I'm not chatting your husband/boyf up, just being friendly!

[Lace Neil Singer]

Anyone else get this?

I'll be talking to some guy while his girlf/wife has gone to get something, and she'll return and give me an evil look as tho she returned to see us shagging on the checkout. -.- This always seems to happen when a plain or pregnant girl is with a breathtakingly gorgeous man, or one with a sparkling personality. I don't claim to be model standard, in fact, quite the reverse; so why do I receive nasty looks from these women?!

[reformedwaitress]

Because there are a lot of jealous and insecure women in the world. Personally, I have no problem with someone else talking to or even flirting with whoever I am dating because I know that, at the end of the night, he's going home with *me* not *them* but there are a lot of women in this world that are not like that. Don't take it personally. I'm sure it's not you specifically.

I used to have this problem at the sports bar in Atlanta. When I'm waiting tables, I don't like calling people "hey you" so I tend to call people "Honey" and "Sweetie" and such. Girls used to *GLARE* at me when I called "their" man that. That is, until I called THEM something along the same lines and they realized they were idiots.

Look, girls, I have my own guy to worry about (or not, as right now, but I don't want one anyway) -- I don't need to have the added drama of yours.

[GyroKat]

I think that especially pregnant women are terrified of being left alone, and plain girls who have managed to find some really special guy are probably worried that they're really not good enough for him, and he might leave when someone else comes along. It doesn't have to be a supermodel, because apparently, he fell for the plain girl, so he could do it again. Thus, all other women are a threat.

I'm never worried myself, because I know that my boyfriend adores me for who I am. One of the good things about meeting someone while you're overweight and poor. He didn't take me for my money or looks, that's for sure!

But yes, there are a lot of women out there who are insanely jealous. Ignore them, it's their problem and their insecurities,.

[BdwayBabu799]

There are some extremely insecure people out there it is sad, I was once chased out of a bar by an angry girlfiend because I thanked her boyfriend(the bartender) for making me another drink on the house when someone spilled my last one. I complimented him on how it tasted and we talked for a couple of seconds and she went crazy. I was there with a guy I was dating that I REALLY liked so there was nothing going on.

I found that at my old job there was a lot of insecurity and drama with couples at work. I know that many times when my BF and I go out the waitresses are usually nice to him because he is cute(a least IMHO) I see it as great service not that she wants to take him out!

[Becks]

Look, girls, I have my own guy to worry about -- I don't need to have the added drama of yours.

I should steal permanently borrow that.

[wagegoth]

I don't play that jealousy crap. My husband wants to leave, I'll hold the door open. I told him that exactly in those words before we got married. If he wants drama like that, he needs to find someone else.

What is so wrong with being alone, especially if you compare it to being insecure and unhappy all the time?

[reformedwaitress]

I should steal permanently borrow that.

Borrow away dear.

[SuperB]

Heh, my husband has been hit on while installing tire chains. Some women will offer anything to avoid paying.

I don't do the jealousy thing either and I don't understand relationships that do. If the local slut wants to try to for my husband, let her try, she won't succeed. If he wants to look, heck, I'll point them out for him because I wont be told I can't look either.

[Becks]

Borrow away dear.

Woo hoo!!

[blas]

My bf and I got into a squabble the other night over male servers vs female ones hitting on customers.

He argued that male servers will always hit on girls when they are out with their boyfriends. I explained to him that he obviously has NOT worked in food before, and servers will do or say or act any way to get bigger tips.

Most of the time while I was a server, I'd almost ignore the guy and pay more attention to the girl so she wouldn't flip out that I was trying to steal her man.

Then again, I did go on a date last spring to Crapplebees, and some dumb college floozy kept touching my date's shoulder every time she came to the table and wouldn't look me in the eye.

[karma_gypsy]

My husband and I were just talking about that the other day . . . he says occasionally girls still flirt with him when he's delivering their pizza. Flirt away ladies! Little do you know, that large tip your giving him benefits me as well. Plus, it's nice to know that your man's still got it.

[BookstoreEscapee]

The last 2 guys I dated were people I worked with. In both cases this other girl there had a crush on the guy. And hated me (actually, I'm pretty sure she still does). And would call and flirt, etc., and even went so far as to badmouth me to the one ex in the back room (how do I know? He told me, of course). I just laughed, it's so silly. And if a guy is gonna fall for that kind of crap, I don't want him anyway

[journochick]

I get this A LOT.

The majority of the time the female partners give me dirty looks, walk away, or even turn around so their back is facing me when I'm serving them (or, well, their partners). I work in a local convenience store and a lot of the time I deal with couples who come in regularly, and some seem to be total rude bitches.

One in particular turns her back on me and whispers things to her partner as I'm putting their stuff through.

It's so obviously jealousy and I don't really get it. But I gather it's probably because I'm thin yet big-chested, smiley and smartly-dressed, and having known quite a few insecure women in the past I guess any of the above mentioned traits can be seen as a potential threat.

I hate this because:

a) I am married. I have a wonderful, hot guy to go home to every night. So why would I want anyone else's?
b) I'm polite and conversational because I have to be, because I like serving customers and because miserable checkout people get on my tits. I WILL smile at your man. I WILL laugh at his joke. I'll smile at you too but unfortunately you prefer not to look.
c) I may have a nice figure but I sure as hell am no supermodel. Seriously. So why do these girls get so uptight?

It makes me want to make my own 'I DON'T WANT TO STEAL YOUR GUY. HONESTLY!' T-shirt just to wear at the checkout.

What I usually do is smile, greet and talk to the guy AND the girl when they get to my till. This usually works as any woman with real sense will know I'm doing it because that's what I DO WITH ALL MY CUSTOMERS rather than because I oh-so-obviously want to strip off right there and start doing it with their boyfriend.

Unfortunately some won't even accept that because in their head a friendly smile from another girl means exactly that.

Ah well. It's their problem!

/end rant

[ArenaBoy]

Some guys tend to be insecure about this too.

Really, it's just a friendly smile but the insecure SO will think that the attractive male/female will just tear off the SO's clothes on the spot and go at it.

[ColonelInTheKitchen]

My boyfriend occasionally glares at people who pay more attention to me. Although I usually instigate it. Since I started posting here, I make sure to let my cashier know that they're doing well and thank them. Sometimes I get a real conversation out of it, and the cashiers are usually really cool about it. Especially the older women at Walmart whom I smile at and thanks profusely for good service.