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    Yet another story from my waitressing days. Not nearly as entertaining as steak sauce man, but just as memorable (to me, anyways). Not really sucky, kind of sad actually, but with sucky behavior.

    It was later at night and only 2 of us left on the restaurant side, plus the bartender on the bar side. In walks a very nice looking couple with an elderly man (EM for our story). From what I overheard while approaching the table he was her father and they were visiting him for the weekend (although I'm guessing by 'visiting' they meant signing him out of his 'home').

    I go over to take their drink orders and the EM asks about what kind of Rye we have. I mention Canadian Club and that's what he says he wants. I ask if he wants it mixed, or straight up. He seems to not be able to grasp what I am asking, so his daughter explains it to him (takes about 3 minutes). He says he wants it with diet coke and no ice. I double check all their drink orders and then am off to punch them into the computer. I pick them up at the bar and deliver them, and all is well - or so I thought.

    They had wanted another minute to look over the menu (daughter had to tell EM what was in every single item). As I come back, I am 10 feet from the table when EM stands up and starts shouting at me.

    EM: What the f#@k is this s*#t??!? Are you trying to bloody poison me?!! Etc. Etc. Etc.

    Meanwhile, daughter is trying to calm him down while her husband explains to me that it seems while he asked for CC with diet, no ice he ACTUALLY meant scotch on the rocks with no mix. Wow. Wonder why I messed that one up. Daughter is extremely apologetic and I take away the offending drink and let them know I'll be right back with his scotch.

    At this point, my manager is waiting near the bar for me to find out what was going on. I explained it all and said I was fine...that there was obviously something wrong with the EM and I could handle it. I take the new drink back to the table and my manager tells me to let him know if I need any help.

    My co-worker is delivering their food as I return with the drink (2 other tables only and they had their food, meal were taking only 5 minutes to come out). The EM glares at me while I deliver his drink and his poor daughter looks like she is about to cry. I ask if they need anything else and they say no, so I head back to start some of my closing duties. I get about 15 feet away when I hear a crash. I look back and EM has smashed his glass on the floor a few feet away from the table (I think he was trying to throw it at me, but was about 13 feet short of his mark). He starts screaming again about poison and how incompetent I was at making a simple drink. The husband leads him outside to cool him off. I start cleaning up the mess (he spilled half of it on the table) and the daughter asks for everything to go while sobbing. She again apologizes over and over again. I tell her not to worry about it. I understood completely. I had a friend whose grandmother had dementia and acted the same way. She left me a nice tip, all the while saying how sorry she was and crying harder and harder. I got the feeling he does this at restaurants quite a bit. Very sad, but made for an interesting story.

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    It's making me cry. I feel so bad for that woman because I know she remembers how her father used to be.
    "Is it hot in here to you? It's very warm, isn't it?"--Nero, probably

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    • #3
      I feel bad for all of them, really.

      Although, there was a news story recently about how they were working on something that might possibly reverse the effects of alzheimer's and dementia. I doubt they'd be able to produce it fast enough for the first year or so.

      ^-.-^
      Faith is about what you do. It's about aspiring to be better and nobler and kinder than you are. It's about making sacrifices for the good of others. - Dresden

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      • #4
        I feel for them as well. My grandfather has started developing dementia as well. Even the other day he took my grandma to the hospital for a check up for something. The hospital is pry 5 minutes away from where they live.

        He left the hospital to head home and got lost. 30 minutes later he got pulled over by a cop because he had a tail light that was out. Thankfully he was able to call my uncle who lives in a neighboring area and they were able to get him home. It's hard though because he's forgetting things that he knows he should remember. He's aware of it, but can't do anything about it, so I imagine he's even more frightened than us.

        If they do come up with a way to reverse it, or at least stop it so no more memories are lost and they can make new memories without losing them, then it can't come soon enough.
        We Pick Up the Pieces

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        • #5
          I feel sorry for that family and dread having to ever go through that with my parents. My family used to visit cousins (through marriage I think) and their father was VERY rich. But he had Parkinsons, so they would have to watch him at restaurants and in stores because he had the tendency to give his wallet to random people and sometimes forgot exactly what year it was (as in the way he would address employees/servers/etc.) After doing this a bit, they made him a replacement wallet with pretend credit cards so he still felt like he was the one paying for the meals and purchases. Sadly, once he became violent, they couldn't really take him anywhere anymore. I mentioned the money because it was DISGUSTING how many people tried to take advantage of him, relatives and non, because he was a very well-known person.
          Last edited by LillFilly; 07-14-2009, 10:39 AM.
          "If anyone wants this old box containing the broken bits of my former faith in humanity, I'll take your best offer now. You may be able to salvage a few of em' for parts..... " - Quote by Argabarga

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          • #6
            It is really heartbreaking. My husband's family had to go through something like that. His father's dad and his mother' mom both kind of "lost it" near the end. It was sad because it was around the time we got together, so I never got to meet them and because my husband had been on cruise ships for so long it had been a long time since he had seen them and they were pretty much 'not there' when he finally had the chance.

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            • #7
              Oh, I really do have to feel bad for that family. If you want to know what hell is, it is the first stages of dementia, at least if you are smart enough to recognize the symptoms. My grandma got dementia, and one thing I remember all too well was when at the beginning she told me that she could tell it was happening, that every day she woke up and she could feel her own mind slipping, and even when she had full onset dementia you could tell that she was still inside there somewhere trying desperately not to be completely lost. Watching her descent was one of the most painful things I've experienced, it really hit home when one time I went to see her in the hospital and my mom and I walked in and the first time she said "hey Cynthia, hey Allen... it's so good to see you two together... ", she of course was referring to the fact that at one point in time my father and mother were legally separated... what was disturbing though is not only that she mistook me for my father (I've seen the pictures, I do look a lot like him), what's disturbing is that she forgot that he died 15 years before this visit. Later in that same day when mom and I walked in to the room she said "Moi, Logan, I thought you weren't going to be able to come visit"... Moi is my mom's sister, Logan, her brother. So, for that girl, she's probably in tears not just because of the incident at the restaraunt, but because she probably has realized that it's just a part of a long chain of events that will ultimately lead to her own father not recognizing her.
              If you wish to find meaning, listen to the music not the song

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              • #8
                The last time I saw my paternal grandfather alive, he managed to dredge up my correct name, but thought I was his niece. I was grateful for that much.

                Please God don't do that to my parents.

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                • #9
                  My grandma lost her short term memory through a stroke. It was heart-rending and very funny at times.

                  At christmas, my parents bought a fibre-optic Christmas tree, which was pretty new at the time. Every time she saw it, she would say,

                  "Ooh that's pretty. Is it yours."
                  "Yes Nan."

                  "Ooh that's pretty. Is it yours."
                  "Yes Nan."

                  She would ring my parents and talk to my mum. Two minutes later she would forget she had rung and ring again.

                  But in the end it got so bad that she couldn't remember to eat, so she had home help. She would say, "I just don't feel quite with it today."

                  This september it will be 10 years since she died.
                  "I can tell her you're all tied up in the projection room." Sunset Boulevard.

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                  • #10
                    My great grand mother had dementia, my grandmother thankfully did not, but both had alzheimers. I know what its like. It's heart rendering.

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