You get what you pay for

[LdyJedi]

Is she going to have Mommy carry her spawn, too? Let her do all the hard work

[Gurndigarn]

Um....I think that's "2nd wedding" as in the same couple, but just doing the ceremony again elsewhere. That's starting to happen a lot for couples that have relatives that can't make it to the original ceremony....or the one's that did go Vegas!

Oh, I know. And I knew. But seriously, I suspect this one is going to end in divorce, probably in less than four years.

I've said it many times, but it's still worth repeating: too many people plan the ideal wedding, but don't give a moment's thought to the ideal marriage. Which is a plan for disaster.

[Kelly Lynne]

Yea, I know someone who had two ceremonies- one where she lived for her family and friends-plus, she is not Catholic, and one ceremony out where the groom's family lived- and his family is super-Catholic. <snip>
I find it hard to believe that if you are getting married- your families can't find time to all get together under one roof.

Tangent....I got married this past summer and "sort of" had two receptions. My family lives in northwest PA, and the wedding was in southeast PA, where the hubby and I went to school, where most of our college friends live, and where some of his family is. (The rest is in Maryland near us, or scattered throughout the country.)

So, we went on our honeymoon, then headed over to my parents, where we had a nice low-key picnic/party/second reception. Partly because my dad likes to cook and this was a great excuse, partly because great-aunts and second cousins and such wouldn't trek down to Philly for the wedding, but would want to get together to celebrate. Since a lot of them are older, that whole "travel" thing can be an issue, too. Nor could we have invited the whole extended family even if they'd all been right next door. *Huge* Irish Catholic family on my dad's side, and a fair number on my mom's.

Two ceremonies strikes me as excessive and silly, though, especially expecting the attendants to go to both. *Especially* when there are plane tickets involved. I think the only people who were at our wedding and picnic both were Matt and me, my parents and brother, and my grandparents and cousin.

[friendofjimmyk]

An apartment complex I used to live in actually had a sign printed up and hanging in the office saying:

"The lack of planning on your part does not constitute an emergency on our part."

I wanted to take it with me so bad when I moved out. Too bad it was pretty much a slumlord type complex.

Yeah, I love that saying. I forgot where I heard it or saw it, but it's great.

[Kogarashi]

Daaang....

I had my wedding dress bought and paid for four months before my wedding. Luckily, I just happened to fit into the dress just right when I tried it on in the shop. At least, it looked right enough to me that I didn't bother worrying about alterations.

And this whole "2nd wedding" thing is why I'm glad of how my church does weddings: ceremony is low-key, inexpensive, and private. All the money is spent on the reception (two receptions in my case, but that's because I'm from NY and my husband is from Texas, and we wanted to fit in a party for each side of the family and their friends. Only our immediate family members went to both receptions).

[Seanette]

DH and I did the "one ceremony, two receptions". Due to geographical and other considerations, there were about three people (DH, me, and one very close friend who'd had more flexibility in travel than most other involved parties) who attended all three events.

[Jester]

As for the bride's mother getting her money back....well, personally, I think if she is returning the first dress, unworn, she should get her money back on that. I don't see a problem with that.

But they want to KEEP the second dress as well and get their money back on that, just because the mother could not be bothered to listen and/or read the shipping policy?

Um....no. Either return the dress, or pay for the dress. You don't get both due to your daughter's laziness and your stupidity.

"Here's your sign!!!