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background: This is a regular customer. She works in the mall and while I recognize her, I wouldn't even know which store. She glares at me whenever she comes in, whether I'm helping her or not. She never looks happy to me. Now, I have a history of avoiding the whole How are you?" conversation if I can. Too many times I have answered something along the lines of "I'm fine," only to have my answer challenged. So I answer and drop it. I change the subject. I mean, no one wants to hear my struggles in a checkout situation and I don't want to get into the portrayals of thread life of a stranger.
So maybe that doesn't excuse it, but it's what happened with this young lady tonight. She was already looking at me funny and I decided she was one of those people I shouldn't be overly friendly with because she looked crabby. So I didn't have a conversation with her. It seemed alright, though, just like any other customer on auto pilot,who isn't thrilled with bring there, but whatever.
And then she did it. As my back was turned she sarcastically said as she walked away, "I'm fine; thank you for asking." It was snotty and there was no one else she could've been talking to. I mean, I had greeted her nicely and when she asked me how I was, it was in a flat, perfunctory fashion. That clued me in to crabbiness. But was I really wrong to leave the greeting dance half-done , I guess?
UPDATE: She did it again. I went out into the mall for lunch and on the way back passed by her kiosk. I caught her recognition of me as I passed by and had no facial response because I literally had food in my face (was eating lunch on the walk back). She immediately called her friend's name loudly and I knew she was going to say something about me, so I stopped at the next kiosk to see who she was talking to for future reference, as that person probably works in the mall also. I wasn't close enough to hear, but I did hear. She made sure of it. I distinctly heard "...HOW ARE YOU DOING??..." which was loud. She's still on this! This wouldn't be a big deal, except that I work attached to that mall and so does she and now I feel I can't even shop in the mall anymore. And I don't know her nor what she's capable of. I mean, if she's going to be this upset about a greeting, how unstable might she be?
Beside that, even if she doesn't deserve my deference, I am a person who will try to correct myself if I know I've offended you (even if I don't feel what I did was wrong). If it's something I can do, I will. But I have no idea how to try to resolve this with her because a) I gave her no indication I heard her say anything, b) I don't even know her name and didn't know where she worked until today, and c) even if I made sure to be nicer to her next time, I'm sure I'd still be suspect in her mind. I'm at a loss as to what to do next. I guess I can pretend I don't know the things she's saying about me. I feel like I'm back in junior high, being bullied. What I want to say to her is my latest tweet: "So let me get this straight: murders, poverty, homelessness, and hunger the world over and you're upset I didn't utter the right greeting?"
So maybe that doesn't excuse it, but it's what happened with this young lady tonight. She was already looking at me funny and I decided she was one of those people I shouldn't be overly friendly with because she looked crabby. So I didn't have a conversation with her. It seemed alright, though, just like any other customer on auto pilot,who isn't thrilled with bring there, but whatever.
And then she did it. As my back was turned she sarcastically said as she walked away, "I'm fine; thank you for asking." It was snotty and there was no one else she could've been talking to. I mean, I had greeted her nicely and when she asked me how I was, it was in a flat, perfunctory fashion. That clued me in to crabbiness. But was I really wrong to leave the greeting dance half-done , I guess?
UPDATE: She did it again. I went out into the mall for lunch and on the way back passed by her kiosk. I caught her recognition of me as I passed by and had no facial response because I literally had food in my face (was eating lunch on the walk back). She immediately called her friend's name loudly and I knew she was going to say something about me, so I stopped at the next kiosk to see who she was talking to for future reference, as that person probably works in the mall also. I wasn't close enough to hear, but I did hear. She made sure of it. I distinctly heard "...HOW ARE YOU DOING??..." which was loud. She's still on this! This wouldn't be a big deal, except that I work attached to that mall and so does she and now I feel I can't even shop in the mall anymore. And I don't know her nor what she's capable of. I mean, if she's going to be this upset about a greeting, how unstable might she be?
Beside that, even if she doesn't deserve my deference, I am a person who will try to correct myself if I know I've offended you (even if I don't feel what I did was wrong). If it's something I can do, I will. But I have no idea how to try to resolve this with her because a) I gave her no indication I heard her say anything, b) I don't even know her name and didn't know where she worked until today, and c) even if I made sure to be nicer to her next time, I'm sure I'd still be suspect in her mind. I'm at a loss as to what to do next. I guess I can pretend I don't know the things she's saying about me. I feel like I'm back in junior high, being bullied. What I want to say to her is my latest tweet: "So let me get this straight: murders, poverty, homelessness, and hunger the world over and you're upset I didn't utter the right greeting?"
) there was girl who hated me on site. Every chance she got, she'd make a snarky comment to me. I never understood why and was thrilled when she left the school after freshman year. 
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