What now?

[Summerfly413]

I had a super slow night, but the weirdest thing happened. Not a good weird thing either.

Two men come into my department. I ask if they need help. They don't so I leave them alone. After a minute or two one of them comes up and asks me about a price for one of our pay as you go phones.

I went to the aisle because I didn't know which one he was talking about. After telling him the price after tax he said something about making a deal because his money "wasn't good enough" or something to that effect. The men were Haitian, and the one I was talking to wouldn't speak up very much, and he had an accent so I had the hardest time understanding him. The rest basically went like this(kinda paraphrased as I don't remember it exactly):

G: The guy I was talking to. He was probably in his late 20's if I had to guess.
Me:

Me: Ahh, well I'm sorry. It's already on sale so I can't discount it any more. I'd love to, but I'd get in trouble. I could hold it for you if you needed to get more money.
G: So do you have a husband?
Me: Haha..Um, no I don't. (Then I try to explain that the only time we could give discounts is if an item is damaged, but he starts talking before I get a chance)
G: Oh so you're not married?
Me: Uhh...Nope!
G: What was your name?
Me: (I tell him and he looks at my nametag at the same time )
G: And how old are you?
Me: Umm...I'm 19. (I'm starting to get very creeped out at that point. It was just weird before, but what's with the interrogation?)
G: (He laughs, then asks) So did you have a boyfriend then?
Me: Yep! I sure do. He's great! (I have no boyfriend)
G: When are you two getting married?
Me: Uh, I have no idea. We haven't even talked about marriage.
G: Oh, well will you make sure to invite me to the wedding?
Me: *WTF dude?!* -stutter- -confused sounds-
G: So could you give me your number?
Me: Ahhh...umm..well I don't really give out my number....
G: Will you take mine?
Me: *LEAVEEEE* Yeah sure
G: (He says it then asks why I didn't have my phone out to put the number in)
Me: Well I can't have my phone out on the floor. I'll get in trouble. (I turn away from him to walk out of the aisle cause I'm creeped out and angry at this point and want him gone.)
G: (Follows me out of the aisle to my register which I stand behind for personal space, and asks for paper to write his number on)
Me: Yeah sure if you want to give me your number that bad. (I hand him a piece of paper and he excitedly scribbles his number and name onto it)
G: Make sure you text me.
Me: Yeah....Ok....*No way!!*

And they FINALLY left. The man he was with didn't say much. I don't think he stole or anything but my back was to the exit of the aisle I was standing in and the whole department, so who knows.
The guy seemed pretty serious though. Why would you do that to a girl? Unless you WANT to creep her out. Ugh.

[Green_Fairy]

maybe...get married, have green card, stay in country?

[Calie]

well, my first thought was to chalk it up to cultural differences...and then I remembered what site I'm on. The guy's just creepy. That, or green fairy's right and his tourist visa is expiring next week.

[Magpie]

Why would you do that to a girl? Unless you WANT to creep her out. Ugh.

Does he need any other reason? Why do males cat call or whistle? Why do they refer to women they don't know as "baby"?

[phantasy]

I second the visa expiration idea. It could also be that he's just a pervert or something. I can't believe that he would actually *think* that a girl would want to date him (this goes for any guy, for that matter) just by talking to them and creeping them out.

[draftermatt]

I've read numerous stories where (single) girls will buy a cheap ring and wear it on their left hand hoping to avoid some of those creeps.

Just a thought.

[Sparky]

A lot of men just have this idea in their heads that they are God's gift to women. I've seen 40+ year old men, with giant pot bellies and no hair, hitting on 19-year old beautiful women. I think they think they're just giving the girls a thrill. Imagine how they'd feel if you came on to them. They think they're making you feel that way. Like you're going to be flattered that some old fart with no teeth finds you attractive.

Ick.

I recommend pretending not to get it.

Him: Are you married?

You: Huh? What does that have to do with anything? Is there something else I can help you with?

[ArcticChicken]

I had something very similar happen to me last summer, also with a man from Haiti.

