You get what you pay for

[orcprincess]

So, I was harrassed on Saturday by "the mother of the bride" boy, was it fun.
According to her, her daughter got engaged a year ago. But, because her daughter is a busy woman, she did not have time to pick out a dress. (Sorry, that for me would be #1...IMO)

So, being the nice mom she is, she picked one out a few weeks ago, and had it sent to her daughter, her daughter didn't like it, (not "romantic", or very "princess" like ) Whatever, so mom picks out another one. She orders it THURSDAY morning, and says she wants Super fast delivery...well, that's 2-3 BUSINESS days for orders placed by 3pm Indiana time. Needless to say the dress didn't get there on time, and the bride to be had to go to a discount bridal shop and get a dress off the rack.

Guess what she expected from us? Another dress, so she can wear it to her "2nd" wedding she is going to have to have in the "perfect" dress, her shipping expenses back, and the money on both dresses returned even though she is keeping one.

This conversation lasted over an hour, and I couldn't hang up, because at first it seemed like a call I was eventually going to have to turn into an exchange/return.
My only bit of satisfaction was telling her that it states in the catalog that super fast is 2-3 days after it ships out...which is usually the next day, and Thursday was really too late.


Does anybody see something wrong with her complaint?

[friendofjimmyk]

That lack of planning on her part....

say it with me....

does not constitute an emergency on your part.

[Banrion]

Let me just make sure I have this straight.

1) Daughter has known for a YEAR that she's getting married.
2) Daughter never even thinks about buying a dress until approx 3 weeks before the wedding.
3) Daughter doesn't even bother picking out her own dress, she has her mom do it.
4) Mom picks out a dress and now suddenly daughter cares what dress looks like, even though for the last 11 months she couldn't care less.
5) Mom buys 2nd dress less than 1 week before wedding, expects it to get to bride, and fit properly without ANY adjustments before the wedding.
6) Now since mom's unreasonable expectations weren't met she wants ALL of her money back?!?!

All I have to say is "Gimme some of whatever she's smokin'!"

[Becks]

Who lets these people out???

[AFpheonix]

Couldn't she just go to Vegas?

And you'd think that someone who wants a "perfect" wedding would have been all over the dress thing, since that's one of the more tangible things to prepare for a wedding. I could possibly understand falling down on getting proper accomodations for the ceremony and reception, or not getting enough food and whatnot, but a dress?

I wonder if there'll be a wedding from hell story along those lines up at Etiquette Hell....

[karma_gypsy]

Yes, I must say dress was first thing on my mind. Although I had it custom made, it took I think almost a year. (Custom made from a picture even - she did a wonderful job on it!!) The wedding dress is the centerpiece of the wedding, how did she get all the other details done and forget about that one?



I don't think I'd ever let my mom buy my wedding dress for me!! LOL, I could just imagine that! She's cheap, so she'd probably go to the thrift store or garage sale and buy a prom dress or somethin!! Oh dear!

[bean]

That lack of planning on her part....

say it with me....

does not constitute an emergency on your part.

An apartment complex I used to live in actually had a sign printed up and hanging in the office saying:

"The lack of planning on your part does not constitute an emergency on our part."

I wanted to take it with me so bad when I moved out. Too bad it was pretty much a slumlord type complex.

[Rahmota]

That whole perfect wedding BS is one of the reasons my wife and I got hitched before a judge. Too much wedding stuff is too expensive for all the good you'll get out of it IMO. I mean yeah its a special day and all but tis special cause of the folks not the dress.

[CanadaGirl]

"and the money on both dresses returned even though she is keeping one. "

Oh what the f*ck?! Wedding dresses are not cheap! How can she expect you guys to foot the cost for her and her mothers stupidity?

A smart woman would have a dress picked out well in advance. Damn, I won't be getting married for at least a year, and I already have a link bookmarked on DavidsBridal.com!

[DGoddessChardonnay]

I don't think I'd ever let my mom buy my wedding dress for me!! LOL, I could just imagine that! She's cheap, so she'd probably go to the thrift store or garage sale and buy a prom dress or somethin!! Oh dear!

Believe it or not, I have had a wedding gown given to ME. It currently resides in my mom's closet, still in the garment bag. Worn only once, back in the late 80's and it's in great shape.

Some girls have all the luck . . . have the groom but not the dress, while I have the opposite problem.

But yep, the bride in the OP is definitely a lazy butt.

[Lehk]

don't give any money to this moron unless you absolutely have to

[Gurndigarn]

Guess what she expected from us? Another dress, so she can wear it to her "2nd" wedding she is going to have to have in the "perfect" dress

It's a pretty sad state when the bride is getting married knowing that the divorce is coming... even sadder when she's already planning the next marriage before the first one is finalized....

Not that, given her apparent ability to plan AND her attitude when things don't go her way, I'm expecting any marriage she gets into to last, at least until she grows up.

[Pagan]

It's a pretty sad state when the bride is getting married knowing that the divorce is coming... even sadder when she's already planning the next marriage before the first one is finalized....

Um....I think that's "2nd wedding" as in the same couple, but just doing the ceremony again elsewhere. That's starting to happen a lot for couples that have relatives that can't make it to the original ceremony....or the one's that did go Vegas!

[DesignFox]

Yea, I know someone who had two ceremonies- one where she lived for her family and friends-plus, she is not Catholic, and one ceremony out where the groom's family lived- and his family is super-Catholic. Needless to say, the wedding party was not too thrilled at having to foot the bill for plane tickets...thankfully I'm not really friends with that person I'd be damned if I was going to take vacation time, plus foot the bill to go out and be in a wedding...for a second time...
I find it hard to believe that if you are getting married- your families can't find time to all get together under one roof.

back on topic- No way in hell should that woman get a dime of her money back. She didn't read the shipping policy, it's her own fault.

[Crow The Robot]

Oy. where to begin? Okay she had a YEAR to plan the wedding but chose the dress on the last month? She left dress shopping to he mum and was disappointed with mum's selection and demanded a new dress, she wants her money back essentially getting a dress for free. Some people I swear.....