Woman stands up to her SC Husband

[Kara]

So I came in this morning and checked my worklist, and I had an account scheduled for me to go back in and waive the Activation Fees because the customer canceled within the "buyer's remorse" period. I pulled up the account and it had 3 active lines. Not sure what was going on, because I'm too much of a perfectionist to forget to cancel someone's account, I read my notes from when I first talked to them, and had myself a good laugh.

Customer called me about a month ago, and he sounded very perturbed. There was a woman's name on the account, but here is the actual call (I remember this guy quite well).

SC: I want this account canceled RIGHT NOW!
ME: I'm sorry to hear you want to cancel. I see the lines were just activated a few days ago, was there a problem with the service?
SC: Yeah, you bet there's a problem. I didn't authorize this account, that's the problem!
ME: Well, it looks like the account is in a different name-
SC: That's right. It's my wife's account, and I didn't authorize her to have a phone.
ME (No. He. DIDN'T! ): Um... It looks like she activated at a store, and she got the service in her own name and SSN, so...
SC: TURN THE PHONES OFF! I didn't give her permission to have ANY lines!

At this point, all I could do was cancel the lines, because he had verified her account. I only hoped the poor woman hadn't been beaten over this (I've heard that happen while on the phone with customers. If only murder were legal, I'd hunt scumbags like this down...).

So in checking the account today, I find that she called not an hour later, furious (and with good reason) that her husband had canceled her account. She had the lines restored, then set a security password (so anyone who doesn't have that password can't do squat with the account), and had us add a special instruction that even if he did somehow manage to get the password, her husband is to have no access whatsover.

So here's to you, wherever you are. Now ditch that dickweed of a husband and you'll be all set

[blas]

He sounds like one of the men that were on the Maury show the other day. This father and son duo both make their wives deposit their earnings into THEIR checking account, among the other shit they pull................

Men like that don't deserve the privilege of being married to a lady.

[DarthRetard]

nice guy right here, but it's beyond me to how some women stand those assholes. really....

[RecoveringKinkoid]

Yes, men like this suck. However, the women who put up with it pretty much volunteered for this sort of treatment when they marry, and stand by, men like this.

I understand in many cases there is fear and a certain amount of brainwashing, and that's awful. But the bottom line is that this is a situation where the person in the best position to help the woman is the woman herself.

[OfficeSlug]

How do guys like this GET a woman?

Now I'm sufficiently depressed.

[blas]

I can guarantee when they first met and dated, and maybe while they were engaged and first married, he was probably a total prince. Some people's true colors tend to come out long after we think we truly know someone.

[tollbaby]

Folks, meet my dad He once grounded me for a month when he caught me leaving the house on a Saturday morning (at age 15) to go ice skating with my best friend. I had asked (and gotten) my mom's permission over the phone from work because my dad was sleeping. So why was I grounded? I didn't get HIS permission (I had left a note on the fridge saying where I was going, my best friend's PARENTS were coming with us).

He's rarely like that with my mom or my brother (occasionally with my mom... but he's also never raised a hand to them). Beat the crap out of me and terrorized / 100% controlled my life for 17 years before I left home.

NEVER EVER give the excuse that "well, the person might change" when someone shows their true colors after being charming and witty and drawing you into their life. They don't change. They never stop trying to control and/or hurt you. EVER. My father STILL tries to control what I do, where I work, etc. I've been on my own for 14 years. I'm not about to let some psychopathic bastard run my life for me, and that's why I see my parents as little as possible and NEVER trust them alone with my kids.

[Shironu-Akaineko]

My second ex TRIED that with me. He got mad at me for a whole day for FIXING his stereo (the cassette door was out of it's hinge, oh boohoo), then threw his phone pretty friggin' close to my head.

I said "Oh you wanna break stuff? You can do it alone. BYE!" And never looked back.

My favorite story is what my mom did to my dad after he punched her...

[wagegoth]

My favorite story is what my mom did to my dad after he punched her...

Well . . .

[Shironu-Akaineko]

Allright, heehee~

My dad came in drunk one night and laid in bed. My mom asked where he was, no screaming, no accusations, just a half-asleep "Where were you?"

