Wow, she doesn't get it

[Andara Bledin]

The other person said that YES, she will give me a ride.

Now just have to get in touch with her lol--don't want to call her yet, she might be at work, etc.

That's great!

^-.-^

[Solumina]

It breaks my heart that your mother won't drive you but I am glad that this other woman will take you with her. Whether this doctor can help you or not at least you will get a chance to hear from a specialist and you wont have to wonder for the rest of your life what could have been. I wish you the best.

[JustaCashier]

Eisa, as I was just catching up on this thread, the one thing that kept going through my mind. just as it had from the start, was wondering if you Mom has always been this selfish. You answered that in one of your more recent posts.

I won't say too much of what I'm thinking, she's still your Mom, and I'm sure she has good qualities and that you love her, but I'm just stunned that she would not jump at the chance to help correct something that has given you physical pain, mobility issues, embarrassment, and emotional pain throughout your life.

If she was truly fearful of driving, due to unknown, and unpredictable weather conditions considering the time of year, fear of freeways, night driving, whatever, I could understand that. But one would think she'd otherwise trying to move Heaven and Earth to help in getting you there to get this done.

I hope the ride from the other person, and everything else related to this works out for you.

Keep us posted on how this all works out, including after seeing the Dr.!

Mike

[Eisa]

I really wish this person would call me already. But I have to remember that she likely has other stuff to do, like work or maybe school or whatever, I don't know. But I bet she's busy getting ready and stuff, too. If she doesn't call me by 7 or so, I think I will call her, though, and find out.

Mike--yeah, my mom really has always been this selfish. It would be a little more understandable about driving in bad weather if she hadn't already pulled this so many times over my life. And I have noticed that if it's something SHE really wants to do, all of a sudden, she can manage it. But if it's something that only really benefits me, then she can't do it.

She also still doesn't get just how big this is. Like how much it affects me. It is embarrassing. It is painful in every way. I know that I am "not normal" and have always known it since I was a very little kid. And they also KNOW that I need more than what I got as a baby--the surgeon then said that I would need more surgery etc. in the future. And you'd think it would be a lot better to get it now than way down the road, you know?

to everyone!

[Eisa]

Sweet. I did get in touch with her. She's about my age--we texted for quite a while. So that was nice. Now I know she's not some old, embittered hag-thing who will spend the whole time grousing about giving me a ride or whatever. She's also from Russia, which is quite cool!

[Frantic Freddie]

Eisa,dammit,if I lived in Utah I'd drive you (I'm in a Four Corners state).I'm an embittered old man-thing that would spend the whole time grousing about it though

[Eisa]

Eisa,dammit,if I lived in Utah I'd drive you (I'm in a Four Corners state).I'm an embittered old man-thing that would spend the whole time grousing about it though

Nah, like THAT, it's ok. *snickers* That would be awesome...and probably very funny.

[AccountingDrone]

Glad you are getting a ride =)

[clubfoot and similar issues run in the family to varying degrees, I spent from just after birth to about 4 years old wearing a bar brace to bed to 'cure' an excessive pigeon toe issue that really didn't work all that well]

[Taboo]

I'm glad you're going to be able to get there, that's awesome! I really hope you can get some info from this specialist, and I'm sure that even if the news isn't great, at least it'll be a relief to know you went and tried.

Also, your mother increasingly makes me angry, heh. I just think that once you have kids, their health is way more important than your own whims - apparently she missed that memo!

[Teysa]

I'm so glad you were able to get a ride out there. I hope everything works out and the doctor is able to give you some good news.

[Peppergirl]

I'm very glad you got a ride! And your mother...well, I think I'll just stay quiet.

Would not be good for a mod to say what I'm thinking and go against the rules of the forum.

Please keep us posted! Fingers crossed!

[teh_blumchenkinder]

yeah, peppergirl, that's why I left it at "she makes me itch."
YAY EISA. I really hope you find what you want, and what you need. I hope you also get to enjoy the pretty scenery.

[JustaCashier]

Cool!


Keeping fingers crossed that the rest of this journey goes as smoothly!

Mike

[Seshat]

Best of luck, and I hope the trip goes very well.

I also hope the specialists can offer options that you (and the other girl!) can work with!

[Eisa]

Heh, heh, heh. People can tell me what they think of my mother, if they like. I've never told the story of my family have I...probably more Fratching territory than here.

ANYWAY...I have returned!

Oh my GAWD, that was awesome. The drive up was a little sucky. It ended up being with the Russian girl and her mother. Lordy, they can fight! In Russian, no less. But it wasn't so bad. I did have to pee super bad by the time we got to Sun Valley, so it was like...OMG just find a place, I don't care if it's the right place, I gotta GO!

Met up with Dr. H. Her mom and I had found the bathroom--and apparently Dr. H just walked up behind M. and tapped her on the shoulder. I would have jumped a million miles in the air.

The expert guy came down. I got to see M.'s feet. She never had any surgery on her feet, so they were pretty bad. She said she was envious of mine.

But it was so cool. Because the expert guy knew exactly what was wrong with my feet, exactly what surgical procedure had been used, exactly where the problems were now, AND exactly what surgery would fix it. [A medial triple surgery.] He also said I had arthritis in my feet. And that he used to do the procedure the doctor in TX used on my feet, but doesn't anymore...because it results in the same problems I have now. Almost wanted to defend the surgeon back then lol, it was about 22 years ago, you know? Can't imagine how awful my feet would be now if I hadn't had surgery.

He also knew what was up with M.'s feet and how to fix them, too. And he acted like for both of us, the surgery would not be that big of a deal. Like...we could go to WA on a Thursday for pre-stuff, get surgery done on Friday, come back home either Saturday night or Sunday, depending on how we're healing up. Although he did say what would probably happen is surgery on one foot, wait for it to heal up, and then 6 months maybe later, do the other foot. That works ok for me because my feet are at different stages--the major one is my right foot, as you can tell if you refer back to the picture on page 1. For M., that sucks because both feet are equally bad. BUT...I can see their point.

AND Dr. H. then said that he would find every opportunity and option for both of us to pay for the surgeries, cuz he knows we're all poor. So that hopefully...out of pocket expense for the surgery would basically be free. I am SO excited right now! It seems like it is a really easy basic kind of thing to do at this point, and that I NEED to have it done. He said that I don't have a lot of movement at all in my feet. And that I shall probably need ankle replacement in the future.

BUT...with this surgery, he said I would be able to walk flat instead of walking on the outsides of my feet. Honestly, I almost want to now. Maybe it's a simple little thing, not wearing your shoes out by walking on the outsides of them. But...it would be SO freaking awesome. So, so, so, so freaking awesome.

Kudos and to expert guy, he is AMAZING. I can see why he's the expert, he knew exactly what he was looking at and what to do.

And if it's all/mostly paid for, my parents can't even bitch about it. [As they were earlier already. ] SWEET!