Complaining about S&M.

[trunks2k]

I used to wear a collar and leash out to the bar with my boyfriend on occasion, but I had to stop because drunk people though it was an invitation to gab the leash and run off to show their friends. Hello, I need to BREATH!

Well if you wouldn't wear the choke-chain, it wouldn't be that much of a problem.

Now handcuffs, those are fun. Occasionaly my friends and I will randomly hancuff ourselves together.

I once spent an entire day of class in handcuffs. Don't ask me why, I really don't know.

[KMMCurly]

A dom and sub out like that in pulic? If I had been there I would have said kudos to them for having the guts to do that, maybe ask them if they knew where I could get some good collars

[trunks2k]

A dom and sub out like that in pulic? If I had been there I would have said kudos to them for having the guts to do that, maybe ask them if they knew where I could get some good collars

Good collars are hard to find. Most of them are that really cheap, uncomfortable leather.

[Gurndigarn]

Quoth JustaCashier
I'd bet the "odd" customers are better customers overall than the busybody types.
<snip>
I would also bet the "odd" ones would be less likely to have unreasonable requests, or expectations, or to argue store policies.

From my cashiering experience, it's true. Very true.

Many theories as to why.

Am I the only one who had more issues with the "odd" ones out there?

(That's using a number of issues to number of customers ratio, of course, not absolute number of problems. I had more problems total from "normal" customers... but I had many many many more normal customers than odd ones.)

Maybe it was because I was in an arcade. The easygoing atmosphere let them put their hair down, metaphoricly (and sometimes physically), and not watch themselves as much. Hey, they're in their own turf. They can let their inner asshole out, and nobody's going to care. Wooo! Freedom!

Unfortunately, I was being paid to care. And to remove the grafitti and garbage they left behind. And to convince the teens that 7:00 on a busy Saturday is a lousy time to just hang out, sit on games, block aisles, etc-- and not play anything.

Now, most of the unusual people were well behaved. But they still had a higher percentage of entitled/conniving/anti-authoritarian (IE, "you can't make me") attitudes than the "normal" people. On the plus side for them, they tried fewer scams than most normals (that particular distinction went to 8-12 year old boys) and rarely gave us problems with not understanding a game... if they didn't understand it, they played it until they did, or asked their friends, or read the instructions, or whatever, but didn't complain that the game was broken. That distinction went to the soccer moms.

[ArenaBoy]

Maybe it was because I was in an arcade. The easygoing atmosphere let them put their hair down, metaphoricly (and sometimes physically), and not watch themselves as much. Hey, they're in their own turf. They can let their inner asshole out, and nobody's going to care. Wooo! Freedom!

Now, most of the unusual people were well behaved. But they still had a higher percentage of entitled/conniving/anti-authoritarian (IE, "you can't make me") attitudes than the "normal" people.

The in their own turf part can say a lot but just as there are assholes in the normal groups there are assholes in the unusual groups also. What I've noticed in areas where normal people congregate is that the unusual types have no choice but to remain behaved because a lot of normals (Assholes) tend to have the majority rule and their looking for an excuse to give them hell. The normal types won't change their behavior when they go to places that's not exactly their turf, they're going to have a superiority complex with them no matter what.

As for the unusual types being rude in their turf, some of them tend to be bitter and they just want to take their frustrations out on someone because they know what will happen if they did it on someone else's turf.

I will go on to say that odd customers do tend to be more politer.

[Hon'ya-chan]

You know, I wonder how the woman would've reacted if the girl dressed like a dog or a cat.

The Hot Topic elsewhere in the mall actually had to deal with this couple, where the woman was dressed as a horse.

Well, if you mean "Horse" as in her in a leather harness, a bit in her mouth, and a very intricate plumage. And him in a very Gothic Cowboy type of deal. During Halloween.

[Imogene]

A friend of mine in Missouri and I were out late one night (I want to say, we were out after having seen a late night showing of 'Cars' of all things) and were wandering around Wal-Mart, her in a collar and me just kind of following her. More than once, she attached a leash to her collar and handed it to me to lead her around.
RJ: *blink, blink* "Um... okay... Not really in a domme-y mood..." *hand the leash back*
Until we were done in Wally World.
And, of course, now that I'm here in Texas, and miss her desperately, I would be more than willing to guide her around a Wal-Market in such a fashion.

[Bliss]

I used to wear a collar and leash out to the bar with my boyfriend on occasion, but I had to stop because drunk people though it was an invitation to gab the leash and run off to show their friends. Hello, I need to BREATH!

Which on a stronger dom/sub setting should have prompted your bf to go over, and kick their ass bloody. I mean you don't run to someone, grab their pet/pda/wallet/XXX-stuff from them and run away to show it without getting into serious trouble... same should happen with a sub.... People never cease to amaze me with the levels of stupidity they will fall to.

