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  • Legitimate sightings, or am I just being too oversensitive?

    Had to run some errands today after school, even though I really didn't want to leave the house. But they had to be done, so I boarded a bus, like a good 'lil Lupo. I would've ridden my bike, but I had to haul back a box of Rubbermaid containers that were on sale, and that would've been awkward.

    Now, as an aside, I'm not going through a happy time in my life right now. My grandfather is slowly dying, and there's no treatment than can help, aside from painkillers to keep him comfortable, and I recently found out one of my uncles was in a really bad car accident; left in a snowbank for an hour with a broken neck, he's out of the coma, but the medical staff aren't sure if he'll pull through 100%, and there's talk of him possibly being paralyzed for the rest of his life.

    I've managed to shove it all out of my head and focus on the here and now for the most part, but I'm still not completely me right now, if you know what I mean. Anyways, moving on.

    First Sighting

    this is as I'm on the bus on the way to school. Now, it's right smack dab in the middle of morning rush hour, and the bus is PACKED. Standing room only kinda thing. I have my backpack and lunch box on my lap, and am sitting on a bench with two seats. This guy gets on the bus and sits next to me. He squirms, and huffs and sighs and squirms some more. I'm listening to my mp3 player, so I'm not really paying attention to him until he taps me on the shoulder.

    Him: Excuse me, can you scoot over?!
    Me: I'm as far over as I can go next to the wall, sir, I'm sorry. <Going to put my earphones back on, assuming that's the end of it>
    Him: How much you pay to ride?
    Me: I'm sorry...?
    Him: How much you pay to ride the bus?
    Me: <Somehow thinking this is a fare question that he's confused on, I just shrug> I'm a college student, so I pay the student fare.
    Him: Well they should charge you double! You take up more than one seat, so you haveta PAY for more than one seat!
    Me: <Speechless>
    Him: Shit, fat people everywhere, messing things up for people who don't have to eat a ton of food everyday. Stupid cow...

    I put my headphones back on, and through a strength of will I didn't know I had, didn't beat him up with my school books OR burst into tears (though it was a near thing, and when I got to school, I disappeared into the bathroom for a few minutes of sniveling before class...) I spent the rest of my bus ride clutching my backpack to my chest and burying my face in it so I wouldn't have to look at anybody.



    Second Sighting
    As I said, I had to run a few errands after class this morning, so I caught a bus up to a local Target, to pick up one or two things for dinner (Steak and mushroom stroganoff! Yummy!) and the aforementioned set of rubbermaid containers.

    I get in the express lane, since I only have six items, and am waiting for the clerk to finish with the two people in front of me. She finishes ringing out the first person, and the second person moves up, and before the customer can even say hello, the clerk barks at her.

    Clerk: Cash or credit?
    Customer: Um, credit?
    Clerk: Swipe your card while I scan.

    And the customer does so, though she looked stunned. I'm sure I looked stunned. The clerk scanned everything, shoved things in bags, shoved a receipt in the bag and shoved it at the customer, without saying goodbye or have a nice day or anything. I get to the counter and put my things down, and get the same harsh treatment.

    Clerk: Cash or credit!
    Me: I don't know yet.
    Clerk: What do you mean you don't know?
    Me: I won't know until I see the total. If I have enough cash, it'll be cash, if not, it will go on the card.
    Clerk: <huffs and starts scanning my things, and looks like I asked for her firstborn's soul as payment when I requested a double bag for the Rubbermaid box, since I had to haul it to the bus stop>

    She rings it out, and I end up having to put it on a card, and opted for cash back on debit, and I got a dirty look. (Rather, I think I perceived a dirty look, but that could've been how she always looked.)

    She gave me my things, shoved my receipt at me and said "Bye bye"




    So, I guess I'm asking if these were legitimate sightings because I know my perceptions are a little off right now, and I'm also highly emotional because I'm trying to settle back onto a prescription that's meant to balance my hormones. I'm still rather upset, and wonder if I'm taking things too seriously, or if the people really were sucky to an nth degree.

    All for me. I think I'm gonna go cry in the shower now. laters.

  • #2
    First one's definitely a legitimate sighting, since he called you out on your body size, and I always find that to be a big no-no (since I'm not excatly a pencil-thin girl myself; I'm a cuddly Nash).

    The second one is a yes and no. Yes, because she just barked at both you and the customer before you, but I'm half tempted to say no because maybe she got tired of having to ask that at the end of a transaction, yet that still doesn't give her the right to go all drill sergeant on you like that.

    *hugs lupo*

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    • #3
      I'd say those are both sightings, and I'm sorry about what you are going through right now.

      I don't know how I would've handled the first, but I would have moaned at the second gal a bit. Politely, but still told her off.

