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  • So, I don't want to sound egotistical...

    but it seems that at least half of my male coworkers are infatuated with me, crushing on me, or some other variation of the above. And while it's flattering, it's also a little bit...uncomfortable for me.

    *Before I go any further with this post, I'm going to do the disclaimer: I am not egotistical, nor do I think I'm any more awesome than I actually am. From what I've been told: I am pretty, I have a small waist+big hips/butt/thighs so I seem to particularly attract black men, and I know a lot of about sports, so guys tend to pick up on that. Moreover, I'm super friendly, generally confident, and I try to be sweet and polite to everyone, regardless. But really...I don't understand why I get as much attention as I do sometimes. It kind of baffles me, and I feel the need to share.*

    To bring you up to speed to today, here's the scoop. I've been with the company I'm at for nearly 2.5 years, and moved between a few groups/call centers during my time. During that time, I have been on dates with a few coworkers, none of which really went anywhere beyond friendship. Of those three guys, I still work with two, and we're still cool. Also, I don't tend to broadcast all that, so most people around here don't really know about any of it. Keeps things less dramatic that way. I've given some variation of the "I'm glad we're friends" talk many times, to make sure I know where I stand with people, but I'm often oblivious when people *like* me, as I just think everyone is my friend.

    As of tonight, I'm sitting at my desk, minding my own business. This guy W, who works in a different group but in the same area as I do, wanders up to my desk. W can be rather off-putting, and often gives advice that he really doesn't have any reason or right to be giving. He starts yammering about having a 2-for-1 coupon for Medieval Times, and not being able to find anyone to go with. In between my work, I explain that I'm going to be either at work or out of town for the rest of the month, which is true, and then get a call before I can say much else. He wanders off, I think nothing of it, until K, my coworker, asks me if W just asked me out. Apparently he did, and I didn't even realize it.

    So, after we laughed about that for a few minutes, K lets me know that she has a confession to make, but I have to promise not to say anything. Ok...so K tells me that E (who you may remember from my other post about him pestering me about the Michael Vick situation) has a total crush on me. Apparently when I go on my dinner break, he tells K and L, another co worker, all about how beautiful I am, and how much I know about sports, etc, etc. Which doesn't shock me, but does weird me out a little. K even admits that she thinks L may have a thing for me too, which wouldn't be so bad, as he's a really chill kinda guy, and we get along real well. And both E and L, who are black, have made comments about me bein "built like a black girl," which usually just makes me laugh.

    After we laughed about that for a bit, K and I started realizing just how many of the guys around here have been teased for being after me though...I mean, aside from W, E and L, you've got D and J who I went out with, Z and S in the monitoring group who'll do anything I ask 'em to, A from tech support who's always asking about my business, R the married security guard who always stops me to chat, B the supervisor my dad's age who sometimes tries to flirt, and that doesn't even include P.

    P gets his own paragraph. One of our "sister" groups sits in another call center, that is basically on our way out of the building. Over time, I've gotten to know the guys who work 2nd/3rd shift over there, and among them is M, who is about 45 and just loves talking to people. M decided early on, after I came through one night to chat with him and P apparently made some comments about how "hot" I was, that he was going to hook us up and me and P were gonna get married. So now M is always teasing us about that, especially since P and I get along real well, and I'll hang out and talk to him at night. I always give M material to tease P about too, since P is always goin on about how "thick" I am, things like that.

    So yeah...I just felt the need to share, as I'm a little disconcerted and a lot amused, along with quite flattered, at this moment. And I needed to get it out of my system without having someone decide I was being arrogant...so I'm hoping y'all can find the humor in this like I do.

    So...anyone have stories about their coworkers falling for them/falling for their coworkers?
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  • #2
    First, I'd like to say it's pretty obvious why so many guys fall for you, as for most guys, knowing sports alone would put you in their "dream girl" category, the rest is just gravy.

    And yeah, I've fallen for a co-worker, but I hid it fairly well until she broke up with her boyfriend, or so I thought. She apparently wanted to get back together with him, so turned me down. We stayed friends afterward though.
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    • #3
      First off, I agree with Broom. Any girl who is willing to watch sports without complaining is a BIG BIG plus in my book. Hell, if she doesn't know the rules and is still willing to watch that's even better.

      Quoth myswtghst View Post
      So...anyone have stories about their coworkers falling for them/falling for their coworkers?
      I have a few. I did date a coworker for a while (A year and a half) but we did the following:

      1. Didn't broadcast our relationship. We kept it low key and worked events on different days. If it happened that we were working in the same spot we'd pretend to be friends.

