brides that make my head hurt

[bammertheblue]

I'm one of those oddballs who would just pick a color and let each person choose the dress they feel most comfortable in.

That's what one of my friends did for her wedding. She had 5 bridesmaids, all very different heights, builds, coloring, etc. No one dress was going to flatter all of them. So they all wore dresses of a similar shade of dark blue, in whatever style they wanted. Everyone got to wear something that they looked and felt good in, while still matching and looking nice.

[auntiem]

My wedding is going to be in wet suits with the formal accessories, standing out in the water of the Pacific Ocean. Now I just have to find a bride that will go along with that idea

If my SO had his way we'd get married in wet suits under water with the bridal party snorkeling above I assume.

As for the OP - it always amazes me how much non-sewers complain about the cost of alterations. I think it is because people who know what they are doing make it look easy. I can sew, but am lousy on putting in zippers - zippers are my downfall so if I'm making a nice garment I finish it up to zipper instalation then pay whatever the seamstress asks for them to put it in right.

Not knowing what cup size the lady is, but spagetti straps would be hard pressed to do the job of supporting my "girls" - I doubt they'd last thru the ceremony and I doubt any bride wants her Mother having a "wardrobe malfunction" at her wedding.

[Lace Neil Singer]

I'd just let my Mum wear what she liked; for one thing, my mother has her own style and I have mine. No way would she let me pick out a dress for her. I want a red dress that I can wear again; no white puffball for me, no way. o_O

[wagegoth]

When you elope, that's when you get married by a JP, right?

It just means that the bride and groom went off on their own and got married. They might take a friend or two along.

My husband and I eloped to Reno, Nevada, because what was supposed to be a tiny, backyard wedding was being taken over by his grandmother and mother. One night, as we were discussing some of the issues, he suddenly said, "Let's go to Reno." We got a hotel room with a discount when we told them we were coming up to get married, and they let us check in early. My sister drove over from Fallon and helped me fix my hair, then we had a little get-together in Fallon. My cousin bought a cake from the local bakery. We had a lot more fun than if we'd had the wedding that was being planned for us.

We were married by a minister at a chapel across the street from Reno City Hall.

[laundryhater]

Yeah 'cause nothing says "classy wedding" like a braless MOB - NOT!

[AriRashkae]

My husband and I eloped to Reno, Nevada, because what was supposed to be a tiny, backyard wedding was being taken over by his grandmother and mother. One night, as we were discussing some of the issues, he suddenly said, "Let's go to Reno."

We were married by a minister at a chapel across the street from Reno City Hall.

I gotta know: how'd MIL and GIL take this?

[MadMike]

Huzzah for unconventional weddings!

You would have loved my friends' wedding. They combined it with their Halloween party, and they and all the guests were in costumes. The guy who married them was a close friend of theirs who took an online course to become a minister, just so he could marry them, and dressed as a bright red demon. I'm not sure what the bride and groom were supposed to be, but they looked kind of like a vampire couple. If I ever become single, I'm never getting married again, but if I would I would probably do it like that. We had a blast!

My husband and I eloped to Reno, Nevada, because what was supposed to be a tiny, backyard wedding was being taken over by his grandmother and mother.

I can only imagine how stressful that must have been. My family was helpful but not at all pushy, we kept it simple and fairly small (invited roughly 100, about 50 came), and we were still stressed to the poinw here we (somewhat) jokingly kept saying "Fuck this! Let's just elope!"

[Cia]

I told my mom and MIL what my wedding colors were and they picked out their own outfits. My dad offered to wear his Navy dress whites but since my hubby, the best man and the groomsman were all wearing their Army Class Bs (green) and not their Class As (dark blue) I opted for dad to wear a black suit.

[Andara Bledin]

You would have loved my friends' wedding. They combined it with their Halloween party, and they and all the guests were in costumes. The guy who married them was a close friend of theirs who took an online course to become a minister, just so he could marry them, and dressed as a bright red demon. I'm not sure what the bride and groom were supposed to be, but they looked kind of like a vampire couple. If I ever become single, I'm never getting married again, but if I would I would probably do it like that. We had a blast!

Well, my first wedding was on Halloween.

The groom was in his full faire kit, as was our guild mistress, who also officiated. My brother and his girlfriend were both in matching faceless jester outfits, and my aunt was in a different sort of jester outfit, as she considered marriage a joke (hers went very sour at the end). The in-laws were in fancy old west duds, and my mother was all in black, with a really huge hat with a veil, as if in mourning.

^-.-^

[lordlundar]

When you elope, that's when you get married by a JP, right?

Not quite. It's basically you, your future SO, two witnesses and a licensed minister.

[tropicsgoddess]

I'm not gonna micromanage my bridal party let alone put out any bridezilla type behavior when I get married, I detest bridezillas. I don't care as long as the MOB outfits are tasteful (and I know that both mothers-mine and SO's we can trust to pick something out that's nice) and that my bridesmaids dresses are the same color and fits them. As for the men's outfits, I'll let SO deal with that. Thank GAWD he has good taste in clothes!!!

[iradney]

So glad I'm only going to have one bridesmaid
TTO and I have already discussed what we'd like our wedding to be like (no, he hasn't proposed yet), and we're surprisingly compatible!

I take my hat off to dressmakers everywhere. Not only do you have to deal with people with unreasonable demands, I'm sure you encounter people with...hygiene issues as well.... *blegh*

[Calie]

That's what one of my friends did for her wedding. She had 5 bridesmaids, all very different heights, builds, coloring, etc. No one dress was going to flatter all of them. So they all wore dresses of a similar shade of dark blue, in whatever style they wanted. Everyone got to wear something that they looked and felt good in, while still matching and looking nice.

I had the same - 5 bridesmaids of remarkably different heights and shape. I picked the color and length and told them to have fun.

As for the OP, I feel sorry for the mom. It sounds like she's controlled by everyone there. Though she could do herself a favor and wear a bra...
I let my mother and future mother-in-law choose their own clothes, so much easier that way. Though my mom kept calling and asking for advice and sending pics from her cellphone...I eventually told her to go ask my sister for help.

[Megg]

If I ever become single, I'm never getting married again, but if I would I would probably do it like that.

There's always a renewal of vows or something.

Bridezillas freak me out. I hate it that they are so focused on appearances and not on what is important. That poor mother. Well, she likely did it to herself, she's the one that taught the girl, after all. Double suck, how fun!

[wagegoth]

I gotta know: how'd MIL and GIL take this?

MIL keeps bringing up the fact that my husband's father attended with his wife, but they live in Reno. My husband called them just as we were heading to the chapel and they showed up in the clothes they had on. They left right after the ceremony to go to work.

GIL passed away about three years later, but she got to see her first great-grandchild, so I think that took care of the disappointment.