I should be a *WHAT?* o_O

[Dragon_Dreamer]

It may have been meant as a compliment, but I'm *still* upset and offended. She is *not* the first customer to comment on my body while I've been at work, though she is the first to have said something like this. And no, I'm not "dressing provocatively." I usually wear work-provided shirts that are slightly too big, and pants that do the same. I follow the dress code. And still I hear stuff like, "You should be a stripper," "You're too young to have implants," and "Those are *nursing* breasts, dear."

I am *extremely* proud of my intelligence, and I've worked *hard* to get through school. No one *ever* says, "You look like a scientist," it's always, "You're too pretty to be a geek."

It's sexist, and it's WRONG, no matter who the comment is coming from.

[blas]

Don't get too offended over it. Some people don't have brain to mouth filters, and they tend to spew out the stupidest shit faster than the Olsen twins can be mistaken for starving children wearing Mommy's lipstick.

When people say stuff like that to me, or make obnoxious comments about my breasts or my behind, I get grossed out for a minute, then erase it from my memory the best I can.

[FuzzyKitten99]

Some people don't have brain to mouth filters, and they tend to spew out the stupidest shit

I sometimes have that problem where something that was meant as a quirky complement comes out completely different than it sounded in my head... I think maybe rackspurts hijack my brain cells on the way to my mouth sometimes...

[Imogene]

I sometimes have that problem where something that was meant as a quirky complement

Most of the time, when I have to check a customer's age, if they look like they're over 18, I just say, "You look 18..."
More often than not, my customers reply, "Plus a couple years, sure."
It's always like, "Hello, trying to be kind here, by not saying, Yeah, you look old enough to buy paint."

[Pagan]

hey! I've seen a 65 year old model...she looked GOOD!!!

Iman still looks damn good at 52! And David Bowie is lookin' pretty fine himself.

I am *extremely* proud of my intelligence, and I've worked *hard* to get through school. No one *ever* says, "You look like a scientist," it's always, "You're too pretty to be a geek."

I understand you completely. You know what's in your head and you use it, but *some* people just can't comprehend that this is now the 21st century and it's not a good idea to make comment like that anymore. They might be thinking it, but that doesn't mean that they need to say it.

I've gotten comments too, because I might be a fairly slim goddess, but I've got curves in the right places. I do the same thing that Blas does with those idiot comments.

When people say stuff like that to me, or make obnoxious comments about my breasts or my behind, I get grossed out for a minute, then erase it from my memory the best I can.

Just remember Cygnata we're all goddesses. (And the definition of "goddess" is: a woman men bow down to! )

[Dragon_Dreamer]

Just remember Cygnata we're all goddesses. (And the definition of "goddess" is: a woman men bow down to! )

Heh, I'll try. I have been mostly ignoring the comments for a few years now, it just became that this one almost broke the camel's back, y'know?

Thanks.

[Andara Bledin]

People are, collectively, shallow. Anyone with eyesight at all can see and reflect on another's physical appearance.

But to get upset over comments about appearance and not about intelligence from someone you've only just met two minutes ago is a little silly.

After all, how can they possibly know that you have an IQ over 100, much less 130. They can't, and for the most part, they don't care. They make comments about appearance because it's easy, it's obvious, and it's small talk. They're mostly throw-away comments that they didn't take any time to actually consider.

And even if they are outdated and sexist, until the fashion industry and marketing world stop portraying women like they do, it's not going to change any time soon.

^-.-^

[Fawn]

Okay Okay! 2 sides to this, only because I am odd! lol

First thought that came to mind was: she thought you had a great figure! Which is an awesome compliment.

Second thought: Oh that sentence could go so wrong in so many ways.

I'm trying to think positive and that she wasn't trying to be mean over it. I think she's a little to preoccupied with those thoughts though and it seems to be the first thing that popped out of her mouth.

So.. ya... my thoughts

[dispatch]

I guess it's more of a respect thing, if it came from someone you know and you have those kinds of conversations then that's one thing, but if you're just making small talk with a stranger that's just plain out of line, talk about the weather, gas prices, polotics, maybe the color of your hair.

There's more tactful ways to compliment someone's figure than by saying "you're hot" or "you should be a stripper" and while I know I shouldn't hold the American public to such high standards and expect them to be met, I still like to try and get pleasently surprised every here and there

[zzapp the witch]

Look, what I meant was, you can't let this stuff get to you. I have obnoxiously big boobs. Yes, I want to ultimately get them cut off. But in the mean time, I've built up an, "Oh, that's nice" filing cabinet in the back of my head that gets deleted at the end of every day. You have a nice figure. Someone noticed. You can let it get you all sensitive and butthurt and paranoid (I try to not ever be biased based on a person's appearance, whether it was a used up stripper or a 400 lb unwashed guy, I treat them the same), OR you can say, yay, a compliment, whatever, that one goes in the shred pile; and let yourself have a good eyeroll over the whole thing.

And random people have no idea what goes on in your head about comments they may make. That's why you can't let yourself going through life whining about it, you just wash it off at the end of the day. Obviously that lady was from a completely different class of people than you are.

Words are just words, actions....now that's something completely different. (As evidenced in the Dear Abby thread!)

Now if that gal had reached over, bounced one of your boobs and said how nice and firm they were.....ooooooh yeah. I could totally understand going nuts over it.

God, do I sound like I've worked around weirdos and pigs too long?

[dispatch]

I didn't mean to offend anyone, and I know ya can't carry it around with you, doesn't mean I wouldn't like to equip allot of people with shock-collars that could be activated every time they spoke without thinking.

Ahhh, when the day comes that Dispatch conquers the world....there will be frolicing with puppies for all CSRs and years of indentured servitude for the assholes of the world.

[zzapp the witch]

Puppies bug me.

[Andara Bledin]

Ahhh, when the day comes that Dispatch conquers the world....there will be frolicing with puppies for all CSRs and years of indentured servitude for the assholes of the world.

Oh, hey, can I have kittens, instead?

^-.-^

[dispatch]

I'm sorry, but Kittens don't frolic quite so well, the first grasshopper they see they break the ranks and go for it. Scientific studies have shown that puppies are the best creatures for outdoor frolicing, hence why I went with them.

To make up for this inconvenience, at the end of the frolicing there will be a lake of chocolate pudding for everyone to enjoy at their own discretion.

[unclejampuff]

I used to bartend at a strip club where my roommate danced. CRAZY good money. But despite being the only fully clothed woman there, I still got a ridiculous amount of "comments".
"Baby, with titties like those, how can you NOT dance for me?"
"I'll take a Jack and Coke... if you take off your shirt."
"Why don't I ever see your fine ass up there?"
"I can just see you in a thong, right up in my face!"
There are 15-25 women who would get nekkid for $2. Why are you busting your ass trying to make me do the same? Kind of defeats the purpose of the place, huh?

I don't feel it's the customer's place to make any sort of comment on your body. I brushed off the above comments because it was expected there. But unless the general theme is (partially or fully)naked women, HOW RUDE.