I'm just so done...

[KuariKaydrith]

I think I've hit the wall where my current job is concerned. I simply can't do it any longer - the very idea of going in for a shift is making me physically ill, and it's doing a number on my mental health. And I know that the Big Boss isn't going to magically become a proper manager, nor is she going to go away any time soon. And I found out today that she plans on forcing me to take on all the responsibilities that my co-AGM handled without any real decision-making power while she does her level best to undermine me and continue to treat me like utter shit.

I'm putting plans in place as I type this to quit and apply for EI - due to the place being a toxic work environment I shouldn't have too much problem. And I'm still actively looking for another job. I know that it's not going to be easy, but anything has to be better than this. I honestly think the Big Boss is well aware that I could do her job way better than her, and she's scared shitless that I may somehow swoop in and take it from her. The thing is that I'm not actively looking to take it from her - I want her gone, yes, but I've made no overt moves. It's a case of if it's offered to me before I walk out, I'll take it and make some sweeping changes that would see the hotel closed down long enough to get new staff hired and trained, and meetings with the owner to lay out how to come back from the disaster that the place currently is.

I mean, she got pissy at me over my refusal to make the staff work in the hotel without power or lights of any sort this morning and told me that I apparently was getting my back up. I told her that due to provincial health and safety regulations that I was not going to force anybody to work in the dark, and she didn't like that one bit. But then she's always been one for ignoring the laws, federal and provincial when it suites her, and I want no part of it. Other than to sic the Labour Board on her ass.

[Pixelated]

You have absolutely the right idea ... GET OUT NOW.
You can't afford to wait until another job comes along. If the owner isn't going to deal with this twit, then whatever happens to the hotel is on their head. The last thing you need is to get caught in the middle of some kind of shitstorm caused by her ineptitude/disregard for the law.

[Kristev]

Yes. You're on the Titanic, and she's drilling holes in the floor. Get out now, before she drowns you all!

[KuariKaydrith]

I officially quit this afternoon. No notice or nothing because I knew that I simply couldn't drag myself in for another shift.

The final straw? The Big Boss posting a job ad on Indeed for the hotel guest services manager position for $3.50 per hour more than either I or my now former co-AGM were getting paid.

And the knowledge, based on her previous hires, that anybody she brought in for the position would be set against me from the very start. Nope, not putting myself through that. So, after I saw the job posting on indeed I tried to talk myself out of going down to the hotel and quitting. Clearly, I lost that battle with myself. But in the end it's exactly what I needed to do. And now to give karma a helping hand by sending the labour board all the info I have about her and that place.

I'm going to watch this particular ship go down in flames.

Edited to add:

Big Boss thought it was appropriate to message me tonight to gaslight me and try to tell me I was sick in the head, that *I* needed help. All I could think when I read her words was "Yeah, bitch, I helped myself escape from a shitty, toxic boss." I'm waiting for tomorrow when they realize that they can no longer access my Microsoft Office or Spotify accounts that I'd been letting them use for entirely too long.

I've added tonight's messages from the bitch onto the long list of stuff going in to the appropriate governmental agencies. I'm also siccing the CRA on them.

[taxguykarl]

Good luck in your new location...you did have an exit strategy, didn't you?

[KuariKaydrith]

Well, I quit without anything definitive lined up. My last paycheque is due this Friday so I'll be making that stretch while I wait to be able to apply for EI, and I've got everything I should need to prove that I left a hostile work environment. It's not a move I would normally have made but I literally couldn't see myself taking much more of the Big Boss' bs. I know that I'm okay financially for at least the next month. By the end of that time I should have a job in the bag - I've got a unique blend of skills and training that should serve me well, but I'm also not above taking a fast food job to get me by until something better comes up.

[Pixelated]

*snip*

Edited to add:

Big Boss thought it was appropriate to message me tonight to gaslight me and try to tell me I was sick in the head, that *I* needed help. All I could think when I read her words was "Yeah, bitch, I helped myself escape from a shitty, toxic boss." I'm waiting for tomorrow when they realize that they can no longer access my Microsoft Office or Spotify accounts that I'd been letting them use for entirely too long.

I've added tonight's messages from the bitch onto the long list of stuff going in to the appropriate governmental agencies. I'm also siccing the CRA on them.

Congratulations! "Notice" is a courtesy and from the sounds of it these people deserve none.

Also, when I read about BB's last message(s) to you, my first thought was "Wow, I hope those get added to the info going out to the relevant government agencies ... glad to hear they are. It would be interesting to hear how she explains that.

[Kristev]

Take a day or two to rest before you make any choices.

[KuariKaydrith]

Take a day or two to rest before you make any choices.

When I got home after quitting I sat down and made some decisions for the rest of this week, made possible by the fact that I get my last paycheque on Friday. I'm dusting off my resume some more, and am pretty much using the remainder of this week to decompress after months of stress. I'm still applying online to various jobs, but not planning on doing anything major until next week. My daughter has also offered to help me out a bit financially if I need it, which I may ask her to do so I can get a 30 day bus pass and pay to get my criminal record check done ASAP

Last night I had the best sleep I've had in months and I'm sure another couple nights like that will leave me refreshed and good to go by next week

And if for whatever reason The Bitch tries to withhold my final pay I'm coming down on her like a ton of bricks - legally she can't do that, but it wouldn't be the first time she's tried to pull something illegal.

[RealUnimportant]

Nice one! Congrats on the freedom; yes it comes with a side of uncertainty but better that than toxicity.

[Android Kaeli]

Congrats on getting out of there. Sometimes it's best to leave a toxic workplace even though you don't have another job lined up, it's always for the best.

[KuariKaydrith]

I found out today that one of the new staff brought in is a personal family friend of the owner, but my former boss is not privy to this bit of info. She's already started asking questions about what caused both me and my former co-AGM to leave because the owner is VERY concerned about what would cause us to both leave at all. My former co-AGM was there for over ten years and I'd been there for over 2.5 years, and the owner fully believed that we were the backbone of the business and wants to get down to the bottom of why we both left or are leaving. Hell, looking at the job ads for the hotel make it quite clear that they are not going to be able to find one person who is capable of doing everything I was doing for them - the Big Boss is scrambling now, and from where I sit it looks freakin' hilarious.

My best friend who still works a few shifts at the hotel filled in some of the missing info for this new employee, and the new employee is absolutely disgusted over the fact that Big Boss kept Douche-Bro on staff, even after his actions were proven to be true. Even after I told Big Boss that it was him or me. I let my friend know that if the new missus wants to contact me about exactly why I left that she is more than welcome to give me a call, ditto for the owner.

If the Big Boss were to be let go I would actually go back to work at the hotel, even if it meant I took over her position. I know I could do a lot better of a job than Big Boss could, but I also know how to be a decent person who fights for the rights and safety of my staff - I always have, which is why more than a few of them are now actively looking for new jobs too as they know that there is nobody in a management role there anymore who actually gives a shit about them. It's a really sad situation there right now.

[csquared]

Sounds like you have a potential power play in the making. The owner seems to be making an attempt to cut through the fog. If you keep the channels of communications open, you might have a good opportunity. Any chance that you can reach out to the owner directly without Big Boos getting wind of it?

In the mean time, keep looking.