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**air914** · 05-01-2007, 01:30 PM

Not that I would ever go up to anyone and say that - but I think the kiss on the cheek might have been a bit much - I can't imagine doing that to any of my co-workers - ever- but a hug - sure. No big deal. Not that this SC has any place to really comment on it - it's not like you were making out at the front register...... I just think it would make me feel uncomfortable if a coworker gave me a peck on the cheek - no matter how grateful they were..... of course I'm a girl, so maybe it's different....

**Boozy** · 05-01-2007, 02:02 PM

Some people are so miserable that anyone doing anything happy and positive makes them angry. Its sad, really.

**MoonChild2007** · 05-01-2007, 03:31 PM

but I think the kiss on the cheek might have been a bit much

Why? Like you never kissed somebody on the cheek. Would it make a difference if it was a guy? I am pretty sure if it was a guy, then people wouldn't think it was so wrong.

I guess showing affections to a person of the same sex is wrong

I just think it would make me feel uncomfortable if a coworker gave me a peck on the cheek

Even though they are your friend? I mean, coworkers can be your friends you know.

**zzapp the witch** · 05-01-2007, 04:04 PM

I've kissed friends, family, coworkers, and people helping me on the cheek when I'm exceptionally happy, relieved,etc with something that is going on. The kiss on the cheek wasn't inappropriate at all between two coworkers, given the circumstances. That's not to say that there aren't inappropriate types of contact. We can't sever ourselves from being human and wanting human contact. Can you imagine going to work everyday and not being allowed to be friendly at all? Not being able to hug someone who just found out a relative died? Not give the retiring member of staff a hug and a kiss on the cheek with a big thank you at their going away party?

Last week I gave the old guy at the hardware store a hug and a kiss on the cheek for exchanging some pliers that broke (flaw in metal). Then I saw his wife standing there, so I went up and gave her a hug and told her she was so lucky to have such a wonderful, fair husband.

(Had to make sure there weren't going to be any "And who was that young lady kissing you, dear?" kind of questions, now I'm just the weird bouncy girl who gets way too excited over new pliers.

)

**Becks** · 05-01-2007, 08:44 PM

Too bad you couldn't have said, "OK, we'll all go back to despising each other!!"

**Alfie** · 05-01-2007, 09:47 PM

I can slightly understand SOME of her points of view. Maybe she isn't really into physical contact, and she may not think that it has a place outside the home. She still went way too far with whinging about it to you. She needs to get used to it.

I personally though wouldn't kiss a coworker on the cheek. I may hug my manager (I have known her for a few years) when I go overseas, but I wouldn't hug anyone else there. But then again, I don't really hug my friends, and I hardly ever hug my parents. I'm just not into physical contact. For me it's pretty akward. One of my partner's friends came back from being overseas for 2 years and hugged me, and it just felt weird to me.

**XCashier** · 05-02-2007, 04:02 AM

Quoth BeckySunshine View Post

Too bad you couldn't have said, "OK, we'll all go back to despising each other!!"

"And that includes YOU! Now, what the hell do you want to shove down your gullet, prune-face?"

**Whyme** · 05-02-2007, 04:07 AM

Since there was many a time when I was forced to stand at my register watching teenagers tongue wrestle in front of me while I rang up their order, this lady should be able to put up with a peck on the cheek.

You said she came up to the bar, where was the customer before this and why was she watching you in the first place? She just may be the kind of person who looks for something to complain about hoping she'll get a freebie from management.

**gijoecam** · 05-02-2007, 03:00 PM

Quoth customersruinmylife View Post

..snip...SC: Ahem!
Me: Hey, what can I get you?
SC: I dont think that was appropriate.
Me: I'm sorry?
SC: That display of affection!...snip....

"It's tradition in my culture to kiss your boss before departing for a break, as well as when reporting back from a break. {Asked in an accusing tone of voice} Do you have a problem with my culture and traditions?? {elevating vocal volume}Do YOU have a problem with MY people?!?! {As loud as I can speak without yelling} What are you?? Some kind of racist?!?!?!!"

That'd put 'em on the spot and shut 'em up real quick!

-Joe

**air914** · 05-02-2007, 03:30 PM

Quoth MoonChild2007 View Post

Why? Like you never kissed somebody on the cheek. Would it make a difference if it was a guy? I am pretty sure if it was a guy, then people wouldn't think it was so wrong.

I guess showing affections to a person of the same sex is wrong

Even though they are your friend? I mean, coworkers can be your friends you know.

With all the sexual harassment crap going on in workplaces - no - I wouldn't dare to kiss someone on the cheek - and I'd be hesitatant to hug them in front of people too. I dated someone I worked with and we NEVER even touched each other - in fact while working, we barely even looked at each other (dating was against store policy anyway). And maybe it wouldn't make a difference if you were a guy - I was just saying as a female, if a male friend gave me a peck on the cheek - it would make me feel awkward (especially now that I'm married!) so maybe it's just me then

And I have had co-workers who were friends - I guess we just weren't that close - I'd have a hard time feeling comfortable really hugging any of them - maybe we just don't know each other well enough to do that - I used to hug EVERYONE and then found out a lot of people don't feel comfortable with it - so I don't hug anymore unless I ask first

Do you need a hug??

Still - as a customer, a peck on the cheek between coworkers isn't my problem - it's management's problem if they have a "no date" policy or something like that - none of my business. Now if you're behind the counter making out and I have to interrupt you so you can take my order and do your job - well, that's another story....

**blas** · 05-02-2007, 03:32 PM

If one of my coworkers hugged me............I'd run away screaming.

Unless you are talking about my coworkers that are my friends outside of work and were friends before I started at the factory or shortly after I was hired. But all of those friends work in different departments, and if I need a hug or feel like crying, we do that on break, outside, not in front of everyone.

People where I work talk enough shit as it is; they don't need anymore ammunition.

**Maximillion** · 05-02-2007, 03:57 PM

I'm generally cool with all of my co-workers but I only hug certain ones, the ones I know for a fact like hugs. There's one girl who's forever hugging me and it's getting somewhat annoying even though we went to school together...I hug my boss whenever I get a raise...

Basically I just poke everyone as a sign of affection and to let them know I'm temporarily not in one of my pissy modes.

**Kara** · 05-02-2007, 04:06 PM

I don't have a problem with people kissing as a display of friendship. Don't do it myself, but I'm okay with it if others are. Hugs are fine by me.

It's not like it was an all out, passionate kiss with lots of groping and fondling or anything.

My response: "Oh, that's nothing. You should see what happens when we're off the clock!"

**ahanix1989** · 05-02-2007, 04:07 PM

I recall, many moons ago, recieving hugs from Molly at work. All is well and good, nobody thought anything of it, until the associate meeting.
The resident 'crotchety-old-biddy' coworker complains, "There's too much romance around here"

Well, that's because Ashley and Tim have been going out for two years, Molly gives hugs, and you're working in a restauraunt with a bunch of 16-20 year olds.

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