AHHHHHHHHHHHH!

[Moirae]

Time to find a new job.

What the hell is it that I can't find a job where I can stay long term in this country? So tired of the complete lying bullshit of some people. And why do they believe them? I have no idea. Because the liar is kind of cute and a good liar? Because I don't allow people to walk all over me?

Sick to death of this.

Having a hard time not crying every second. And I feel so tired all the time. Put my everything into this place. I've never worked harder in my life at any job. I make barely above a clerks wage. And somehow I'm expected to be omniscient, to work all hours, and any time, to do all positions at all times, yet allow everyone else to walk all over me so THEY don't have to do their job while they lie through their teeth.

There's this insane idea of "if you work hard, you'll get ahead" in this country. How about "if you work hard, and do everyone elses work for them without saying a word, then someone MIGHT decide they like you enough to give you a little bump. Either that, or you need to catch them with their pants down".

So tired of this. And I don't know what to do anymore. Starting to wonder why I ever bother trying.

[notalwaysright]

I have no wise advice for you. But it sounds like you're at the end of your rope, and if you make the decision to leave I'm sure that everything will work out.

[Irving Patrick Freleigh]

Either that, or you need to catch them with their pants down".

It's not what you know, it's who you....

[raudf]

There are two things you do not owe any employer.. your health or your life. If you can take the time off, do it. Either way, step back and decide what you want to do about the situation. If you walk away, well, things have a way of working out. If you stay make it on your terms, not theirs.

Right now, though, don't push yourself too hard and don't beat yourself up over how you feel. There's only so much bullshit anyone can take before snapping.

[Moirae]

Ok, so I just had it confirmed... they are trying to force me to find another job because of lying little bitch. Apparently they know I work my ass off, that I'm very good at what I do, but lying little bitch has managed to convince them of favoritism towards me so they really think its best if I left. But oh, they don't want to fire me.

[Irving Patrick Freleigh]

Of course not. Then they would have to pay you unemployment.

[Moirae]

I don't get it... I'm doing a great job but they want me to leave because... wtf? I have worked my ass off for these people. I created all the standards that belong to this front desk and housekeeping from scratch. Hours and hours I've worked. Hours and hours of discussing and working through the issues at the hotel. Extra hours. I've never put so much of myself into any place I've ever worked in my life. This feels like such a massive betrayal, I don't even have the words.

[Marmalady]

It's not what you know, it's who you....

To be honest, the older I get, the more I think it's not what you know, and it's not who you know either - it's what you know about who you know.

[KuariKaydrith]

I'd be very tempted to go after the lying bitch that stirred up all this shit for the OP. It doesn't make sense that the liar would be getting away with this while you are being pushed out of your job! What does your husband think about what is going on, Moirae?

[Moirae]

He's pissed and has tried to talk to the owner but that's only seemed to make it worse. Now the owner constantly spouts "nepotism" and won't listen to anything we say. The owner won't even talk to me about any of this. He just said to me last week that we ganged up on the bitch. My husband says that I need to find a job and he will leave a month or so after so I can get settled first.

I'm really starting to wonder if it's me. You've all heard my stories on here. Ever since I moved to the US, every single place I've worked at, the owners have turned out to be batshit crazy, or the managers have been a living hell. What am I doing that's so horrible? I know the industry almost inside and out. I work hard, sometimes too hard. What the hell is going on that everything always crashes and burns on me? Even my sister mentioned today that I always get screwed wherever I work and she doesn't know why. I'm always told that I'm very good at what I do, and yet it always ends up with everything going to hell within two or three years and I quit, or get fired. I have to admit, this is the first time I've ever been pushed out.

I've been crying almost non-stop for two days. I've never ever put so much of myself in a job before. I've never ever worked so hard. Lived and breathed the place. This is the first time we've ever been in charge, and the first time I ever made manager in a place.

Yet I get nothing for it. I don't understand.

[Marmalady]

Maybe, moirae, it's because your work ethic shows up the others for what they are, and they don't like it? Or maybe it's because workplace politics just isn't your game? (I know it was never mine, and I've had my share of getting dumped on because of it)

When I started out on my working life, I believed that if I worked hard and tried my best, I'd be rewarded for it, get on, progress. Now it seems that those who yap loudest get listened to first.

[Moirae]

Seems to me that kissing the bosses ass every second while lying through your teeth gets you the most. Being honest and hard working only seems to get you stabbed in the back.

[Marmalady]

It's the case of the willing horse getting the heaviest load, hun. Sadly, there are plenty who don't see why they should have to knuckle down to work while there's someone else who'll make up for what they haven't done *gives cookies and chocolate milk*

[greek_jester]

I've been crying almost non-stop for two days. I've never ever put so much of myself in a job before. I've never ever worked so hard. Lived and breathed the place. This is the first time we've ever been in charge, and the first time I ever made manager in a place.

Yet I get nothing for it. I don't understand.

I don't normally advocate this, but this is a classic case where you need to go to the doctor and see if you can get signed off for workplace stress.


Also, IANAL and don't know the local laws, but surely this would be a good case to sue for constructive dismissal? That may at least allow you to claim unemployment.

[Headset Hellion]

If your HR or insurance allows FMLA leave or short-term disability leave, I I recommend looking into those options. I've had to take leave myself, after I let workplace stress take me to the edge of a nervous breakdown. I don't think there's any shame in that. If you were physically injured on the job, no one would expect you to walk around with a broken leg (not counting SCs!)...if your job is causing mental anguish/injury, what's the difference? Either way your work has caused a major negative impact on your quality of life and your ability to carry out your daily activities.

It was mentioned earlier that they want you to quit so they don't have to pay out for unemployment; I completely agree. Don't let them force you out. I wouldn't even discuss this topic with them any further unless the conversation is in writing. Emails and text messages might not be considered as official as registered mail, but they're better than "he said, she said" nonsense. Obviously IANAL and YMMV.

I really hope that everything works out for you. I know how it feels to give your heart and soul to a job only to get nothing but heartache in return.