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    HEY YOU GUYS!!!!

    Sorry, I couldn't resist. But anyway, that's the topic today. A bit silly, but apparently the debate about whether or not servers should say "you guys" to restaurant patrons has become quite the issue...among people with way too much time on their hands.

    One such group of people happened to dine at my place of work and complimented me for not calling them "you guys." I said that my manager had told us in a meeting once that "you guys" sounded immature, and I didn't really need another reason for people to think I'm still in high school (I'm 21). We chatted, they tipped well, and I thought nothing of it.

    ...Until last Thursday when a very big metropolitan paper published a letter these people had written gushing about how they went to dine at "X" restaurant and " we expected our young waitress Giggle Goose to greet us as 'you guys' and were so happy when she didn't!" It's a very widely read paper, too; not the local paper, (which is mostly used to cover the table before a crab feast). So it was pretty sweet....but kind of petty.
    "If you are planning not to tip, please let your server know before ordering so they can decide whether or not to wait on you" - from an advice column I read some time ago
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    Given that I'm 23 and still use the phrase it wouldn't phase me, and I think I've even used it at work before. It does strike me as a somewhat odd thing to pick up on though.

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    • #3
      "You guys" is too male-oriented. I prefer the gender neutral and somewhat homey "you folks".

      These are fine in casual or family restaurants. What would one say in a formal restaurant?
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      • #4
        I have used "you guys," "you folks," "my friends," "y'all," and even "kids" or "you crazy kids"...these last ones generally to people in their thirties and up. It makes quite an impression.

        Keep in mind, both of my establishments are very casual, so I can get away with this. But I have worked at fine dining, and when addressing people there, I tend to stick with things like "you fine folks," etc. "You guys" in a fine dining restaurant? Unless you know them, just not a good idea. Heck, even the plural and generic "you" works just fine, too.

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        • #5
          I say, "you guys" sometimes and I'm 35- it's what I've always said and probably will always say. I also say, "you all" and, "y'all". I try and refrain from, "y'all" because I was born/raised in Missouri and it just seems to perpetuate the 'cowgirl' persona people seem to associate with the Mid- West. People get the idea I was raised on a farm- which couldn't be farther from the truth.
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          • #6
            I never picked up the "You guys" bit in my speech. I do say "Hey guys," but only if it's all guys. I DO say "you all" or "yu'all" (not y'all, there's a definate 'u' sound.) even though I know that the plural of you is you. Which I still maintain is stupid. Blah.
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            • #7
              I only use "you guys" with my friends... as in "what are you guys doing tonight" or "did you guys do <whatever>?" but not with customers. Though working in the bookstore there's not much call for addressing groups of customers as there is in a restaurant...unless I'm telling a group of kids to stop running around...then I use it
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              • #8
                IMHO as a restaurant patron and not a food service worker. For casual dining, not a problem, for higher end formal dining, probably not appropriate. Folks is a good alternative to guys or just you.
                The only words you said that I understood were "His", "Phone" and "Ya'll". The other 2 paragraphs worth was about as intelligible as a drunken Teletubby barkin' come on's at a Hooter's waitress.

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                • #9
                  Quoth NightAngel View Post
                  I say, "you guys" sometimes and I'm 35- it's what I've always said and probably will always say. I also say, "you all" and, "y'all". I try and refrain from, "y'all" because I was born/raised in Missouri and it just seems to perpetuate the 'cowgirl' persona people seem to associate with the Mid- West. People get the idea I was raised on a farm- which couldn't be farther from the truth.
                  I use "y'all" which my husband blames on me being from the Mid-West.

                  My husband and I don't really care if someone refers to us as "you guys" but we are a goofy pair anyway.
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                  • #10
                    Quoth Broomjockey View Post
                    even though I know that the plural of you is you. Which I still maintain is stupid. Blah.
                    The second person singular in English is thou (thou/thee/thine), but it went out of fashion centuries ago. It migrated from general use to formal use, and then to not being used at all.

                    'You' has always been the plural, it just also became adopted as the singular. So it's not exactly that 'the plural of you is you', it's more that 'the singular of you is you'.


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                    • #11
                      Quoth Seshat View Post
                      English is a funny language.
                      I refer to English as a bastard language.

                      There's a line about English being what you got when Saxon fighters tried to pick up Norman barmaids.

                      Then there's the one about how English doesn't borrow from other languages, but rather follows other languages down dark alleys and knocks them out to go through their pockets for loose grammar.

                      "You guys" would be fine in an informal setting. For a formal setting, I'd likely be inclined to say "you people" to a group.

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                      • #12
                        In a formal setting, I would expect "ladies and/or gentlemen" even if they are not acting as such.
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                        • #13
                          I also say, "you all" and, "y'all". I try and refrain from, "y'all" because I was born/raised in Missouri and it just seems to perpetuate the 'cowgirl' persona people seem to associate with the Mid- West.
                          Odd, I'm from the Midwest and I've never even said "y'all". I know it could be a regional difference but I've always associated y'all with the South more or less.

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                          • #14
                            Quoth Seshat View Post
                            The second person singular in English is thou (thou/thee/thine), but it went out of fashion centuries ago. It migrated from general use to formal use, and then to not being used at all.

                            'You' has always been the plural, it just also became adopted as the singular. So it's not exactly that 'the plural of you is you', it's more that 'the singular of you is you'.


                            English is a funny language.
                            I LOVE tidbits of etymological information like this. If you haven't read it, "Mother Tongue" is a great book.

                            Thanks for the lesson, Seshat.

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                            • #15
                              Quoth ArenaBoy View Post
                              Odd, I'm from the Midwest and I've never even said "y'all". I know it could be a regional difference but I've always associated y'all with the South more or less.
                              You don't hear y'all very much here. Around here, quite a few people use "Yinz." As in "Yinz takin' the streecar Dahntahn to Liberty 'n' at?" Seriously. Use that word, and *everybody* knows where you're from
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