Tired of this...

[ExiledV20]

My dad says it's important if I stay at my job; he says if I move around, then my resume looks weaker.

Speaking as someone who has to go over the resumes and hire for my team, that's usually crap.

1) We don't care who you worked for or how long previous to your attainment of the age of 18. Hell, we don't much care if you're full time in college and bouncing around.

2) I'd rather have someone who bounced around between jobs and has good references than someone who's been plodding along at the same place for years. The bouncer is going to be more flexible and amenable to change. The plodder is going to be more dedicated to doing things the way he's always done them. That doesn't work when the environment changes every 3-4 months and requires you to be fast on your feet.

3) You are generally not going to work for a corporation these days for more than 4-5 years. In fact, working for a place longer than that can be a detriment in getting a position elsewhere. If you worked for a place for 10 years, why would you want to move? The prevailing thinking is that they forced you out, regardless of the explanation given.

[Mikkel]

Got the rents to consider my point of view, filled out an application today. They said they weren't hiring, but the people I know encouraged me to file anyway. Hoping for the best.

Great news.

[LadyAndreca]

My parents could be relatively unreasonable about my first job, too. I totalled the car turning into the movie theater parking lot to apply for a job there (hit another car I didn't see). When Mom showed up, after the police reports were taken care of and insurance exchanged, she marched me into the theater and had me still apply for the job! I was so shaken I nearly botched the interview, and for some reason they let Mom sit in the room for it so I got an earful about THAT on the way home.

Mom was also the worst SC I ever had at that job. Since I was an employee, immediate family got to see movies for free, and they went to see Star Wars Ep I--a rare treat for the family, as we couldn't afford to go to the movies at the time. So my parents bought a bag of popcorn for everyone to share and small sodas. Now, we could get fired for failing to offer upgrades on sodas, so I didn't even think when I went ahead with my script. Mom tore my head off, ranting about how I KNEW how little money we had, they were only in the theater because of the free tickets, they were only getting popcorn because they didn't have to pay for tickets, I KNEW she couldn't finish a small, how DARE I ask, etc etc. The rest of the concessionists turned to STARE at her (our usual method of derailing SCs and EWs...worked pretty well when 3-6 uniformed people were STARING and not saying anything) but she didn't wind down. My siblings were trying desperately to pretend they belonged with someone else, but Dad's comment was "That was pretty dumb of you."

Mom is totally flabbergasted whenever I bring up that story, too. She cannot imagine that she could possibly be a bad customer, much less such a bad one that it took nearly ten years to meet someone worse.

I love my parents (when I'm not living with them!), but by the time I turned 18, I HAD to get away from them. I went to college as far away as scholarships could get me. They never have figured out why I've been so eager to stay as far away from home as possible.

[octopi23]

My parents could be relatively unreasonable about my first job, too. I totalled the car turning into the movie theater parking lot to apply for a job there (hit another car I didn't see). When Mom showed up, after the police reports were taken care of and insurance exchanged, she marched me into the theater and had me still apply for the job! I was so shaken I nearly botched the interview, and for some reason they let Mom sit in the room for it so I got an earful about THAT on the way home.

Mom was also the worst SC I ever had at that job. Since I was an employee, immediate family got to see movies for free, and they went to see Star Wars Ep I--a rare treat for the family, as we couldn't afford to go to the movies at the time. So my parents bought a bag of popcorn for everyone to share and small sodas. Now, we could get fired for failing to offer upgrades on sodas, so I didn't even think when I went ahead with my script. Mom tore my head off, ranting about how I KNEW how little money we had, they were only in the theater because of the free tickets, they were only getting popcorn because they didn't have to pay for tickets, I KNEW she couldn't finish a small, how DARE I ask, etc etc. The rest of the concessionists turned to STARE at her (our usual method of derailing SCs and EWs...worked pretty well when 3-6 uniformed people were STARING and not saying anything) but she didn't wind down. My siblings were trying desperately to pretend they belonged with someone else, but Dad's comment was "That was pretty dumb of you."

Mom is totally flabbergasted whenever I bring up that story, too. She cannot imagine that she could possibly be a bad customer, much less such a bad one that it took nearly ten years to meet someone worse.

I love my parents (when I'm not living with them!), but by the time I turned 18, I HAD to get away from them. I went to college as far away as scholarships could get me. They never have figured out why I've been so eager to stay as far away from home as possible.

My mom's kinda like that too, what with the inability to admit being wrong.

[Kristev]

And my mother, too.

[Kogarashi]

Congrats on being given a chance, Octopi!

[Geek King]

Got the rents to consider my point of view, filled out an application today. They said they weren't hiring, but the people I know encouraged me to file anyway. Hoping for the best.

Way to go Octopi! If the Library job works out, just make sure to fufill your duties. Many younger workers are seen as slackers, so even just doing your job decently will make you seem like a wunderkind. Good Luck!

[trailerparkmedic]

Employees are not paid to take abuse, whether it be from customers, other coworkers, or management.

Good luck Octopi!
Congrats on your parents giving in a tiny bit! I worked at a library in high school and it was great. I LOVED it. They actually treated me like a human.
I really hope you get the job.

[BigBird]

This is a good thread to read, especially if you're the parent of a teenagers (like me). It's a good reminder that we have to be reasonable with our kids, and be sure we are advocates for them as well. We need to listen to what our kids have to say, and remember that the world they are growing up in is different than the one we grew up in. Just because they don't want to follow the work ethic that we grew up with doesn't mean that they can't develop a good work ethic that works for them in this day and age.

We can't force our opinions on them, and if we don't listen to what they have to say, they will go behind our backs, and won't bother to ask us for our opinions. How can we expect our kids to become responsible adults if we don't trust them to listen to our advice, but ultimately do what is best for them?

I will get off my soap box now, and go make supper for my rotten kids