Why yes, I am the Biggest, Strongest Person Alive, You Ass.

[marty]

Here's the thing: I'm 5'5", 110 pounds. I'm small. I don't have bulging muscles, and I look quite feminine. My arms are bone and skin and whatever muscle it takes to make me look healthy. I am not strong and this is sometimes painfully obvious. Physical labor and I were never meant to be.

So thanks, 220lb football player, thanks for just fucking watching while I drag your fucking Rock Band box up to the counter, that was on the fucking floor to begin with where you could have easily grabbed it, thanks for staring at my ass while I lugged something that's as big as me the entire distance across the floor while you just watched. I did notice you didn't even try, didn't even offer to help me carry the damn box. I hope the whole damn thing's broken.

And kudos for only grabbing the box when it became apparent to you that, yes, I was going to keep pushing it across the counter until you grabbed it or it fell on the floor. Like hell I'm gong to carry it out the door for you.

[Shadowwalker]

if you wanted help why didn't you just communicate with him and ask for help? he's not a mind reader. also, some women might be offended if a guy helped them giving a "ohhh!! the big strong man came to rescue me. i couldn't have possibly managed on my own without YOU"

not saying you'd do that... but yeah, just politely ask for help and if he then refused, then you have a reason to rant.

[marasbaras]

I had some hag get mad at me because I held the door open for her when she must've had ten different bags while shopping at Christmas. She said "I could've done it myself" in the nastiest of tones.

Ladies, if you want us guys to keep being gentlemen ... get these walking bags of puss to STFU.

[CancelMyService]

I had some hag get mad at me because I held the door open for her when she must've had ten different bags while shopping at Christmas. She said "I could've done it myself" in the nastiest of tones.

That's when you say "Of course, I'm sorry" and let go of the door so it slams them in the face and sends their ten shopping bags flying like those super balls you get out of the quarter machines at grocery stores.

[marty]

if you wanted help why didn't you just communicate with him and ask for help? he's not a mind reader. also, some women might be offended if a guy helped them giving a "ohhh!! the big strong man came to rescue me. i couldn't have possibly managed on my own without YOU"

not saying you'd do that... but yeah, just politely ask for help and if he then refused, then you have a reason to rant.

Well, first I said to him, "Well, I can show you where they are if you don't mind picking one up." He stared at me, then went back to talking to his idiot buddy. Didn't move an inch. As I was carrying it across the store, my little arms a-shakin', I said, "I got it right here if you don't mind taking it." Again, the momentary stare and back to the chatter and looking me up and down.

Hell, if it was a woman I was serving, I'd ask her for help too. He was just too busy gawking and talking to actually listen to the words coming out of my mouth and pay attention to the fact that I was struggling. I'm a weak-ass person and it's painfully obvious. Maybe I need to spend a few months lifting weights so next time he comes in I can throw the box at him.

Edit: Oh, and him and his buddy were the only other two people in the store besides me and the ASM (who was making hate to our bathroom so I can't blame him for anything besides, well, ruining the toilet). So it's not like he couldn't hear me.

[Shadowwalker]

yeah that's sucky that he just ignored you like that.

[crazylegs]

The guy has no manners, even if (as happens regularly) I get scolded for opening doors, carrying things etc. I would still offer to at least *help* if I could see someone struggling with a heavy object, its basic manners.

[Cyphr]

rhis is why no one is polite anymore you try to do something nice and you get stepped on... if some helps you at least asay thank you eben if you could have done it yourself

[Can I Help Your A$$?]

get these walking bags of puss to STFU.

Oh my! I never thought to bring that up at the Secret Ladies' Society meeting last Tuesday! I'll get to that ASAP.

And you fellows out there, get on that problem with the assholes running the government, and we'll see about the "lady pproblem."

[Shards]

Oh my! I never thought to bring that up at the Secret Ladies' Society meeting last Tuesday! I'll get to that ASAP.

And you fellows out there, get on that problem with the assholes running the government, and we'll see about the "lady pproblem."

OK, There are asshole guys, and there are bitchy girls. We all know this. Let's save the battle of the sexes for the democratic presidential debates, and give the site mods a break before this gets ugly. She only added his gender into the equation to point out that he was built and could have helped her, not to bash all men.

Yes, it is polite to offer help to people who look like they could use it. Yes, you will often get bitched out for it. Accept it, move on.

Yes, most current governments are primarily male-run, and yes, some of them are screwing themselves over, but in addition to not being a place to rant on the negative tendencies of whichever gender you do not happen to be, this site is also not a place for debating politics. It's a place for all of us to agree that that football player was an asshole, tell marty that we would have helped her, offer her some support or witty observation, and then let it be.

Again, I won't bash your gender, please don't bash mine. And to the people who will, please stop, you'll do nothing but derail threads and give the mods a headache.

EDIT: By quoting Can I Help Your A$$, I in no way intended to imply that she was the only one who had done anything. There have been several people, she was just the most recent one before my post.

[Becks]

He was a jerk. Seriously. I guess he wasn't taught manners.

[LifeCarnie]

I had some hag get mad at me because I held the door open for her when she must've had ten different bags while shopping at Christmas. She said "I could've done it myself" in the nastiest of tones.

Ladies, if you want us guys to keep being gentlemen ... get these walking bags of puss to STFU.

That annoys me when people get that attitude. I hold the door for everyone, regardless of sexual orientation, because it's meant to be polite and for no other reason.