Call Center Escalating Moms [fairly long]

[Kristev]

That's just disgusting. Was your mom on an episode of Judge Joe Brown? They had a case with a woman who wouldn't stop stealing from her kids, either.

[AtDIelement]

I constantly have parents trying to get information of their child's bank account. It's always the same line too, "But it's MY child."

My response?

"But it's your child's bank account, not yours. If you want info on it, go ask them."

[MoonCat]

My guess is that most of these parents feel entitled to the information because they are paying for their kid's education. That doesn't mean they are entitled to it... and of course there are a lot of control freaks out there who can't let go and want to run every aspect of their kid's life. From what I've heard, it's gotten to where some parents actually accompany their kids to job interviews! Yeah, I bet that goes over well with the hiring manager....not.

[BeeMused]

I just found something on the NYTimes: Students, Welcome to College; Parents, Go Home
Helicopter parents and how some colleges try to deal with them.

[Magpie]

and of course there are a lot of control freaks out there who can't let go and want to run every aspect of their kid's life. From what I've heard, it's gotten to where some parents actually accompany their kids to job interviews! Yeah, I bet that goes over well with the hiring manager....not.

The behaviour they're exhibiting wouldn't be out of line with younger children. They just aren't letting their kids grow up.

[zombiequeen]

Yeah, luckily the bank I'm with now isn't one my mum uses, so they don't know her as the township treasurer lady. I asked the lady at my former bank how mum got back on my account and she said it was because she was worried about me and wanted to be able to put money in for me...sure...that's why my wedding savings were completely drained out, almost an entire summer of work just gone. My fiancee at the time (now husband) flipped out, she had to give us the money back, and it went into his bank account.

Even now she's tried to call up our current bank and get our information, and tried to hack into our bank account, because she's "concerned for our welfare." Luckily the bank is like "no, they've said nothing about this, and you can only be added to an account in person, so they would have to bring you here and say yeah put them on."

[Jack]

... What? Someone there is full of BS (I mean either cust serv or your mum). You can't possibly need editing access to an account to put money *into* it. I've just done it last week with only a friend's account number.

[MadMike]

That's just disgusting. Was your mom on an episode of Judge Joe Brown? They had a case with a woman who wouldn't stop stealing from her kids, either.

I can't believe some people are actually low enough to steal from their own kids. Then again, my ex proved she wasn't above that sort of thing a couple of years ago.

My son spends a few nights every week at his grandparents' (her parents) house, and has his own room over there. One day she was visiting, he went into his room and noticed that a $5 bill he had on top of his dresser was missing. He confronted her about it, and she denied taking it.

He managed to trick her by telling her, "I know you took it, and I want my $10 back!"

Without thinking, she blurted out, "I only took $5!" and then, "Oh shit..." She ended up giving it back, thankfully, but it's fucked up that she took it in the first place.

[zombiequeen]

... What? Someone there is full of BS (I mean either cust serv or your mum). You can't possibly need editing access to an account to put money *into* it. I've just done it last week with only a friend's account number.

The bank lady is friends with my mum, and thinks that because she is the township and church treasurers, she is utterly trustworthy with money. Knowing my mum, she spun some odd tale that made her get fully on the account again.

[Hyndis]

If that happens again I would call up the bank, in a panic, at how someone else managed to get access to your account against your wishes.

Its stealing, plain and simple. Don't even mention it was your mother. It is not important. It is a random person off the street who managed to convince the bank teller to give them your money.

Stuff like that they take very seriously!

Again, don't even mention it was your mother. Then once you have things sorted out with the bank about how someone you don't know was making unauthorized withdrawls from your account, call your mother in a panic about how someone stole from your account, and that the police and/or the bank's fraud division are now involved.






Yes. Seriously. If my parents did that to me it would be entirely factual too. If it came to that then I no longer know them. By betraying trust in such an underhanded way they no longer deserve any sort of special relationship. They are just people who convinced the bank, through trickery, to give your money to them.

They are scam artists, nothing more.

[Whiskey]

The bank lady is friends with my mum, and thinks that because she is the township and church treasurers, she is utterly trustworthy with money. Knowing my mum, she spun some odd tale that made her get fully on the account again.

get this woman blackballed and fired and anything else. That is completely illegal. If she has your account number she can put money in, but she is NOT allowed access to your funds at ALL. I hope you have passwords set up with every company you do business with. All you need is a name and an account number to get access.

seriously GET HER FIRED. FIRED. And have your damn mother arrested. That is fraud and theft!

[Indigo]

Normally I am against parents getting involved in their adult children's lives. However, my school's financial aid office will tell me one thing and my mother another. I have found that the only way to get straight answers and not get screwed over is to bring my mother along on all of my meetings with them.

[Hyndis]

get this woman blackballed and fired and anything else. That is completely illegal. If she has your account number she can put money in, but she is NOT allowed access to your funds at ALL. I hope you have passwords set up with every company you do business with. All you need is a name and an account number to get access.

seriously GET HER FIRED. FIRED. And have your damn mother arrested. That is fraud and theft!

Yup. Just go to corporate. Tell them that a local teller has repeatedly (this sounds like this is not the first time) giving unauthorized people access to your account and allowing the unauthorized people to take money from your account. That is the definition of fraud.

I'm sure corporate will have a shitfit about it.

[D_Marx]

Wow. I'm working mandatory OT for a couple of days and come back to this. You guys rock.

Seriously, I should've kept my mouth shut, but at the same time, I would've gotten my ass handed to me in the end, by Someone. Moms are scary, and I tend to try and make sure everything has been done, but sometimes those moms just don't care. We just make fun of them later.

I like that article for the Students, Welcome; Parents, Go Home.

My parents made me take care of my own crap. If they did anything, they did so without my knowledge [sometimes the cosigner's/spouse's income is needed], but I fought for my loans. All 8 in two years. That usually shuts the obnoxious ones up.

[Shalom]

The bank lady is friends with my mum, and thinks that because she is the township and church treasurers, she is utterly trustworthy with money.

I think the township and the church had better audit their books. Someone who believes in "What's yours is mine" isn't likely to stop with their own kids' money.