      Frankly, keeping quiet was probably for the best in both cases. Good job, lupo, you handled it well. My sympathy, and I hope things go well.
      If there’s one thing women love, it’s the guy that just can’t seem to find the line that divides “Ha Ha” and “Stacey, get your purse, we’re leaving before he comes back.”.

      --Gravekeeper

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      • #4


        In all my visits to Tar-Jhay, I have never had a cashier ask me at the register if I would be paying by cash or credit. Not even at the express lane.

        I'm sorry you ran into those two losers.
        Knowledge is power. Power corrupts. Study hard. Be evil.

        "I never said I wasn't a horrible person."--Me, almost daily

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        • #5
          First, here's a and some cookies for what's going on in your life. I can relate.

          Second, the guy on the bus is lucky I wasn't there, even as a witness. I think I would have been arrested for smacking him upside the head. Jackass.

          Third, the cashier had no business barking at you.
          "So, if you wanna put places like that outta business, just stop being so rock-chewingly stupid." ~ Raudf, 9/19/13

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          • #6
            I call suckiness on both since the guy downright insulted you and that clerk was pretty harsh towards you and the previous customer. Then again, a little shred of me is thinking maybe she was having an off day, so I'm a little torn on the clerk's suckiness. Here's a and some , you could use some after what's been happening.
            I don't get paid enough to kiss your a**! -Groezig 5/31/08
            Another day...another million braincells lost...-Sarlon 6/16/08
            Chivalry is not dead. It's just direly underappreciated. -Samaliel 9/15/09

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            • #7
              How completely assholeish that first turd was. I think I would've cried. Yeah, I'm pretty sure I'd cry. That, or ask for the other half of my seat since I apparently needed it /sarcasm. I'm rather "curvy" myself and such comments would shoot to hell the rest of my day. That kinds of stuff huurrrttts, but some assholes don't realize it. Wishing you hugs, my dear.
              A lion however, will only devour your corpse, whereas an SC is not sated until they have destroyed your soul. (Quote per infinitemonkies)

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              • #8
                Those were both just wrong but the first, IMO, is the suckiest of the two. I'm a big girl myself and tend to be touchy about my weight so I can't even imagine how I would've reacted in your place. Knocking him upside the head with the backpack may have been kind've satisfying, though.

                I'm sorry about your grandfather and uncle. It's never an easy thing to deal with situations like that.

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                • #9
                  Quoth lupo pazzesco View Post
                  Him: Well they should charge you double! You take up more than one seat, so you haveta PAY for more than one seat!
                  Me: <Speechless>
                  Him: Shit, fat people everywhere, messing things up for people who don't have to eat a ton of food everyday. Stupid cow....
                  You: Listen, asshole, I can lose weight, but you will always be a rude, ugly, little shit. Fuck off!
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                  • #10
                    First guy: I know we don't condone violence, I've told people that enough times. But I tell ya, I'd have been sorely tempted to smack the guy upside the head and say "Apologize now. Then leave. Voluntarily or out the window. Your choice."

                    Second one: Wtf, asking cash or credit upfront? If she's trying to save time by having people swipe their cards, there's better ways to save that time. As for the look, with that 'tude, it may have been more than "perceived." I think it was best just to not say anything to the cashier though, because there's not really a way it could have turned out *well.*
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                    • #11
                      Lupo, I send you hugs, snugs, and leaning time. I also send you puppy love from my pack who loves anyone who might offer them rawhide.

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                      • #12
                        Thanks, guys.

                        It's good to know my perception isn't as far off as I thought it was, and that's the primary reason why I didn't say anything either time.

                        It's also nice to know I'm not the only one who may have been moved to violence in the first instance. Now that I've had time to process, I wish I had said something...maybe...

                        <Sigh> Tired. Want to curl up with a book and go to bed.

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                        • #13
                          Of course you're not being overly sensitive! Especially about the first guy. What a dick! I hope karma bites him so hard in the ass, it leaves teethmarks!
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                          • #14
                            Quoth lupo pazzesco View Post
                            Him: Shit, fat people everywhere, messing things up for people who don't have to eat a ton of food everyday. Stupid cow...
                            *Blank empty slightly-cross-eyed STARE OF PSYCHOPATHIC DOOM +2+3*

                            *Places hand on his shoulder*

                            *Shoves off seat*

                            *Never says a word*
                            Now a member of that alien race called Management.

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                            • #15
                              Quoth RetailWorkhorse View Post
                              *Blank empty slightly-cross-eyed STARE OF PSYCHOPATHIC DOOM +2+3*

                              *Places hand on his shoulder*

                              *Shoves off seat*

                              *Never says a word*
                              ...

                              .......

                              You're my hero...

                              So much said without uttering a word...

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