SPLAF fist to the face.

Mom was too sleepy to do anything, but she wasn't gonna let that slide.

The next morning, she sent lil 2 years old me to my Mamie and confronted my dad.

"What the hell was the big idea punching me???"
"THAT was the big idea!" SPLAF again....

Oh boy.

She threw an "unbreakable" ashtray to his head which he dodged. It hit the wall and broke. So much for unbreakable. Here's my favorite part.

She went between her legs and slid the chair from behind her to above her head! And he skedaddled! And she put all his stuff in two garbage bags and put them in the driveway!

In case nobody noticed, I'm no fond of my biological dad. He's pretty much a gigolo that only cares about me when his siblings reminds him. My StepDad is a MUCH better father. My mom and stepdad have been together for 20 years in '05 and celebrated by getting Married!

[ArenaBoy]

I detest those jerks who try to make their girlfriend/wife's life miserable. It makes me wish that we could put eugenics into practice when it comes to these dickweeds.

Threadjack Alert: Tollbaby is right about those types; they never change. I "had" a friend who was complaining about her boyfriend being a jerk to her. I got sick of it that I simply said: "Look, you're a great person and everything but if there's one thing that's making me annoyed it's you CONSTANTLY going on about your asswipe boyfriend. If he's that bad dump him and move on." The reply? "But he'll change and you really need to get to know him." Right then and there I got up from my seat, said good-bye and walked off. Really, guys like the one in the OP need to be sterile.. /threadjack

[Max]

to Tollbaby and Shironu-Akaineko. I'm glad that both of you have moved on after having had such creeps for dads. Good for you for becoming so strong and independent!!

[Kiwi]

Yes, men like this suck. However, the women who put up with it pretty much volunteered for this sort of treatment when they marry, and stand by, men like this.

I understand in many cases there is fear and a certain amount of brainwashing, and that's awful. But the bottom line is that this is a situation where the person in the best position to help the woman is the woman herself.

Thats a pretty general call, it took my mum six years to break free from my fathes abuse. I have alot of issues with my mum but she was the victim of abuse, humiliation and violence. It took every ounce of strength she had to leave him and I think god she did in the end.

My mum didnt stand by my father, she hated him, but pathetic men like him, threaten to take away everything you love, that they will ruin your lives, that they will kill you. Its not something that you can laugh off and walk away from. Men like that drive your self esteem into the ground, make you feel worthless, and totally dependant on them. My father completely changed once they were married, he was apprently prince charming before hand. It took a cast iron frying pan and my grandfather threatening to scalp him to get him out of the house the final time.

I think this kind of thing has to go on a case by case basis. Its very easy for me to ask my mum why she didnt leave the first time he hit her. It sounds like this lady is trying to stand up for herself.

[Eireann]

It's true. The abusers do everything they can to keep you dependent on them, keep you believing the lies they tell you in a pathetic attempt to "justify" their rotten behavior.

And it's also true that it's up to the person IN that relationship to get OUT. Nobody does it for you, and that's the common pronblem. People in abusive relationships delude themselves with the thought that "someday" things will get better. Only "someday" never comes, and before they know it, years have passed, things have only worsened, and they're so mired in the abuse, they've forgotten what life was like without it.

I got out of more than one abusive relationship (didn't learn my lesson after the first) and I KNOW how hard it is, and I KNOW that NOBODY could do it for me. The decision lay solely with me. There is ALWAYS a choice, which is something else I know full well.

[zzapp the witch]

Sounds like my late husband (may he rot in Hell for eternity) and my last ex. Yeah, they sure brainwash you. I was pretty dumb for getting myself into that situation, but the ex hubby was gooooood at it. Took me 3 and a half years to get away. At the time, I had no phone (not even in the house), no car, no driver's license (he faked mailing in my renewal), no money, was in the house all th time. And 3 weeks after my loving parents drove 1500 miles one way to save me and my kids, he was dead. Four months later, had an old aquaintance get ahold of my and never left, I honestly couldn't get him to leave. I didn't know how.

But when I finally did I never looked back and I've run off so many pukes....it was just luck I met my boyfriend, and such a wonderful loving man he is.