I wonder how the mortality rate of drunk idiots is so incredibly low today

[friendofjimmyk]

I'm more offended in those parents who put their young children on leashes. A length of nylon rope and a harness is no substitute for proper parenting. .

You know, I used to agree with you on this one until I started watching small children. Even the best parents can't keep their eyes on their kids CONSTANTLY. Say, if you are at a fair and have to stop holding your childs hand for a few seconds to say, grab a plate full of funnel cake and look away for just a split second - ZIP - the kid is gone.

When I was younger, I didn't think of pulling shit like that because my father would've tanned my ass - public or not - but today, most parents don't handle stuff like that. So, I can see a good use for the kiddie leash.

[friendofjimmyk]

And on the topic at hand - way fucking cool of those girls. Let your freak flag fly, baby! If they are not hurting anyone or inciting a riot or other public nusance - that other lady needed to fuck off!

[mischugenah]

Well if you wouldn't wear the choke-chain, it wouldn't be that much of a problem.



I once spent an entire day of class in handcuffs. Don't ask me why, I really don't know.

*chuckle* While I was in high school, me, my brother, and my sister decided to 'kidnap' a friend for a day. We did the works, handcuffs, threw a blanket over her head, stuffed her into a car, and drove off. We ended up at a mall where we were going to hang out, but when I offered to remove the cuffs, she refused. She wore them all day, it was fun the looks and comments we got. A couple of kids even thought we were undercover cops who'd arrested her!

[aurelemsrealm]

I'm a fairly conservative, plain-looking type, myself. I tend to make friends with people who dress and look vastly different. I have quite a few goth friends. I have quite a few gay friends. The list goes on. The point is that I don't look like I fit with them, and they don't look like they fit with me. Even so, we've found a common ground -- sense of humor, interests in things like movies or music, our personalities just mesh, whatever applies. The bad part of living in a small town is that you get to know the local busybodies, gossips, and other such undesireables who always feel compelled to probe into the gory details of our lives. My life really has no gory details, but I'm sure you'll make up a few stories to justify your concerns. That's okay, I know plenty of people around town, so those whose opinions do matter to me probably already know the real story anyhow. I'm just thinking of a few rumors I learned about myself here a while back through the grapevine. I just always loved learning new things, and so it was quite a laugh when word got back to me.

[earl colby pottinger]

Personally

I would find it offensive to myself personally. But out in public it is NONE OF MY DAMN BUSINESS.

These people did not break any moral code found in most towns in North America, and it does not sound like they were even using the same section of the book store that she was.

Good thing she never been up to my cabin, the local group consist of:

Property A, like walking around in a studded dog collar and until last year where it seems he fell in love (yes, he is now planning a wedding) had a different girl up every single weekend.

Property B, loves to smoke weed, even grow their own.

Property C, collect old junk to build things. And he is good at it too.

Property D, nudists. They arrive the clothes come off till they leave.

Property E, don't mess with him, his wife just died from cancer and he is taking no shit from anyone.

Property F, ???????

Property G, thinks they can outsmart the government, sues at the drop of a hat.

Property H, My brother 6'4", sons are bigger.

Property I, My property, know how to make liquid explosives just for fun.

[MinimaMagistra]

those parents who put their young children on leashes.

I know you were talking about how it offends you, but the whole image never fails to make me giggle.

Actually, to the one who said

i would have asked if i could walk her,

I hope you wouldn't've. If they were just kids playing around, that's one thing. But if it actually was a lady with her sub, that would've been unquestionably rude. Most folk would know better than to interrupt a scene at a bdsm club to ask if they could give the flogger a try (though, unfortunately, some would), and even though this sounds a lot more domestic, it's not necessarily any more exclusive.

God, collars. Really hard to find good ones. The best collar I have is a really good-quality one with thick leather and three sturdy rings. No idea how to get another, 'cause a friend gave it to me when he was replacing it with a new one. I get VERY lucky with hand-me-downs like that.

[JustADude]

Which on a stronger dom/sub setting should have prompted your bf to go over, and kick their ass bloody. I mean you don't run to someone, grab their pet/pda/wallet/XXX-stuff from them and run away to show it without getting into serious trouble... same should happen with a sub.... People never cease to amaze me with the levels of stupidity they will fall to.

I had a friend back in college that was into the collar-and-leash thing. Even though I wasn't even on the radar (she's a lesbian) I still kept a big-brother type of eye on her whenever we ended up hanging out together, since she's very mild and sweet, as well as gorgeous enough to make grown men walk into tables. Pretty much an open invitation for assholes, it seems, and I've had to put The Fear* into more than one guy who was either trying to play Grabit with her leash, or wouldn't take no for an answer when they got shot down.

*I won't go into details but, while I'm normally a teddy-bear, I can put on an aura that has made grown men, nearly my size, take a physical step back when I lock eyes with them, before I even open my mouth. I've been told I end up giving off the impression of a cross between Hannibal Lectre and a snarling wolf. Any way you slice it, though, it beats having to come to blows with someone.