Human Pinata, or How to Be a "Man."

[Jester]

Update

I found out some stuff today. Some very interesting stuff.

To wit, Big Boy was set to be arraigned in the original battery case on January 30th. He filed an affidavit of indigence (meaning he can't afford an attorney and thus needed a public defender) on January 25th. The case against him was dropped, however, as Tiny Dancer was not able to testify. She was unable to testify, of course, because she had died. On January 24th.

Anyone else think the coincidence of the dates seems a little TOO convenient? Yeah, that is what I and her stepdad think also.

In other news, BB sent TD's family a letter, weeping and moaning about how he loved TD, he adored her, he would never harm her, and he was just trying to protect her from all the lecherous drunks who were trying to take advantage of her. In other words, the people at The Bar who circled the wagons and tried to help her out of the situation she was in before she ended up dead. Which, as it turns out, she did.

The letter in itself isn't so much news, as BB has been spinning this same story from the beginning. What IS interesting is what he included with the letter: TD's delinquent bills, including one of her doctor's bills from when he beat the stuffing out of her in December.

I truly thought there was nothing left that this stain could do that would surprise me.

I was horribly mistaken.

I mean, I get the notion of him not wanting to pay her bills. I get it. But anyone else would have just pitched them in the trash. Why are you sending them to her family? Even if legally they are obligated to pay them as next of kin (and I don't think they are), why would you do that as the loving person you are claiming to be?

The answer is pretty blatantly obvious.

He isn't the loving person he is claiming to be. Sending her parents her bills? Just beyond the pale.

So far as I know, though, the investigation into her death is NOT yet closed. I'll keep y'all posted.

[tropicsgoddess]

He isn't the loving person he is claiming to be. Sending her parents her bills? Just beyond the pale.

I don't think BB is fooling anybody with that act of his at all. How can he say he loved her when he did beat the crap out of her and won't at least help out with some the delinquent bills TD had prior to her death?!! Jester, you're not the only one here that sees a HUGE coincidence in the dates BB filed affidavit of indigence and TD's death. I do hope that BB will get what's coming to him, pricks like him make my blood boil!

[Saydrah]

Excuse me, I'll have this jaw off your floor in just a minute, sir, it's proving a bit hard to pick up.

[Becks]

And today's -a-thon© winner is...

[Amethyst Hunter]

It's times like these that I find myself AWFULLY tempted to start practicing witchcraft... Methinks BB could use a nice little hexing at the very least.

Trying (and failing) to paint oneself as the victim and then sending the grieving family insult to injury...that takes fucking balls, man. (And not the good kind either)

[karath]

my God...

I cannot remember crying since I was a kid. When I read that TD had died I burst into tears. I read through all 31 pages of the thread, on a little roller coaster with the mood of the posts...and my God, there's really nothing I can say to this.

My previous jokes about the death of my faith in humanity seem pretty shallow now. And it's obvious from other posts here that BB and TD were far from alone in all this.

Jester and Reformedwaitress, you and all your coworkers and friends (and TD's family) are in my prayers, along with everyone who has or is going through this situation.

[zzapp the witch]

I just found this thread (don't venture here often enough) and I may owe you an apology, because I've already hexed the fucker. (With proper qualifications to keep anything coming back on me). The more attention he seeks, the less he will recieve. The more he makes things about him, the less he will matter to others.....etc.

[Jester]

And just what about that makes you think you owe anyone an apology?

Other than that your hex against the fucker wasn't far more severe, that is....

[Dilorenzo]

Well, I've just read most of this - mostly your replies, Jester - and have to say, you're the goddamn man. You did what you could to help, and when help wasn't needed anymore, you did what you could to make sure she was remembered. And through all of this, you keep saying that folks need to learn from this - a lesser man would have broken down and given up.

So, hey, kudos. Really don't know how to say it any better than that.

[Jester]

Thanks. I really do believe in the saying, "That which does not kill me makes me stronger." I have been through worse that affected me more directly, and have only become a better person for it. The only thing that came close to really destroying me was five years ago, when my fiance decided to become my ex-fiance. I survived that, and everything else that Life has thrown at me since. That, and I am too damn stubborn and evil to let bad people like BB ruin MY life.

[Cyphr]

That, and I am too damn stubborn and evil to let bad people like BB ruin MY life.

Jester you rock. I spent the last two days reading all 31 pages nearly continuously. MY condolences for TD. Watching this chain of events is like watching propane train wreck on double tracks - it looks like things might be okay but it turns out much worse than you could ever imagine. I've been planning to come down to The Rock (awesome name btw) for sometime now and if the plans happen I'll personally buy you two your drink of choice.

[Lachrymose]

I followed this thread from the beginning. I gasped in horror as I read the twisted turn of events regarding TD's death.

I just want to say what everyone else has said. Jester, you are a great, kind person who I'm sure anyone would value as a trustworthy, loyal friend. Who could have thought that such a tragedy would have allowed such a positive outcome on your part?

Also, I work for a collection agency (as a programmer, not a collector) and want to make clear that the only way any family members will be responsible for any bills is if their names are on them as well.

This may not stop the businesses or agencies from calling and (unfortunately) using guilt to get them to pay: "Mr. D, you know that paying this bill is the right thing to do.", etc. But they are not legally responsible for any bills.

[Jester]

Thank you, Cyphr, that is very kind of you.

Jester, you are a great, kind person who I'm sure anyone would value as a trustworthy, loyal friend.

Thank you as well. Though I have to be honest...there are quite a few people who don't have quite the same view of me as y'all do. So to say "anyone" might be stretching it a bit. I can be rather.....unpleasant, if I set my mind to it. Also, some people find me to be rather obnoxious in general. Not to mention arrogant, rude, sarcastic, and unfunny. And those are my good days!

Who could have thought that such a tragedy would have allowed such a positive outcome on your part?

Hope you don't take this the wrong way, but I don't see it as at all positive. A good, longtime friend is dead, and the man who is, one way or another, responsible for her death, and who without question treated her horribly in life, is still walking around free, breathing air and living his life. TD deserved better. This is not a positive. Sorry, but no.

the only way any family members will be responsible for any bills is if their names are on them as well.

This may not stop the businesses or agencies from calling and (unfortunately) using guilt to get them to pay: "Mr. D, you know that paying this bill is the right thing to do.", etc.

TD's parents have no plans of paying those bills, and as far as they are concerned, the collection agencies/creditors can go get bent. And her stepfather has no problem saying it in far less eloquent ways.

[RayvenQ]

Jester, I have to commend you for your self restraint, If I were in your situation, I'd be out for blood, literally.

[Jester]

Rayven, if I thought I could get away with it without ending up in jail, trust me, BB would already be getting picked up by the cops in multiple body bags.