      2. Come in at different times. Big emphasis on this. For example. Arenaboy: 3:00. AB's then g/f: 5:00. Discreet yet simple.

      3. AGAIN: DON'T BROADCAST YOUR RELATIONSHIP!!! The only exception is if you're married or something along those lines but a lot of problems can be caused if the relationship is broadcast. Especially if you're a manager and you're dating an employee.


      As for coworkers falling for others, good lord it was like a soap opera in there. Most of the relationships were employee-manager too. I stayed out of the gossip crap though, couldn't stand it.
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      • #4
        Will it freak you out to know that I married the man I met at work oh so many years ago?

        He was in building maintenance and I was in administrative support - seriously. He bought me a pair of roller skates as a joke and we started dating and then before we knew it- married!
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        • #5
          Quoth ArenaBoy View Post
          First off, I agree with Broom. Any girl who is willing to watch sports without complaining is a BIG BIG plus in my book. Hell, if she doesn't know the rules and is still willing to watch that's even better.
          I'll tell you what's even better: a woman at a baseball game who says things like, "See the way the batter's standing... the pitcher should be pitching him inside instead of low and away." Oooh... talk dirty to me.
          I was neat, clean, shaved and sober, and I didn't care who knew it. -- Raymond Chandler

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          • #6
            Quoth ArenaBoy View Post
            First off, I agree with Broom. Any girl who is willing to watch sports without complaining is a BIG BIG plus in my book. Hell, if she doesn't know the rules and is still willing to watch that's even better.
            One of my required qualifications in a wife was one who played RPGs and other games. What I ended up with was one better: she writes SF/F, and I think she's good at it. (We've still got to convince a publisher of that, though.)

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            • #7
              Quoth Gurndigarn View Post
              One of my required qualifications in a wife was one who played RPGs and other games. What I ended up with was one better: she writes SF/F, and I think she's good at it. (We've still got to convince a publisher of that, though.)
              Gurn, is she submitting short stories to small publications? Its a good place to start, and if she gets a number of short stories published, it gives her a better chance for a publisher to pick her up. Best of luck to her on that, its a tough world to break into!
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              • #8
                Argh you guys suck. Here I love sports, video games, anime, geek stuff, heavy metal and a wide variety of other "guy" stuff. I have to find the one guy in the world that can take or leave my beloved football. Do you know how many games I've missed for movies? Don't even start me on missing my hockey.

                He is into video games though, and heavy metal. *praise Jesus*

                As for coworkers, do the apprentices flirting with me count? Probably not since I know they're just kissing up so I don't mark them late. *evil laughter*
                Today was going to be just one of those days...you know, full of zombies.

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                • #9
                  I have to find the one guy in the world that can take or leave my beloved football. Do you know how many games I've missed for movies? Don't even start me on missing my hockey.
                  Stop it, stop it, stop it...don't make me love you!

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                  • #10
                    LOL well I prefer watching college as a general rule but um (and feel free to make fun of me) I have to watch my Vikings. It's just a bonus if they're playing those darned cheese heads.
                    Today was going to be just one of those days...you know, full of zombies.

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                    • #11
                      Heh heh, you're a Vikequeens fan!

                      This seems very appropriate.

                      Although I must say Adrian Peterson is going to be a real star. Wish the Packers would've gotten him.
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                      • #12
                        IPF, don't you rip on my Vikings or I'll send a pretty package of scented spicy suppositories your way!

                        Bf and I work at the same place. I swore I'd never do it again, but I didn't actually MEET him there. I've known him since I was 18. He works a total opposite shift of me on the opposite side of the factory. No one knows about us.
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                        • #13
                          Quoth Lil Bunny View Post
                          Don't even start me on missing my hockey.
                          I love you.

                          Anyways, back to the OP:

                          I have dated a couple of co-workers (one was when we worked together, one was after I had quit that job.) and been around several successful AND unsuccessful work relationships.

                          I've also had a crush on a co-worker that unfortunately (for me) never materialized into a relationship. However, your co-workers have to realize that work is work, after work is after work, and sometimes, the object of your affection does not want to return said affection. It's as simple as that.
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                          • #14
                            Quoth Spiffy McMoron View Post
                            However, your co-workers have to realize that work is work, after work is after work, and sometimes, the object of your affection does not want to return said affection. It's as simple as that.
                            I bless you for saying that, Spiffy.

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                            2. If you're consistently getting results you don't want, change what you do.
                            3. Deal with the situation you have now, however it occurred.
                            4. Accept the consequences of your decisions.

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                            • #15
                              Quoth blas87 View Post
                              IPF, don't you rip on my Vikings or I'll send a pretty package of scented spicy suppositories your way!
                              I have but one thing to say to you....

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