I was playing capture the flag in Clark Park, and during break I wander over to the flee market on the other side of the street. A man approached me, told me he had been watching me, told me we were meant to be together and asked for my number. He also asked me if all the children that were playing were mine. Dude, WTF, there are THIRTY kids there, even if I'd been squeezing out babies at maximum rate since I first became fertile, I'd only have 11 or so kids.

I spent the rest of the day hiding behind my two 6'+ male friends who were there that day.

ETA: He was old enough to be my father, so double creepy.

[Summerfly413]

I didn't even think about the visa thing, could be. I saw them once before after the Haiti earthquake and they were getting a pay as you go phone but nothing weird happened then.

The ring idea isn't too bad, I might look into finding a cheap one. Of course, I'm sure it doesn't stop all of them.

[draftermatt]

The ring idea isn't too bad, I might look into finding a cheap one. Of course, I'm sure it doesn't stop all of them.

Nothing will stop some of those creepy dudes, except possibly a big burly dude coworker or friend who pretends to be your hubby, and even then they may just wait till he's not around.

[Grumpy]

A lot of men just have this idea in their heads that they are God's gift to women. I've seen 40+ year old men, with giant pot bellies and no hair, hitting on 19-year old beautiful women. I think they think they're just giving the girls a thrill. Imagine how they'd feel if you came on to them. They think they're making you feel that way. Like you're going to be flattered that some old fart with no teeth finds you attractive.

I think I may have figured out what this is all about: I have a (now former) friend who got like this about the time he turned 43. He went from being a fun, gracious guy to a skeevy creep who just oozed sexual desperation. He suddenly started hitting hard on anyone in a skirt, but especially women in their twenties.

An accurate if cruel description:
six foot 3
60 lbs overweight.
bald on top, but let what hair he had get long enough to look really crappy.
many missing teeth, the ones he had were brownish-white
bifocals

Now contrast that with how he looked twenty years ago:
six foot three
slim, trim young military man
full head of hair
full set of teeth
no glasses

No doubt he had a lot of girls checking him out back then, especially when he was in uniform. My guess is that these guys look in the mirror one day and see what they look like now, and lose it. They get it into their heads that if they can still get the pretty young ladies' attention that they're not really the wreck that they see in the mirror. Can you say "mid-life crisis"?

Ick.

I recommend pretending not to get it.

Him: Are you married?

You: Huh? What does that have to do with anything? Is there something else I can help you with?

This is great advice! If it doesn't work, start asking them about their grandchildren.

[Andara Bledin]

I'm so glad I've never had to deal with skeevy older men hitting on me in person.

I used to use ICQ a lot and would chat with pretty much anyone. There were a couple of countries that if the person who was chatting with me was from that country, they'd be asking me about what I was wearing and stuff like that within 5 messages. Then there was the one guy from another country who was perfectly fine for a while, then started acting like we were destined to be together, nevermind the fact that I was married at the time.

Actually, come to think of it, there's another guy from that same country who ended up on my friends list on Facebook (we both play one of the apps) who pulled the same sort of crap.

^-.-^

[Indigo]

I second the cheap ring as a deterrent. I used one for years, cost me about $15 at Claire's. It definitely paid for itself multiple times. Try to get an extra sparkly one so that it blinds them when you flash it.

And of course make mention of how your SO is a Marine (or something similar)

[Stryker One]

Dead End

Nothing will stop some of those creepy dudes, except possibly a big burly dude coworker or friend who pretends to be your hubby, and even then they may just wait till he's not around.

A .45 should stop just about all of them.

[Red_Dazes]

I've read numerous stories where (single) girls will buy a cheap ring and wear it on their left hand hoping to avoid some of those creeps.

Just a thought.

My best friend is a tiny little Asian girl((she is all white on the inside though... I call her my Twinkie)) , she is cute as a button and used to get hit on a lot. She eventually bough a cheep, but expensive-looking, gold band and would always wear it to work. She also had one of her Big, SCARY co-workers be her "Fiance"... since they worked the same shift most of the time....

So whenever anyone would say "you single" she would say, "Nope I'm engaged, to him[point]" it was surprisingly effective.

Of course... this is four years later and they are now married for real. lol!