limp to this day)

Gotten all those too..... Enough so to come up with a few retorts.

What's the weather like up there?
Clear, but I'm getting tired of having to dodge satellites.

How tall are you?
Get me a ruler long enough and I'll tell you.

Do you play basketball?
Are you a jockey?

Have you always been that tall?
Nope. When I was 6 I accidentally took a bath in hot water and shrunk.

Have you gotten taller?
No, it's the heels. (Note: As a guy, I obviously don't own anything with a raised heel.)

[XCashier]

Do you play basketball?

One of the best T-shirts I ever saw, worn by a woman about 6 feet tall: "No, I don't play basketball. Do you play miniature golf?"

[Marxfan]

Oh, I know what it's like to have unprovoked remarks on my appearance. I even posted a thread here on Customers Suck about how a lady told me I was too pale and needed a tan. People just need to get over their little self esteem issues and leave everyone else alone.

[RecoveringKinkoid]

An icy, pointed "No, I'm not tired at all, but thank you for noticing." usually gets the point across. And nobody can say you were rude, either. Same for that old chestnut "I beg your pardon?" That's a line that usually snaps people back into reality.

And by the way, I've used an equally steely "Yes, thank you, I'm well aware of that." in regards to zits, dark circles, etc. Seems to embarass the rude person into better behaviour most of the time.

[Raieth]

I also have dark circles and only recently has my zit problem cleared up. I finally lost it one day when a woman said I should wash my face and get more sleep. I asked her "What made you think that was an appropriate comment?" And I wouldn't let her leave until I got an answer. When she said "well I said nothing wrong it was just a bit of advice" I replied with "Well then as a bit of advice you're due for another shot of botox, you may want to rethink the belt you're wearing and maybe you shouldn't comment on things that people are probably sensitive about."

Granted this woman had been a nose in the air bitch the whole transaction. I seriously thought I'd get in trouble for saying that but she never told management.

[RecoveringKinkoid]

Ouch, Raieth, nicely done!

Something I've noticed that if you call people out on their inappropriateness, they seldom try to retaliate. I think either they realize they were out of line and are embarassed, or they dont' want to have to admit that they acted badly enough to provoke that kind of chewing out. If they ratted on you, it would come out that they'd provoked you.

[Zeeko]

I get a few comments on my appearance although most I enjoy making the most of.

For example I get a lot of "Happy Days"-like "Aaaayyyss" with the thumbs up. My general reply is "Hey Mr. C!" on the account of my long side burns. Usually a good ice breaker.

Me and my co-worker get this often "Hey are you guys brothers?" Due to his brilliant idea of copying my facial hair. We usually have two replies: 1. Nope, we're sisters. or 2. Na my coworker is just my younger cloned version I use for spare parts.

[protege]

I replied with "Well then as a bit of advice you're due for another shot of botox, you may want to rethink the belt you're wearing and maybe you shouldn't comment on things that people are probably sensitive about."

Pwned!

I too have the dark eye circles. No matter how much sleep I get, they're still around (pun intended, hehe). And yes, I look tired most of the time--that's not helped by 9 hours of work followed by maybe 1.5 hours at the gym, and weekends helping my grandmother. Even with 8 hours of sleep, i still look tired.

...and if one more person tells me to "hit the gym" I'm going to hit them. Yes really. I know I have a "spare tire" and yes, I don't like it. However, sitting around 9 hours a day at work doesn't help things.

While I'm at it, I should mention the idiots who tell me to "lay off the booze" since I sometimes walk with a limp when it's cold. I don't drink much, and if I do, I don't go anywhere. I limp because I wrecked my knees in an auto accident (the same one that damaged my jaw)...the colder weather sometimes causes pain or the joints to seize.

[Fawn]

Ever since I've worn glasses I've had dark circles under my eyes. I figure its strain thing related to the eye and the glasses. One positive of wearing glasses is that you don't notice the dark circles to much (until you take them off).

I'd definitely be mad if someone ever said those kind of things to me.