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Man, this is being a great day. *sarcasm*
I was doing a trade with somebody. I enjoy trades. But when I'm trading custom, hand made items for ordinary, commercial goods, I take care to keep from getting ripped off, since what I'm sending out is irreplaceable and what they're sending out is rather less so.
My policy has always been that I will make your half of the trade, and show you photos so that you know it's made, up front. I don't require any "payment" before I start, which is frankly already me being pretty generous from my point of view, given that I'm going to spend hours or work without getting any guarantee that things will work out.
But from this chick's point of view apparently her "work" in buying something is every bit as important as my time. Fair enough, I guess.
So when I contacted her to let her know that my half was finished (and sent her photos) and all I needed now was to get her half, she started this passive-aggressive insistence that we needed to ship at the same time. It was the only "fair" way to do it.
And here's the fun part. I agreed to this. I said that I would make an exception for her, but with the understanding that if she didn't come through on her half, I would be making that fact public, with her name attached.
She flipped out at me, said I was threatening her, and rambled on for a whole paragraph about how honest she is and how she's never cheated anybody. I don't know about you guys, but to me people who have the need to say how honest they are seem less trustworthy the more they talk...
I apologized for my "threat" and explained I was having a bad day, and I hadn't meant for it to sound like an accusation. But I also told her that if she was upset at the idea of my making her failure public if she didn't come through, that was very suspicious to me, and if she wanted perhaps we should just call the deal off, and she could find some other buyer for her mass-produced items, and I could find another buyer for my custom made plush.
I got back another long, passive-aggressive, rambling paragraph about how trustworthy she is, how sending at the same time is the only fair thing, and yes this deal was obviously too much trouble.
So basically even though I agreed to her demand, the fact that I wasn't nice enough to kiss her feet while I was at it, means she doesn't want to deal with me. Her loss, I say. I can get what she's offering any number of places, what I'm offering has only once source, and that's me.
So... anybody want some homeless custom plushes?
(I'm annoyed at her behavior, but honestly not at all fussed about the trade falling through. I agreed to do it back when I was in a better financial position, but now I could really use some extra cash. So selling the plushes for money, even if it takes a while to find a buyer, is just fine by me!)
I was doing a trade with somebody. I enjoy trades. But when I'm trading custom, hand made items for ordinary, commercial goods, I take care to keep from getting ripped off, since what I'm sending out is irreplaceable and what they're sending out is rather less so.
My policy has always been that I will make your half of the trade, and show you photos so that you know it's made, up front. I don't require any "payment" before I start, which is frankly already me being pretty generous from my point of view, given that I'm going to spend hours or work without getting any guarantee that things will work out.
But from this chick's point of view apparently her "work" in buying something is every bit as important as my time. Fair enough, I guess.
So when I contacted her to let her know that my half was finished (and sent her photos) and all I needed now was to get her half, she started this passive-aggressive insistence that we needed to ship at the same time. It was the only "fair" way to do it.
And here's the fun part. I agreed to this. I said that I would make an exception for her, but with the understanding that if she didn't come through on her half, I would be making that fact public, with her name attached.
She flipped out at me, said I was threatening her, and rambled on for a whole paragraph about how honest she is and how she's never cheated anybody. I don't know about you guys, but to me people who have the need to say how honest they are seem less trustworthy the more they talk...
I apologized for my "threat" and explained I was having a bad day, and I hadn't meant for it to sound like an accusation. But I also told her that if she was upset at the idea of my making her failure public if she didn't come through, that was very suspicious to me, and if she wanted perhaps we should just call the deal off, and she could find some other buyer for her mass-produced items, and I could find another buyer for my custom made plush.
I got back another long, passive-aggressive, rambling paragraph about how trustworthy she is, how sending at the same time is the only fair thing, and yes this deal was obviously too much trouble.
So basically even though I agreed to her demand, the fact that I wasn't nice enough to kiss her feet while I was at it, means she doesn't want to deal with me. Her loss, I say. I can get what she's offering any number of places, what I'm offering has only once source, and that's me.
So... anybody want some homeless custom plushes?
(I'm annoyed at her behavior, but honestly not at all fussed about the trade falling through. I agreed to do it back when I was in a better financial position, but now I could really use some extra cash. So selling the plushes for money, even if it takes a while to find a buyer, is just fine by me!)
). In each case, every time they told me how trustworthy (etc) they were, the faith I had in their relative level of trust (etc)...
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