Fat Girl

[Anakah]

Today was a freaking nightmare. This guy really ruined my day.

I was the only cashier on the front line since the other cashier was on his ten min. break. Well, I was helping a woman out and this guy took it upon himself to act like a big JERK.

He kept inching forward into her space. I ignored him until he was touching arm to arm with the woman in my window who was getting that look on her face. The look of get that freak away from me! He was so in her bubble.

Me: (I already knew the answer but had to ask) Are you two together?

Them: No.

Me: Sir, I need you to step back.

SC: But I'm just cashing out.

ME: Right. BUT she's here first but once I'm finished I can help you.

He actually got CLOSER.

Me: Sir, step back. THe line is over there. I will be right with you.

I stared him down til he moved back.

SC: Yes, massa!

He said really sarcastically and mean. I got really offended by that. He's this little white old man and for some reason it really irked me. We're both white, so I don't really get it.

Me: THANK YOU!

I glared and said it in a snotty tone. I know that wasn't okay but that guy had me already angry.

My supervisor came out doing something and I begged her to take him but she was busy. Thank god, my co worker came back just in time to take the asshole.

CW: SV I need you right now.

I KNEW SC was about to bitch about me so I intercepted my SV and told her exactly what happened.

After that SV went over to him and the next thing I hear is:

SC: I want to know that FAT GIRL'S name! Yes, the FAT ONE!

Me: FAT GIRL!??!

I actually yelled that. I was so freaking livid. I wanted to go over there and yell in his stupid face. But instead I just ran into the back.

Later I found out my SV actually gave him my name!!!

From what I heard she said: Sir, she has a name and it's Anakah! She's was just doing her job. There is a spot for you to wait until called while she is assisting others.

SC: I don't want to hear that bullshit!

At that point she just walked away from him.

Come to find out he called her a F-ing Bitch. We told security and they said if we see him again, let them know. I had to write a statement too. Just in case he really does complain about me. Asshole. Made me upset the whole night.

I'm really self consicious about my weight and that totally didn't help. I know he's just a jerk but it still didn't make me feel any better.

[SuperRTL]

Ah *hugs* that kind of SC really can ruin a day. I've read people the riot act for referring to me as the Fat Chick and I've been backed up by management.

Usually I'll say something to the effect of "We wear name tags for a reason. Unless you'd like me to exercise the right to refuse service, you will use my name and answer my questions Yes, ma'am or No, ma'am until our transaction is concluded." Apparently, I'm intimidating or something and that usually works.

Going to the back to collect yourself and not letting the customers see you cry is a good idea, though. Those kinds of jerks actually enjoy making people cry. It's why he was creeping up on the other woman and invading her personal space so badly. He can't not be in charge of any given situation and if he can't do it by having actual authority, he'll intimidate the hell out of everybody he can.

[Peppergirl]

Anakah, if memory serves - I live near you. I'd love to take a road trip and give that clown a piece of my mind for you!!

It's hard enough battling your weight without insensitive assholes like this making you feel worse. Believe me, I've been there.

I'm SOOO very sorry, sweetie.

[LillFilly]

I'm sorry that happened to you; I hope you can ban that guy from your place of work.

[Irving Patrick Freleigh]

"We wear name tags for a reason.

Yeah--to give SCs a name to go with the face they're complaining about.

[bainsidhe]

Ah, customers who intentionally grasp on to a difference, any difference, and use it as an insult. Doubly insulting when they aren't even trying to be a jerk and will use insulting descriptions. Yeah. My dad is one of those.

[MelodiousBubbles]

The one time I ever lost it on a customer was when they called me fat. This was after I had lost a lot weight, and if I remember correctly, my response went something like this:

*low voice* "Now see here... I have struggled and worked hard to get to the point I am now, and I will NOT have you stand there and belittle me for the sake of your own self-esteem. We're done. Have a nice day."

I think he just stood there sputtering to himself for a few minutes while I helped the next customers as happy as a clam. He didn't get any sympathy from my manager or the store manager either, and the customer after him told me I was very pretty

But seriously... Don't let that douche bag ruin your day, or your self-esteem. You're probably prettier than he could ever hope to be, because you can't fix his kind of ugly

[tropicsgoddess]

What an insensitive jackass!

[JLG]

What a jerk! Sorry he ruined your day

My story to one of those idiot people is when this little kid was saying bye to practically everyone in the store. He was waving say bye lady, bye cashier. And then he turned to me and said "bye fat lady"

There were customers sitting on some chairs by the front door that heard him and laughed and repeated what he said. Ya real mature for some 30 something year old adults to draw more attention to what just happened.

[protege]

*low voice* "Now see here... I have struggled and worked hard to get to the point I am now, and I will NOT have you stand there and belittle me for the sake of your own self-esteem. We're done. Have a nice day."

Actually, the *proper* response is "I might be fat, but I can always lose weight. You, on the other hand, will always be an asshole. Good luck with losing *that*"

Seriously though, I do know what it's like. I have a bit of a spare tire, mainly because I sit on my ass for 9 hours a day at work. Even with going to the gym, and working in the yard...I can't seem to get rid of the damn thing. As such, my stomach is an easy target with certain family members. Namely my brother. He hasn't said a thing about it...since I flipped out on him. That night, he gave me grief, and I returned the favor. I simply commented that he was 30 years old, had no job, and was still living with Mommy. In other words, unless you are flawless, you don't have a right to say a damn thing.

[MoonCat]

He really didn't like you calling him out on his BS, did he? I hate people that get into my personal space like that.

And he has a FAT HEAD. That's incurable.

[Imprl59]

That really sucks. If you can don't let him get you down. Heavy on the outside is a heck of a lot better than ugly on the inside.

[chainedbarista]

sorry about that old, insensitive, possibly senile bastard. *cookies with white and milk choco chips*

i'm waiting for the day when some smartass makes that comment to me (i'm a bit on the full figured side myself), but somehow, i think my normal face is enough. apparently, i look pissed off, even though i'm usually thinking about other stuff.

[Biggie]

Forget that loser! Working with customers for a living changed me for the better. Internally I may be a bad person, but I never take that out on the employee just doing their job. Businesses should BAN customers like that, eventually when they have nowhere else to go maybe they will treat people with courtesy and respect.

[Athaelia]

We're both white, so I don't really get it.

I'm sorry about your experience! That guy is a real douche.

I don't understand that"master" crap either. He's trivializing the troubles of people that actually had to deal with the effects of slavery. He simply has no clue of the plight of slaves. Perhaps he needs a history lesson.

You have a lot of patience for dealing with him; I do not think I would be able to contain myself. Wrath would be pouring out of my ears. Hell, just thinking about what happend to you makes me kinda angry!