brides that make my head hurt

[FenigDurak]

I differed a bit. I've chosen colors based on what my Mother is going to wear. I asked her to wear the blue taffeta dress she got married to my Step Father in. So she's already squared away.

[BookstoreEscapee]

It amazes me the level of anal retentivness brides go to when the day itself goes so quick and the only thing the bride is (or should be) focusing on is the groom.

I gotta say, though I am currently single and have never been engaged or anything, I've never really pictured my wedding day when I've thought about getting married. I've picture myself married, but not really so much getting married. I have only a vague idea of what kind of dress I'd want, I don't know what colors I would have (probably blue, but who knows), where I want it, etc. I could give you a rough idea of my side of the guest list but that's about it.

One of my friends (she of the minister-father) chose separates for her bridesmaids. They all had the same skirt, and there were several styles of top to go with it, and each bridesmaid chose the one they liked best and felt most comfortable in. So everyone from the tiny sister-in-law to the well-endowed college roomie was happy.

[Red Hand of Ulster]

My friend had her bridesmaids in long satin skirts in a dark periwinkle color, and simple v-neck cashmere sweaters in a lighter shade (perfect for an outdoor September wedding on the water in Rhode Island). The skirts were made by a seamstress (a friend or church member, I think, who did it cheap), the sweaters were part of their bridesmaid gift and something they can actually wear for a long time.

A former friend of mine did something similar. The ceremony was at the end of December outside in southern New Mexico. The bodice of her dress was crushed white velvet. Our dresses were all crushed velvet, but in various jewel tones and styles. She wanted us to be able to get dresses that we could wear again. I still have mine and wear it.

When you elope, that's when you get married by a JP, right?

Not quite. It's basically you, your future SO, two witnesses and a licensed minister.

Or a judge. That's who my parents were married by.

I gotta say, though I am currently single and have never been engaged or anything, I've never really pictured my wedding day when I've thought about getting married. I've picture myself married, but not really so much getting married. I have only a vague idea of what kind of dress I'd want, I don't know what colors I would have (probably blue, but who knows), where I want it, etc. I could give you a rough idea of my side of the guest list but that's about it.

Same here. All I can really tell you is that the men will be wearing kilts. Maybe Spirit of Scotland (since it's a purple and I love purple) and Black Isle (black on black) tartans? Maybe I'll use his clan? Maybe mine? Maybe we'll just take off for Grenta Green and hang it all. But first, I gotta find my Scotsman!

[PepperElf]

dayum. and when i get married i was just expecting Mom to pick out her own pants-suit outfit

hell after hearing about the girls and the prom dress story, i'm half tempted to have everyone just wear disney princess dresses ...

[Megg]

I've picture myself married, but not really so much getting married.

And this is why, when you find the right one, you will have a long, happy marriage. It's the most important thing, and all too many forget that.

[lordlundar]

Or a judge. That's who my parents were married by.

Judges are licensed ministers.

[Red Hand of Ulster]

Judges are licensed ministers.

Huh? Everything I can find about them says that they're judges, may or may not be lawyers, and are part of the court system. Nowhere does it say that they have to be ministers. In fact, that's why my parents wound up going to the JP. The Methodist minister wanted them to go to counseling for 6 months "to make sure". This after they had been dating for 6 years.

In fact, what I found for my city says that without a justice of the peace or minister officiating that the marriage isn't legal.

[workerbee222]

Karma came around and rewarded me for being polite to those people.

This evening, a young woman and her consort walked into the store and puchased a discontinued, discounted dress. It a\has a train. They are flying to Las Vegas tomorrow. Could we bustle the dress with safety pins? Not only that, but we could leave three pins attached to the lining, three to the dress, so all Hubby-to-be has to do is hook the safety pins together.

She was grateful. I felt fulfilled.

[Anriana]

Interesting that there is a general consensus that it is wrong for the husband to weigh in on the wife's cleavage but fine for people who have never met the wife to weigh in on what underwear she needs to wear.

Visible bras are tacky and strapless bras don't do much. Spaghetti straps without built-in bras suck.

[AlmightyALT]

I want to have a Ren Faire wedding at my home faire and my mother can purse her lips and glare and deal with it! I already have several friends to choose from who could make my dress.

My mom had two church weddings and both marriages ended badly. For her third marriage to my dad they eloped to Lake Tahoe and it's been nearly 30 years. I don't know if she was a bridezilla though. Technically we don't know about marriage number two. But one of her childhood friends got drunk one night and blabbed to my little sister.

[workerbee222]

Interesting that there is a general consensus that it is wrong for the husband to weigh in on the wife's cleavage but fine for people who have never met the wife to weigh in on what underwear she needs to wear.

Visible bras are tacky and strapless bras don't do much. Spaghetti straps without built-in bras suck.

I don't care if she wears a bra or not. A long line strapless bra would indeed hold her up. I didn't mean to imply that she "needs" one, but that a good foundation garment would hold up the girls, thus making the straps and dress more comfortable. It won't make the dress cover more of her, though.

[candyshopgirl]

God I would have never had my mom wear a spagetti strap dress to my wedding.Dad would be touching and rubbing her all dayAnd probadly singing "my humps" again to her like he did on the way to the casino. Again
Old people sex...

Anyways I have never understood the bridezilla crap.The best and most memoriable parts of my wedding were the mistakes.Like dad stepping on my veil and knocking me down or when the best man threw the wedding rings in the garbage can with a used kleenex. Yes this is how my life is.

[Dasota]

My best friend with be in a Tux and standing on my side and my "Best Man" and the groom will be in a Kilt. ^_^ No idea what kinda dress I want, but it won't be traditional. Hell I might wear a kilt myself.

[AccountingDrone]

When you elope, that's when you get married by a JP, right?

pretty much - mrDrone and I used a JP that we picked out of the listing at town hall.

I agree, I pity the poor grooms of the bridezillas ... I play wedding enforcer for my friends when they get married [sort of my bridal gift to the couple, I make sure that all the details are followed and everything happens smoothly. Im good at it, and I can work with just about any professional wedding planner I have met so far - even the really annoying guy who insisted on keeping a teacup poodle in a 'manbag' with himself no matter what.]

It seems to me that the bridezillas end up divorced at a much higher rate than regular brides ... my brother married a bridezilla the first time around and she divorced him 9 months later.

[Andara Bledin]

It seems to me that the bridezillas end up divorced at a much higher rate than regular brides ... my brother married a bridezilla the first time around and she divorced him 9 months later.

That wouldn't surprise me in the least.

They're only interested in that fairy tale wedding; they don't actually want to be married.

^-.-^